Monday, June 19, 2017

Stay in the Present Moment


“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.
Always work with it not against it.”
-Eckhart Tolle

My father has been in the hospital for the past week. He has been losing a lot of weight and has had a persistent cough for a few months now, so finally at the request of his doctor he was admitted to UCSF Medical Center in San Francisco. His illness has taken a toll on the whole family. As the doctors give him different tests to try to figure out what is wrong with him, I am hopeful and optimistic that things will be okay. Yet, I can’t help but think about the worst-case scenario of his death. In my fearful mind, I am convinced that he will not get better and that our lives will be changed forever. I rationalize this by telling myself that his body is old and tired, and he already had a break eight years ago when he received a kidney transplant. I also remind myself that we have been lucky to have him alive and healthy for these last eight years. Even though my father and I don’t have a special father-daughter bond, his illness and the idea that I could lose him has made me depressed. I wonder what life without him would be like. He is a big part of my family tapestry. In my family, my mother is the one with the most influence, yet I can’t imagine how she would truly function without him. These are my thoughts and fears. But then I stop and remind myself that nothing is certain except this moment. At this moment, my father is still alive. At this moment, he is still with us. Why must I focus on a future that is not here yet? It’s part of human nature to want to get ahead of ourselves to try to protect ourselves from pain.  But, we must not get ahead of ourselves. We must take it a minute, hour, and day at a time. I don’t have a crystal ball that can tell me what will happen in the future. I only have the power to focus on the present moment. When the time comes that I must say goodbye to my father, I will welcome that moment with open arms, but I will not get ahead of myself now. Right now, I am grateful that he is being taken care of by some of the best doctors in the state. In this moment, I am grateful that he is still alive. Here are three tips for not getting ahead of yourself and for staying in the present moment.

You are not your fearful thoughts.
When I go into my head and embrace my fearful thoughts, things don’t get better; they get worse. If you are going through something difficult in your life, get a hold of your fearful thoughts. Understand that these thoughts are not real; they are only in your head. My worst-case scenarios are creations of my imagination. This doesn’t mean that these scenarios couldn’t happen, but at this moment they have not happened. So why should I stress about something that is only in my head? Let go of your fears by trusting that you will know how to handle any difficult situations when, and if, they ever happen.

Avoid worrying about the future.
Plan optimistically for your future and don’t worry about it. It is the job of the fearful mind to try to make you worry about worst-case scenarios. Many times, these worst-case scenarios never come to fruition. I believe that we must always stay in the present, but if you must consider the future only look at it with high hopes and stay positive. The future should never intimidate you. It should only inspire you.

Savor the moment.
To savor the moment is to be at peace with it. Peace is to be content with what is and not desire anything else in the present moment. As I savor my moments when I know my father is still in this world, I can’t wish that I could go back to when he was healthy. In life, there is no going back; there is only going forward. And in life, death is a form of moving forward. I am savoring life by being grateful for my health and the health of my husband and children. I am savoring life, one moment at a time.

Life can be beautiful one moment and ugly the next, so treasure the beautiful moments deeply, and don’t rush to the ugly moments in your thoughts. In this moment, I feel love and peace. For now, I will stay in this moment. Remember it’s okay to be optimistic and excited about your future, but always stay present. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings your way,
Nancy😊



Monday, June 12, 2017

What Voice Guides You?


"There is a voice that doesn't
use words. Listen."
 -Unknown

To balance the roles of mother, wife, and business owner, I need to connect deeply to my soul through listening to my intuition, or what I call the “spirit voice.” I have noticed that if I get busy and neglect this voice, I feel confused, tired, lost, and sad. The spirit voice knows what steps I need to take in my relationships, career, and business. All that is required from me to access this voice is to silence myself so that it may be heard.  As I continue my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking, I am getting more comfortable with my spirit voice. This quiet, subtle voice has whispered to me when something is wrong with an individual or a life choice. The spirit voice, or what some call our intuition, will also guide you in deciding if you want to take a grand leap of leaving a bad relationship, or a bad job. Here are three tips on how you can be guided by your powerful spirit voice. When you allow yourself to be guided by your spirit voice, you will be amazed at how your true path appears and the negative chatter disappears.

Trust your gut.
You have heard, “Trust your gut feeling,” right? Well, it’s that gut feeling I like to call your spirit voice. It’s the voice that tells you to take another road. Your spirit voice will advise you to leave that bad relationship or that bad job. It’s also the feeling that makes you uncomfortable with some people, but you can’t point out why. Trust that feeling; listen to that voice. Your spirit voice knows more than you will ever understand. It has seen your future and understands what your true path is. Trust your spirit voice, because it knows the way!

Meditation results in clarity.
When I meditated this morning, I could silence my negative voice, or what I call my ego voice, easier than some other days. I felt more alert. When I meditate for at least ten minutes a day, I notice that my spirit voice becomes a bit louder—not obnoxious and loud like my ego voice, but a bit louder and clearer. If you already meditate, you understand what I mean. If you don’t meditate, it will take practice to learn, but if you dedicate some time you will eventually get there. There are many resources online about how to meditate. I will offer some tips in future blogs. But for now, try to stay still for ten minutes, clear your mind, and focus on nothing. See what pops up. If negative, fearful thoughts appear, it’s the ego working on your mind. If loving, beautiful thoughts appear, it’s your spirit voice, your intuition. Go there!

Let the right voice guide you.
How do you know which voice is guiding you? As I already mentioned, the ego voice may be louder and obnoxious. The spirit voice may be calmer and subtle. Your reliable voice is the one that is affirming, but not necessarily loud. You feel a sense of calm and that you will be okay—that the universe has your back. On the other hand, the ego voice will remind you of your insecurities and can be cruel and demeaning. The ego voice wants to keep you a prisoner of the known and comfortable.  You probably heard this voice if you considered whether or not to leave a career that no longer fulfilled you. Your ego voice is lying to you when it tells you that you are not worthy of a new or better relationship. Which voice is governing your life choices?

Being intuitive and letting your spirit voice guide you is not always easy. It’s not easy because the spirit voice is not the most rational voice. Being rational is the role of the ego voice. The ego voice limits possibilities by telling you that you are not worthy of a dream or desire. Don’t despair. If you silence your mind and learn to love yourself, the spirit voice will step in to remind you that you are capable and worthy of all your dreams. So, you see, you have two different voices fighting to get your attention. One voice is loud and full of fear, and the other is calm and full of love and possibilities. It is your task to uncover the true voice that will guide you to your destiny. May it be the voice of your spirit ! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy:)