Monday, July 24, 2017

Happiness Is a Choice




“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
-Wayne Dyer

Lately, I am living in my head a lot. I am worrying about the future and forgetting that I can choose my reactions to change. My husband’s seventeen-year-old daughter, Andrea, will soon join our family.  I am excited to include her in our family, but I am also nervous. Our family is now four people— my daughter, Miranda, who is nine; my son, Julian, who is sixteen; my husband; and myself.  We will become a family of five. It’s a change in my life that I am adjusting to. I have some fears and doubts about this change.  I worry what will happen if Andrea does not click or connect with me or other family members. I know it’s normal to have fears and doubts about the unknown, but I also know about the power of choice. I can choose to have negative expectations or positive ones; to fight this change in my life or embrace it; to struggle against the current or let events flow; to let my fears consume me or to acknowledge my fears and confront them. We all have this immense power of choice, but few use it or understand how it works. Here are three tips on how you can choose your reactions to change.

I have the choice to stay positive.
                Let me be clear. You have the power to decide how change affects you. Right now, I have the power to decide that I am not going to get ahead of myself and let negative, fearful emotions take away my peace. I am going to stay focused on expecting a beautiful relationship with my new daughter. Positivity is where we discover true magic, and it’s my choice to embrace it. Stay positive about your life changes. Yes, change is hard, but it also teaches us something about ourselves.

I can choose to be unafraid.
                Acknowledging my fears reminds me that I am human. It’s okay to worry and wonder. I can be afraid, yet I can reduce my fear with thoughts of love. My worst-case scenario of Andrea not liking her new family disappears when I give my fear a name. In this case, my fear is that Andrea will not connect with me or someone else in her new family. Once I have identified the fear that is bothering me, I can shift it. I remind myself that we are a pretty amazing family, and that she will love us. Call your fears out. Name and understand them. Your fears are not intended to hold you back, but to be noticed and  conquered.

I can choose to be happy.
I also have the choice to be happy. I have the choice to focus on the present moment—the right now. But if I do feel the need to project myself into the future, then I will seek only happy thoughts. You also have the power to be happy. It is your right to find joy in your present moment. Let the future take care of itself. You do not need to postpone happiness until the future. The future is not guaranteed. Only this moment matters, so choose happy now!

                Many will go through life experiencing themselves as victims of every new circumstance that shows up. Let me remind you that you have a choice about how you react to everything that happens. You have a choice to let optimism lead you forward or to let pessimism hold you back. Embrace positivity in everything that comes your way. Choose to acknowledge fear, but don’t let fear hold you back. Invite happiness into your present moment. Choose to live in the now, and let joy be your companion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!                                  
Nancy😊


Monday, July 17, 2017

It Takes Courage to Surrender


"Sometimes surrendering means giving up trying to
understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."
-Unknown

Have you ever tossed and turned all nightlong wondering if you would get a job that you applied for, or if a business deal would come through? This used to happen to me in the past. I would wake up tired, because I had been tossing and turning, wondering if a speaking or coaching contract would or would not happen. I would often feel anxious, scared, and tired, until I finally concluded that I had to surrender to not knowing. I have had a tough time with surrendering, because I learned that I must never give up and that I must fight till the end. I teach this to my clients all of the time. Yet, there is so much power in letting go and trusting the universe that no matter what happens we will be okay. We live under this illusion that we can control everything that happens in our lives, but I have news for you. We can’t. When you try to control things outside of your control, you are exhibiting a fear-based mentality. It’s natural to have some doubts and worries about your world, but they don’t make things any better. In my case, worrying about whether I would get speaking and coaching contracts used to take away my peace of mind. Now, I don’t worry about rejections, or “no’s.” I see them as detours to the possibility of something better. I have learned to surrender and trust that everything is working in my favor. I believe that only the right doors will open, and that I must trust and be patient. Today, let’s talk about letting go and surrendering your desires to the universe, so that you may find more joy and peace in your journey to success.

To surrender does not mean to give up.
To surrender is to have faith in something greater than yourself. Surrendering is telling your source to take the wheel because you have done everything in your power to accomplish your goal or dream. When you surrender, you are giving up fear. Many of us have believed that when you let go, you are giving up. The truth is that you are giving the universe an opportunity to have your back. You are trusting that whatever happens is part of a better plan for your life. Something awaits you that is more amazing than what you originally dreamt of. Do everything that you can to acquire your dreams and goals. Then understand that there is power in letting your source, the universe, take over.

Let go of expectations.
In accordance with the law of attraction, we are energy, and the energy you send out will be reflected back onto you. When you have no attachment to a specific result or outcome, you open yourself up to all sorts of wonderful possibilities. Letting go of expectations and the struggle to control outcomes will bring you peace and calm. And you will be amazed at what the universe has in store for you!

Conquer your fears.
It takes courage to surrender. What do you fear will happen if you let go? In my case, I felt that if I did not worry about a business deal, I would lose it. The truth is that I was letting fear control me. I still don’t know what will happen with any of my business ventures, but I know that I will be fine no matter what happens. Conquer your fears by surrendering any doubts that everything will work out for the best. In the end, everything works out for the best, or it’s not the end.

To let go is to set yourself free.
I feel so relieved and free. I am no longer the prisoner of “what ifs.” I am content and excited about what will be. You need to set yourself free by surrendering any doubt. Let it go. Go with the current and not against it. Life is not that hard; we  make it hard by trying to control everything in it. Trust in the universe—in your source. Know that life wants only the best for you!
I am a work in progress. I had been taught to fight to the end, and this brought a great deal of resistance into my life. As I learn to trust that the universe is my friend and that it has my back, I discover more joy and peace. Letting go has not been easy, yet it has made me wiser. Let go of the fears that hold you back, and have faith that the universe has your best interests in mind. Foster the positive energy of surrender, and let go of the toxic energy of controlling to live a peaceful, joyous life. Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

Sending many blessings your way!

Nancy😊


 [DM1]Boy, is this true!

Monday, July 10, 2017

How to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck



“I would rather die of passion than of boredom.”
-Vincent Van Gogh

Last week, at a networking event, someone asked me what I did for a living. I responded, “I help people come alive.” “How do you do that?” they then asked. “I help individuals identify their passion, so that they can pursue their life’s purpose,” I said. “Don’t you think passion is overrated?” they asked next. “No, I don’t think so,” I answered. “I believe that if people pursue their passion and live in purpose, they will find more meaning in their lives and be happier. According to a Gallup poll, seventy percent of people hate their jobs or are disengaged at work. I believe that when people do what they love, they give their best work and will never feel disengaged. These people understand that they are the creators of their lives. They have discovered the connection that their passion has with their life’s purpose, and they are always ready to give their gift to the world. I am passionate about empowering individuals, women specifically to believe that they can pursue their passion. Therefore, I don’t think living passionately is overrated.” The person asked me no more questions after that. Today, I want to talk about passion and how it is the gateway to a life of joy. Here are three tips for letting passion take the lead in your life.

Identify what brings you joy.
What brings me joy is empowering the human potential. I love seeing people pursuing what makes them come alive. I get chills when I see someone doing what they love for a living. I see the creativity in individuals when they are using their unique talents to help others. One person’s talent might be making jewelry. In making jewelry, they bring beauty and joy to others.  Another person’s talent might be nursing and assisting in saving people’s lives. Again, using their gifts, they make this world a better place. What are your gifts? What brings you joy?

Put fear aside and pursue your passion.
I was afraid when I began pursuing my passion of personal development. I found it hard to leave a wonderful career as an educator to follow my purpose of personal development. My fearful ego voice tried to convince me many times that I should continue on my well-known path of teaching. It told me that there was nothing wrong with my life and that I was stupid for giving up a modest, but secure, income for something that had no real guarantees. Yes, I experienced sleepless nights when fear of the “what ifs” conquered me. I had no idea what it took to run a coaching business or how much work it required. However, if I was going to advise others to live their passion and I was not doing that myself, then I was being a hypocrite. So, I decided to take the plunge, leave my teaching position, and sink or swim! Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that you do what I did. I am suggesting that you take whatever step fits for you in pursing your passion.

Ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?”
Anything that is worthwhile requires some risk. In my mind, the worst that could happen when I decided to pursue my passion was that I would fail. That was scary! I continued to feel scared until I heard “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. If you have not heard this recording, I recommend that you look it up. Earl Nightingale reminded me that I was failing if I was not doing what I was passionate about. He also says that one fails if we stop pursuing our dreams. It’s important to understand that you will stumble and fall, but you will succeed if you fall forward and keep on moving. Also, you must remember that sometimes your worst failure only happens in your mind.

To conclude, I want to remind you that you are amazing, and you should never settle for a dull life. Seek passion, not only in your romantic relationships, but in every aspect of your life. Look at your life. How have you handled setbacks? If you are reading this, you have survived many trials and tribulations, and here you stand. Don’t doubt the power of your soul. When you go after your passion, you will develop courage and strength. Fight to believe in your life’s purpose! Never doubt that you have what it takes to go after your dreams, because if you didn’t you wouldn’t have these desires to begin with. It will not be easy. Failure and pursuing your passion go hand in hand. However, you fail everyday if you are not doing what you love. So, keep your head up, Buttercup, and follow your passion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy😊