Monday, April 17, 2017

How to Celebrate Your Small Triumphs

"Celebrate your small triumphs
 as much as you celebrate your big ones."

-Nancy Salmeron

This weekend I went through a pile of files that I needed to organize two years ago. Have you had this happen to you? It’s all the work you have done. Work you have collected from workshops, seminars presentations, awards or certificates. In these files, I discovered my accomplishments and my failures of the past two years. It was rewarding to see all my major triumphs, but also humbling to see the mistakes and failures I have made. As, I looked back I remember how my failures took so much of my time and energy to get over. But I don’t ever remember celebrating or giving the same amount of time to my triumphs. On your journey to your becoming you will make many mistakes, but you will also have accomplishments that may seem minor, but that need to be celebrated as big triumphs. This weekend I realized that my focus has been so much on my mistakes and setbacks that I rarely celebrated my well-deserved accomplishments. As you pursue your dreams, remember that failures and mistakes are part of the journey to the peak of the mountain, but don’t forget to celebrate the small accomplishments. What I want to talk about today is how to give your triumphs and successes more of the spot light. I want to show you how to celebrate the small steps forward more often and how to learn, but dwell less on the setbacks. Here are three tips on how to celebrate more of your triumphs and how to move past your failures at a faster rate.

Decide that you are worthy of celebrating yourself.

To feel worthy of a celebration comes with the notion that you are worthy. In the past I have felt that I was not worthy of celebrating any major accomplishment, therefore minor accomplishments were never noticed. Today, for example I will watch one hour of TV when I am done with this blog post. I will meet with a friend for coffee to celebrate a “potential” coaching client, or “potential,” speaking engagement. I celebrate even if the reward is, “potential.” As you focus on your grand success, don’t forget that you are worthy of celebrating the big ones, but also the small ones. Remember you work hard and you should reward yourself always.

Let failure take the back seat.

You will fail, but let failure take the back seat. As I look back at these past two years I have failed many times. I have failed and learned, but I have also given failure too much of my time and energy. I am not saying you should not give attention to your failure so that you can learn from it. But please don’t dwell on it. Learn the lesson and move on.

Let success be your copilot.

My biggest mistake has been that I have never let success be my copilot. Failure has been my copilot. Reflecting, I understand what a big mistake that is, because I took away my belief in myself, it made me doubt myself. What I do now is celebrate my success, no matter how small. For example, a few weeks ago I had the opportunity to share my Believe. Change. Become. program for girls to a school district. I did not get a definite yes, because the school year will be ending. I got a potential yes for the next school year. The truth is I felt like a winner regardless because I had the opportunity to share my program. This just fueled my passion for my program more. I celebrated myself for taking initiative to share it and was very happy for this small step. In the past I would have looked at my failure of not selling my program, today I celebrated that I have a program that will benefit many young girls in schools.

In conclusion, learn from your mistakes and move on, don’t stay there too long. Dedicate your time to rewarding yourself for your smallest successes and celebrate the big ones too! You are worthy of these celebrations and everything that is coming. Until next Monday Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, April 3, 2017

To BECOME is to Remember

It's never about BECOMING anything.
It's always about remembering who you were
destined to be.

-Nancy Salmeron

Last week I went to a networking event. I was asked about the name of my company Believe. Change. Become. I was asked how clients or individuals BECOME. I clarified that we don’t really become, we remember who we were intended to be by believing and changing. The becoming part we always have inside of us. I was asked to clarify further, so I did. I explained that as children, we have this grand view of what we desire for our lives. But as we grow older we become more skeptical and more practical and never pursue it. We are reminded by our parents and peers that we need to take that path of least resistance. That the less traveled path is less traveled for a reason. We are told that we need to fear the unknown. We lose ourselves, we forget who we are. My program teaches individuals about shifting a doubt mindset into a believe mindset. It validates that everything we need to be successful in this world is always inside of us. But first we must BELIEVE that what we desire is possible. Then we must CHANGE the old way of thinking and behaving to BECOME. Here are four tips to awaken your becoming.

Connect with an inner child.

Do you remember what made you come alive as a child? As a child, I used to be a problem solver. I loved listening to friends, cousins, and family member’s stories and trying to help them solve them. I loved being my friend’s cheerleaders and always being there for them. As a child, I wanted to be a teacher and did that, but what I forgot was that I wanted to be a teacher of life. My becoming had to do with remembering that I loved talking and questioning life. When I connected the dots, and realized that my life’s purpose had to do with personal development I affirmed that I always had what I was seeking.

Believe in what you are seeking.

Once you have connected with that inner child you must believe that what you desire is your purpose. To believe is to change the way the mind works. It’s staying optimistic and having no doubt that what you desire will become a reality. When I first started to believe in my dreams, I had no idea where they would take me. For a long time I lived in fear of failure. When you believe in your dreams you understand that you will fail, yet you do it afraid. When you believe, you may be the only one that sees your dream and that is OK. When you truly believe, you ignite that flame to your inner becoming. Believing is one of the hardest steps, but when you do there is no limit to what you can accomplish.

Change, change, change.

The next step to awakening your becoming is to change not only your mind, but you may also need to change the people and things around you. Change is essential to conquering your dreams because they put action into believing. You can believe in your dreams all you want but if you don’t put action into them it will not matter. I was very drastic in my changes. I resigned from my teaching career and took that full leap into personal development, inspirational speaking. It was not easy, but it worked for me. Would I recommend for you to quit your job and take that grand leap? Only you know how to embrace change. I have discovered that for some people going all in works. But for others it requires baby steps. Change is change not matter how big or small. Embrace it and just do it!

To BECOME is to remember.

When I first founded my company, I believed that to BECOME was something that happened to you in the process, and in a way, it does. But, now I understand that you become the moment you decide to give your desires life. I also believe that when you remember the pack you had with your soul you also become. So, remember who you wanted to be because that is where it’s all at. You have it in you to fully change yourself and the world.

Do you remember who you were always destined to be? If you said yes to this question good for you. If you don’t know let me help you on your journey to your becoming. Feel free to contact me at with any questions. Until next time, BELIEVE anything is possible for you, understand that you will CHANGE in the process to BECOME or remember who you were destined to be.