Monday, May 22, 2017

Your Critics Will Never Be in the Ring

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“A critic is a man who knows the way
but can’t drive the car.”
-Kenneth Tynan

In my family, we follow many traditions throughout the year. One tradition that we have during the summer is to get together for a barbecue and watch boxing. I am not fond of boxing. I think it is a brutal sport, but I love connecting and catching up with friends and family. Last week we got together for the Canelo Alvarez vs. Julio Cesar Chaves fight at a friend’s house. Usually, I keep myself busy with other things when the fight starts. I find any excuse to leave for a while. I run to the store to get some wine, dessert, or anything else that comes to mind. But this time I did something different. I stayed. Yes, I decided that I would stay and not just watch the fight but observe my family and friends watching the fight. I wanted to discover what all the fuss was about and why we have not evolved from the ancient Roman times. Just like in the Roman colosseum, family and friends yelled, and cursed when the boxer they favored was not meeting their expectations. It appeared to me that they transformed from being spectators to being boxing coaches.  They became the experts and the critics. For the most part, everybody wanted Canelo to win. Everyone yelled and cursed at him when they thought that he was not giving one-hundred-percent. And they all laughed at his opponent and his performance. Then I got it! We all had become harsh critics, even though we would not make it through one round in the ring. This experience made me think about the harsh critics that we encounter as we follow our dreams. People that are not in the ring will tell you how crazy and stupid you are for going after a life goal or passion. Here are three tips for overcoming harsh critics.

There is a reason that your harshest critics are not in the ring.
I have had many harsh critics on the road to my dreams. Just like the critics in your life, the people that are yelling at the boxer couldn’t be in the ring because they don’t have the drive or passion to pursue such a lofty ambition. From the outside of the ring they become experts because being a critic does not require great skills. On the other hand, it takes special talents and abilities to be a boxer. Only the athlete in the ring knows the strategy for when to punch or not to punch that we see in the ring. If we compare life to boxing, we find that our harshest critics think they know what our fight is about. But they have no idea. It’s easy to yell and curse at the boxer for not punching enough, or for avoiding a punch, when we are not in the ring. And it’s easy for others to criticize you. But remember, they are not in the ring. You are.

Only listen to people that have your best interests in mind.
When I think about the boxer, the only one that has the right to be a critic is the boxing coach. Only the coach knows what the boxer is capable of and what the strategy is. Even people that love you may want to discourage you from pursuing your dreams and goals. They believe that they are incapable of acquiring their dreams so they assume you can’t either. This belief exists because of who they are. It has nothing to do with you. People who love you may have the best intentions, yet know who your true coaches are, listen to them with care, but always take the advice of your soul because it knows the true fight you must win.

When all else fails, ignore them.
If you can’t delete your harshest critics from your life, simply ignore them. Don’t give them the power to hold you back. Ignore what they tell you and move on. I ignore those who doubt my dreams and ambitions by incorporating humor. I can laugh doubts away by not taking everything to heart. For example, when one of my harshest critics once told me that the world already had a Latina Oprah named Cristina, I told her that the world never had a Latina Oprah named Nancy Salmeron. I let it roll and laughed it away.

Boxing champions in the world are few, but the arena is filled with thousands of spectators and critics. There is a reason they are in the arena and not in the ring. Remember, you can’t listen to those that don’t know who you are or have lived your journey. Ignore those who doubt your dreams and don't forget that champions of the world are few. Be the champion of your life by not listening to outside critics and staying in the ring long enough to see your dreams come true. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending blessings your way,
Nancy😊

Monday, May 15, 2017

A Fulfilled Life and Passion


“Always go with your passion.
Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.”
-Deepak Chopra

There is a big debate on whether following your passion equates to a fulfilled life. When I share with some people that I gave up my career as an educator to follow my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking I get many different responses. Sometimes I get the, “Wow that is amazing!” stare. Other times I get the, “Have you lost your marbles?” stare. What is better: To go into the unknown, experience uncertainty and chaos, and be the creator of your life; or to be content with a life that you did not purposefully create? Today I want to look at these two viewpoints because they both have validity.  Here are three points to consider if you want to follow a passion-filled life.

Passion vs. Comfort.
To follow or not to follow your passion. That is the question. Following your passion is one of the most difficult things you will ever do. For some people like myself, it required giving up the comfortable, content lifestyle of a teacher.  It meant giving up a secure salary, a 401(k), summers and holidays off, and wonderful relationships. The first year was the hardest. I felt like a fish out of water. I mourned my old life, which had been practical and effortless. My daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly routine was gone. I cried at times. I wondered if I had made a mistake. But despite all of this I felt I could not go back. The idea of going back felt suffocating. I have wonderful memories of my life as an educator, but they are that—memories. I know that my soul would not let me go back.

Following my passion has given me courage.
If you want to become more courageous, follow your passion. People who follow their passion must beat fear. Yes, it’s scary to go into the unknown and pursue something that has no real guarantees. But what in life really is guaranteed?  In a conventional job or career, you are never exempt from losing your job.  You may think following your passion is risky because you have responsibilities like children, a mortgage, and bills. To risk this is very scary, and the truth is that, in accordance with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, if you don’t have basic survival needs taken care of you won’t be able to focus on your dreams. With that said, start dedicating an hour a day to your passion, and if you need more time find a gateway job that will assist you until your passion can provide for you. That was not an option for me. I took a full leap of faith and left my teaching position because my soul would not have it any other way, and I have a wonderful husband who helps with the children, bills, and mortgage. Connect with your soul. What is it telling you? Take mini-steps to follow your passion, but please—take a step forward.

You may feel lost.
Listen, Beautiful, life is hard with or without a passion and just because you don’t follow a passion it does not mean that life and its’ difficulties won’t show up. They always do and will. Remember you are strong and wise enough to overcome every obstacle that life brings.  If you conform and settle for a life that does not inspire you, you have decided to give up the fight before you even get in the ring and you lose by default. Yes, following a passion adds a little more stress to your life, but it’s that stress that makes you grow. I can’t speak for all the people who have given up on their dreams and not followed their passion. But as a past conformist, I do know that I used to live a flat-lined life that made me sad. Today, there are many ups and downs in my life that remind me how much I desire to be aligned to my purpose. I am euphoric one moment and down the next and I love it! I love it because I know that I am on the right path.

Life is a gift that you give to yourself. You decide what you put into the gift box. Will it be a life full of adventure, meaning, purpose, and passion? Or will it be a life of contentment and comfort, based on fear? Yes, I have had many doubts about where I am going and even if I will get to my true destination. But I know that I have put into my gift box a life of connections with beautiful people, courage, patience, perseverance, and determination. So, the verdict is in. When I am on my deathbed, I will look back at my life and be proud to say that passion defined what my purpose was and that I did it my way. Listen, my friend—wake up to your true potential by connecting to your soul because your soul already knows what you are truly supposed to be. My soul has guided me toward realizing that I am supposed to remind you that you can overcome fear to live an authentic life full of passion and purpose. Believe in yourself and say yes to a life of your creation. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Nancy😊

Monday, May 8, 2017

Follow What Sets Your Soul on Fire



"Be Fearless in the pursuit of what set's your soul on fire."
-Unknown
A few days ago, I had a conversation with one of my soul sisters. Her soul reminds me of mine. We both have taken a leap of faith to pursue the unknown to discover our true calling. Our newly found calling includes being speakers and writers. Using different language, we cover some of the same topics. We have a special bond because our souls reflect each other. We both believe in uncovering the true human potential. In this conversation, we talked about our dreams, current milestones, stumbles, and failures. As we focused on our passion and our purpose we concluded that we will continue to do what makes us come alive regardless of the outcome. I told her that my journey to uncovering the true human potential has been the best one yet. I told her that I would speak about living in purpose and following your dreams for free because I loved it so much. She told me that she would continue to write even if her daughter was the only one who read her material. It was then that I realized that when you follow your passion and pursue your purpose you will do it for the joy of it and not for the money. I love this woman and I know that she is a powerful writer who needs to be heard by the world. Yet, I also know that what she said is true, because just like her I am authentically living in purpose and I have discovered joy not in the material things but in my essence which contributes to my purpose.  Here are three tips for clarifying if you are living in purpose or simply existing.
Purpose is found in the things you obsess about.
Empowering people to live authentic lives makes me come alive. I am obsessed with helping people to believe in their dreams. I believe that some of the desires you obsess about can connect you to your purpose. What do you obsess about? Is it creating pretty places in your home? If so, your purpose may be in interior design. Is it upgrading family recipes? Then, you may want to become a chef. Whatever your obsession may be, pay attention to it. Your soul is trying to point out your reason for being here on this planet. Don’t ignore it because it is not practical. If you love dancing, dance yourself to becoming a dance instructor, or simply do more of it!
What are you a natural at?
We are all good at something. I am a natural at connecting with people. I love being around people and feel that communicating with individuals comes very easily to me.  My connection with people and the fact that I love to talk makes it effortless for me to convey my message of pursuing dreams. Think about the things that come easily to you. Are you a natural diplomat, networker, or leader? Pay attention to what comes easily to you because being in your purpose feels effortless.
Where do you bring value?
I believe that our soul is a gift to the world because it’s within our soul that we discover what the meaning of our lives is. You are not an accident. You are intended to contribute the gift of your purpose to the world. I bring value to others by pushing them to be effective leaders, follow their goals, and make their dreams come true. As I empower others to believe in themselves I connect more to my reason for living. Your purpose does not have to consist of changing a million lives. Your purpose may be found in impacting one life. The value you bring may consist of bringing peace, joy, or contentment to others. The value you bring is also found in the value you give yourself. So, remember to believe in yourself and know that you are no accident and that your life has meaning.
In conclusion, I want to emphasize that living in purpose requires you to understand your self-worth. It also means that you must take responsibility for your life. Your life is a gift and your gifts should be shared with others. Your obsessions and what feels natural to you can point you to your true calling if you pay attention. In the end, living in purpose is about realizing that you are no accident and that your life ‘purpose will soar when you bring value to other people’s lives. Unleash your authentic self and connect to your reason for being here by pursuing your purpose.  Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.


Nancy😊

Monday, May 1, 2017

Don't Wish for Things to Change be Patient


"Two things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, 
and your attitude when you have everything."
-Unknown
Yesterday I had one of those days that make you want to scream—a day that makes you want to crawl back into bed and stay there! I have been dealing with a bit of back pain because of stress from some issues with my house. Due to the tumultuous weather we have been having, some parts of the roof on my home have missing shingles which resulted in leaks in the kitchen, garage, and living room. I have flooring, ceilings, and a roof that needs pairing. I have been feeling hopeless these last couple of weeks because the rain has not stopped so that the construction can begin. According to my husband (who knows about these things) repairing roofs, floors and ceilings is not an overnight job, and I needed to be patient. So, I started speaking to God and asking for patience. I did not want that roof fixed or my back pain to disappear. I just wanted patience to endure what I needed to endure with grace. I felt ridiculous because I know that there are bigger problems in the world and that missing shingles or damaged flooring is something that will eventually get fixed. Then it hit me! If I had only one wish, my wish would be to develop the virtue of patience. I started to realize that all my major problems have always been solved in one way or another and that I had no reason to suffer. My suffering comes from my lack of patience—my wanting things to get fixed now! Today, I want to dedicate this post to patience. With patience, anything is possible. With patience, you will make your dreams come true! Here are three tips on developing calmness and perseverance in your life by embracing patience.

Admit that you are impatient.
The first step to changing anything in your life is to admit that you have a problem. I used to believe that I was perfect and that patience was one of my top virtues. Now I have recognized my problem and I’m trying to do something about it. When you admit that impatience is a problem, don’t mistake it for procrastination. Patience isn’t about sitting idle and waiting for things to happen. It’s about understanding that the best things in life do require work and dedication, but they won’t be done overnight.

Develop the ability to embrace waiting.
Embrace waiting by not getting caught up in your emotional impulses. I embrace waiting by being present and mindful of my thoughts and actions. For example, yesterday I needed to step back and see my situation from another angle. When you feel that you need to have something done this moment, step back and relax. Focus on your breathing if you need to and visualize things working out. Be mindful of your thoughts and actions.

Analyze the situation and decide the next steps.
As I analyze my home situation and realize that it’s not a life or death matter, I am able to relax. I know my roof and floors will get done in due time and all I can do is be patient. If you have something else that you can be doing as you embrace waiting, do it. If not, relax and let things work out at their own pace. Trust me, things will get done. When you are impatient with a person, be mindful of your thoughts and understand that everyone is working at their level.  You can journal your thoughts or feelings about a situation. Find possible solutions and next steps, and then let it go.

Life can be overwhelming, but it’s up to us to center ourselves and to surrender the idea that things must happen now. As I let go of time expectations I discover more peace in my life. Yes, things will fall apart and take you off the journey to your becoming, but eventually things will come together the way they were meant to. As I go into my kitchen and see the destruction of the ceiling and floors I also remind myself to look at my beautiful white cabinets that were not ruined. These minor setbacks that can take away our patience can also direct our attention to the blessings in our lives. I have wasted precious time and energy focusing on what is not working in my life, but these moments were also perfect. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

Nancy😊

Monday, April 17, 2017

How to Celebrate Your Small Triumphs




"Celebrate your small triumphs
 as much as you celebrate your big ones."

-Nancy Salmeron

This weekend I went through a pile of files that I needed to organize two years ago. Have you had this happen to you? It’s all the work you have done. Work you have collected from workshops, seminars presentations, awards or certificates. In these files, I discovered my accomplishments and my failures of the past two years. It was rewarding to see all my major triumphs, but also humbling to see the mistakes and failures I have made. As, I looked back I remember how my failures took so much of my time and energy to get over. But I don’t ever remember celebrating or giving the same amount of time to my triumphs. On your journey to your becoming you will make many mistakes, but you will also have accomplishments that may seem minor, but that need to be celebrated as big triumphs. This weekend I realized that my focus has been so much on my mistakes and setbacks that I rarely celebrated my well-deserved accomplishments. As you pursue your dreams, remember that failures and mistakes are part of the journey to the peak of the mountain, but don’t forget to celebrate the small accomplishments. What I want to talk about today is how to give your triumphs and successes more of the spot light. I want to show you how to celebrate the small steps forward more often and how to learn, but dwell less on the setbacks. Here are three tips on how to celebrate more of your triumphs and how to move past your failures at a faster rate.

Decide that you are worthy of celebrating yourself.

To feel worthy of a celebration comes with the notion that you are worthy. In the past I have felt that I was not worthy of celebrating any major accomplishment, therefore minor accomplishments were never noticed. Today, for example I will watch one hour of TV when I am done with this blog post. I will meet with a friend for coffee to celebrate a “potential” coaching client, or “potential,” speaking engagement. I celebrate even if the reward is, “potential.” As you focus on your grand success, don’t forget that you are worthy of celebrating the big ones, but also the small ones. Remember you work hard and you should reward yourself always.

Let failure take the back seat.

You will fail, but let failure take the back seat. As I look back at these past two years I have failed many times. I have failed and learned, but I have also given failure too much of my time and energy. I am not saying you should not give attention to your failure so that you can learn from it. But please don’t dwell on it. Learn the lesson and move on.

Let success be your copilot.

My biggest mistake has been that I have never let success be my copilot. Failure has been my copilot. Reflecting, I understand what a big mistake that is, because I took away my belief in myself, it made me doubt myself. What I do now is celebrate my success, no matter how small. For example, a few weeks ago I had the opportunity to share my Believe. Change. Become. program for girls to a school district. I did not get a definite yes, because the school year will be ending. I got a potential yes for the next school year. The truth is I felt like a winner regardless because I had the opportunity to share my program. This just fueled my passion for my program more. I celebrated myself for taking initiative to share it and was very happy for this small step. In the past I would have looked at my failure of not selling my program, today I celebrated that I have a program that will benefit many young girls in schools.

In conclusion, learn from your mistakes and move on, don’t stay there too long. Dedicate your time to rewarding yourself for your smallest successes and celebrate the big ones too! You are worthy of these celebrations and everything that is coming. Until next Monday Believe. Change. Become.


Nancy😊

Monday, April 3, 2017

To BECOME is to Remember


It's never about BECOMING anything.
It's always about remembering who you were
destined to be.

-Nancy Salmeron

Last week I went to a networking event. I was asked about the name of my company Believe. Change. Become. I was asked how clients or individuals BECOME. I clarified that we don’t really become, we remember who we were intended to be by believing and changing. The becoming part we always have inside of us. I was asked to clarify further, so I did. I explained that as children, we have this grand view of what we desire for our lives. But as we grow older we become more skeptical and more practical and never pursue it. We are reminded by our parents and peers that we need to take that path of least resistance. That the less traveled path is less traveled for a reason. We are told that we need to fear the unknown. We lose ourselves, we forget who we are. My program teaches individuals about shifting a doubt mindset into a believe mindset. It validates that everything we need to be successful in this world is always inside of us. But first we must BELIEVE that what we desire is possible. Then we must CHANGE the old way of thinking and behaving to BECOME. Here are four tips to awaken your becoming.

Connect with an inner child.

Do you remember what made you come alive as a child? As a child, I used to be a problem solver. I loved listening to friends, cousins, and family member’s stories and trying to help them solve them. I loved being my friend’s cheerleaders and always being there for them. As a child, I wanted to be a teacher and did that, but what I forgot was that I wanted to be a teacher of life. My becoming had to do with remembering that I loved talking and questioning life. When I connected the dots, and realized that my life’s purpose had to do with personal development I affirmed that I always had what I was seeking.

Believe in what you are seeking.

Once you have connected with that inner child you must believe that what you desire is your purpose. To believe is to change the way the mind works. It’s staying optimistic and having no doubt that what you desire will become a reality. When I first started to believe in my dreams, I had no idea where they would take me. For a long time I lived in fear of failure. When you believe in your dreams you understand that you will fail, yet you do it afraid. When you believe, you may be the only one that sees your dream and that is OK. When you truly believe, you ignite that flame to your inner becoming. Believing is one of the hardest steps, but when you do there is no limit to what you can accomplish.

Change, change, change.

The next step to awakening your becoming is to change not only your mind, but you may also need to change the people and things around you. Change is essential to conquering your dreams because they put action into believing. You can believe in your dreams all you want but if you don’t put action into them it will not matter. I was very drastic in my changes. I resigned from my teaching career and took that full leap into personal development, inspirational speaking. It was not easy, but it worked for me. Would I recommend for you to quit your job and take that grand leap? Only you know how to embrace change. I have discovered that for some people going all in works. But for others it requires baby steps. Change is change not matter how big or small. Embrace it and just do it!

To BECOME is to remember.

When I first founded my company, I believed that to BECOME was something that happened to you in the process, and in a way, it does. But, now I understand that you become the moment you decide to give your desires life. I also believe that when you remember the pack you had with your soul you also become. So, remember who you wanted to be because that is where it’s all at. You have it in you to fully change yourself and the world.


Do you remember who you were always destined to be? If you said yes to this question good for you. If you don’t know let me help you on your journey to your becoming. Feel free to contact me at believechangebecome.com with any questions. Until next time, BELIEVE anything is possible for you, understand that you will CHANGE in the process to BECOME or remember who you were destined to be.

Monday, March 27, 2017

How Failures Move You Forward


"Giving up is the only sure way to fail."

-Gena Showalter

Robert F. Kennedy once said that, “That only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Do you believe this to be so? What is failure? Failure to me signifies growth. Failure to me shows me another way. Failure reminds me that nothing is constant and that we shall always keep moving forward. As I fail forward, I am reminded of my strength. As I fail forward, I am reminded of my conviction. Let’s talk about your failures and how you can learn from failure so that you too can fail forward. Here are three tips to conquering failure so that you are not off track with your life dreams and goals.

When you give up, you fail.

When going after a dream or life goal one thing I can guarantee you is that you will fail your way to it. Are you willing? If you answered yes, then you are one step closer to getting what you desire. If you are not willing to fail, you have failed without getting started. The truth about failing is that you only fail when you give up. Don’t give up, but most importantly don’t give up before you start.

Let failure be your teacher.

When I fail, I let failure become my teacher. Learn from your mistakes and try a different approach to getting what you desire. As I reflect on what I want for my life there are many lessons learned. I have learned to be patient with myself and that in the end I know the right way. I also learned I that must not drop my goals or dreams when I fail. That I simply have to change my approach. Remember, learn the lesson and move on!

Failure teaches you who your true friends are.

As I continue to fail forward you will see some friends go. When you fail, you will lose friends but you will also gain new ones. Don’t be afraid to let go of those anchors that don’t believe and hold you back. Keep the ones that support you and let go of the ones that were never real friends in the first place. Failure in the end will be the gift to your present and future relationships. All you must do is keep the friends that hold you tight as you fail and let go of the ones that walk away when you fail.


When you fail, you must surrender it to the past and move toward the future. Yes, like I mentioned before you must learn from your mistakes, but don’t dwell on them. Remember, that nothing is forever and that this too shall pass. Move into your amazing future with open arms.
I have learned that with failure also comes opportunity. I see and understand that if I had not failed forward my life would be very different. I needed to stumble and fall to learn to better move forward. When you fail be grateful for the experience shake it off and move on. Treat failure as a blessing in disguise and understand that without failure we would not ever reach that peak of the mountain. I hope you have a fabulous week and that your failures make you strong and push you to your destiny. Until next time Believe. Change. Become.

Nancy😊

Monday, March 6, 2017

How Positive Thinking Evokes More Happiness


"The energy of the mind is the
essence of life."

-Aristotle

“Why do these things always happen to me?” A potential client asked me. “Things never work out for me.” She continued.
“Stop and be mindful of your words.” I told her.

“My life changed when I started to be more conscious about my thoughts, words and actions. I am a believer that we are magnets of positive and negative energy. When we emit positive energy, we attract more positive energy. When we dwell on negative energy we attract more of it. Why don’t we focus on what is going right in your life to see if we can move into a more positive vibration? I promise you it feels better and you will be glad you did.” She agreed and the conversation ended in a very positive note.

Today I want to talk about how to attract positive energy in to your life. Here are some tips on how to stop circulating toxic negative thoughts and start circulating positive thoughts, that in return will reward you with a more positive life.

Self- love is key.
Some of the things you tell yourself you would not tell your worst enemy. Love and accept yourself as you are. When I coach clients about self- love I remind them of the many obstacles that they have overcome. What about you? What obstacles have you overcome? Be proud of all that you have done. Be proud of all your accomplishments.

Let love take lead.
There are two emotions that guide our lives love and fear. When love guides your life your energy flow is positive. When fear rules your life the energy flow is toxic. There are many doubts, many questions.  Let love be the antidote to fear.

Develop an attitude of gratitude.
To have positive energy flow let the universe know how much you appreciate what you already have. Be grateful for your breath, your health, home and loved ones. It’s these things that make you attract more blessings into your existence. What are your blessings? Make a list and be grateful for the health and well being that is coming your way.

Let go of past resentments.
It is time to let go of all past resentments. You don’t need to be a prisoner of the past or others.  It’s important that you learn the lesson so that you don’t repeat it, but you must move on.  When you release past disappointments, you will quickly move into a positive flow. It’s also important that you forgive yourself for mistakes you made in the past. Again, reflect and learn the lesson.

Choose your words wisely.
Your words set your reality in motion, therefore choose them wisely. Do not speak of words of lack only words of abundance. Do not speak of what could go wrong in your life, but what is right and what will go right. Your words and thoughts are powerful. Be mindful of what goes in your mind and out your mouth.

When we dwell on the negative we attract more of it. This will in return take away our positive energy and give us more negative energy. It starts in the mind, becomes words and take form in our actions. Be the creator of abundance by manifesting abundance, joy and love. See you next week where we delve deeper into how to develop an attitude of gratitude and why this is important to creating dreams. Until next time Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

Monday, February 27, 2017

How Dreams Take Us Forward



"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!
Live the life you've imagined."
-Thoreau

I used to believe that dreams where accomplished by lucky people, and that I was not one of them. For many years, I put my dreams on hold, to fulfill the dreams of my parents. Where are you with your dreams and goals? When I reflect on what I want to accomplish for my life, I am reminded that first must believe that those dreams and life goals are possible and that they will be attainable. Do you believe your dreams will come true? It is said that when you believe is your dreams you are half way there. I would agree with this statement one hundred percent! Today I want to share with you why this is so and how we could be on our way to making sure those dreams become a reality!

Don’t doubt your dreams or life goals.
The first step in believing in your dreams is to not doubt them. The second step is to believe in them. When you believe that it is possible for you to get that dream job, to meet that perfect man, to buy your dream job, the universe, God can’t help but conspire with you to make sure that it becomes a reality. Your optimistic view that this is not only possible but necessary is the fuel that your dreams need to start to fruition. It sounds very simple but this is the first step to igniting your dreams. As, I work on my dreams I am reminded that I once doubted them. I doubted that I could be the creator of my life, and that is why it took me twenty years to be on my purpose. Now that I believe in my dreams, and understand my purpose a stand taller, there is much more meaning in my life.

Action, action, action!
The second step in making your life goals or dreams a reality is to act. When you are working toward your dreams, you inform the universe that you are serious and in return the universe gets serious too. It’s what you put out that will be reflected to you. As I reflect on my success, on my fulfilled dreams I can see that everything resulted out of me putting my part to making it sure it would happen. For example, one of my dreams was to be a published author. But it would have stayed a dream if I had not put action to it. The universe supported this desire by connecting me with my amazing editor Debbie. I had the dream, I put action to it. Then the universe, God sent this amazing woman to make my dream of becoming a published author a reality. Thanks to her and my dedication to this project, this book will be released in the next few months.

Be flexible and patient.
I used to believe in rigid time lines. I used to believe that things had to happen on my time. Not anymore! Today, I like to ride with the flow and I don’t feel guilty about it. I believe in the flow because I have no doubt that dreams come true. The only thing I don’t know for sure is that I could pin point the date and time. I now understand acquiring dreams and life goals is not about that peak of the mountain, it’s about the journey. You stay in the journey when you practice gratitude for what you have and continue to work for what you desire. Don’t ever surrender, don’t ever believe that you have failed if your dreams don’t show up tomorrow. Your dreams need time to fruition. Be patient and enjoy the climb, because that is where you will spend most of the time.

My dream for you is to believe in your dreams. Don’t despair when they don’t show up on your rigid time line. The most important thing is that you keep on moving forward. Yes, evaluate the progress you are making, adjust your sails if you need to but keep with the ocean current.

Join me next week where I will discuss a bit further why it’s important to work on our energy flow and how this makes your dreams find you much easier. Until next Monday, I want you to BELIEVE anything is possible, understand that you will CHANGE in the process, to BECOME who you were destined to be!

Nancy:)

Monday, February 20, 2017

Believe. Change. Become.



"Follow your bliss.
Choose to live your passion
Find your true north."

-Nancy Salmeron

My name is Nancy Salmeron, I am the founder of BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME. Two years ago, I started writing on blogger. I introduced myself then, but today I want to reintroduce myself again so that you can better understand my mission and so you can to be aware of some of the changes that are coming. In my past life, I was an educator, in my current life I continue to teach, but now I am teacher of life. Today, I am an inspirational speaker, writer and a personal development coach.  I help individuals come alive by helping them identify their passion and supporting them with their dreams. My purpose for these posts is to support and empower you with your dreams and life goals. I also want to awaken you to the possibility that there are no limits for what you desire. That the limits you see are only in your mind. It is my mission to help you remember what your dreams were and to remind you that they are meant to be accomplished. It’s imperative that you understand that you first must BELIEVE in yourself and your dreams. Then you must act and apply CHANGE to BECOME who you were destined to be.

Currently, I blog every Monday and this will stay the same. To guide and support you with your dreams and life goals, I have decided to focus on a monthly theme. For example, starting next month I will focus on BELIEFS. You will learn why believing in yourself and your dreams is essential to making them come true. You will also be able to understand why certain beliefs can stop you from reaching those goals. We will work on your mindset. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube because, I will provide Transformational Wednesday videos on YouTube, daily motivational quotes on Instagram and on Facebook I will go live monthly with Q and A’ Fridays to support you with your BECOMING. I am very excited for these changes that will only enhance the possibilities for me to be more successful in getting you on your way to the life of your dreams.

I want to close by reinforcing that your life has a purpose. There is a reason you are here and it’s not just to pay bills and die. There is more to your life, you have a special mission you must accomplish. There is a special gift or talent that only you have that is a gift to the world. What makes you come alive? What is your reason for being here? My reason is to empower you to fulfil your destiny. My reason is to remind you that you are no accident, you are no mistake. The world is waiting for that special gift that could change the world. Your journey to the peak of the mountain, will not always be sunshine and rainbows, but it’s in the rain and thunderstorms that you will learn to dance. I believe that everything is possible for you. I also believe that only those who BELIEVE in their dreams, act and apply CHANGE will get to BECOME to fulfil their destiny. Let this be you. Will you join me to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME? See you next Monday!

Monday, February 6, 2017

Six Tips to Living a Life Without Regrets


"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count.
 It's the life in your years."

-Abraham Lincoln

What does it mean to live life without regrets? It is my belief that we make life harder than it really is. The older I get the more I understand that love should always be my compass. That staying in the moment will guide my future. That staying close to the ones you love make you happier. That going with the flow does not mean you can’t express your mind. And that in the end you have not lived unless you have pursued your dreams. This is what I believe is essential for living a life of joy. The order does not matter for me. What matter is that at the end of my life when asked if I lived a happy life, I can say without a doubt that I choose my life and I never settled for it. To expand on what I view is essential for a happy life read further.

Pursue your dreams and not the dreams of others.
To live a life that truly matters you must pursue your dreams, and not what your parents, family or friends desire for you. Some dreams may involve the material world, others come from the heart from seeking purpose and significance in your life. I define this as unique as your thumb print. Your true calling or purpose was given to you to follow it. It’s that special thing that makes you come alive. What makes you come alive? For me it’s empowering individuals to believe in their dreams and following their purpose. When I think about life purpose I understand that we have different callings. For some it’s to be an educator, doctor, scientist or mother. Your purpose does not have to be grand as to what society defines to be successful. To be successful in life you just need to follow your heart, follow your bliss. It’s doing what you want to do because you love it. If you want to be a mother and love that roll, pursue it with passion, and be the best mother possible.  Your purpose should do with what brings you joy and what contributes positively to others lives. How many people you impact does not matter. What matters is that you are making someone else’s lives better because you were born.

Work less and stay close to the ones you love.
Work less and spend time with the ones you love. Life tends to move fast. You have a child and like a blink of the eye ten years go by. Be cautious of your time. Dedicate time to the ones you love. Make a conscious choice to quality time with them. Yes, we get busy, but let go of the things that take away from bonding and loving your special people in your life. It is said that in our death beds we will regret the time we spent working but never the time we spent with the ones we love.

Go with the flow.
To go with the flow is to understand that you are being guided into what is best for you. Work for what you desire, but be wise enough to know when to surrender and go with the flow. As you go with the flow you will discover that there is a better plan for your life that you ever imagined. When you trust in God in the Universe you discover that life should not be so complicated, and that when you let go and trust life becomes effortless and more rewarding.

Express your mind.
To express your mind is to not die with ideas or thoughts that could change our world. Be mindful of your thoughts and express only those thought that empower and uplift others. Also, express your thoughts that will support love, empathy and compassion. When you do, you give the opportunity for others to do the same. Even if you have negative or fearful feelings know that you have the right to express them, don’t hold anger or resentment express it. Be open with your thoughts and world views but never impose them.

Enjoy each moment.
Savor every moment. Good or bad moments should be cherished because they are fleeting. Stay present and focused. As you live consciously every moment you realize that life is a beautiful thing. That even when pain and suffering make a visit, it too will transcend into something better. Stay in the moment, by telling reminding yourself that this is all you have. The past is gone. The future is never guaranteed the present is the only thing that we can count on.

Let love not fear lead the way
When you decide to be led by love, you will bring prosperity and joy to your life. If you choose fear you will bring uncertainty and hardship into your life. Love is the emotion that we are born with, but fear is what society and the world teach us. Let go of fear and embrace love. It feels better and it’s better for your health.

In conclusion, there is a purpose to your life and that is to live in joy!  You will find joy when you choose love and enjoy each moment. Express your mind, but also learn to go with the flow of life. Last, but not least remember to live in purpose because that is why you are here. Until next week Believe. Change. Become.

NancyJ

Monday, January 23, 2017

To Let Go of Anxiety You Must Live Now!


"No amount of regret can change the past.
No amount of anxiety can change the future."

-notsalmon.com

I have been dealing with a great deal of anxiety lately. I attribute it to what is going on politically with our country but also this very extreme weather. As far as the weather, the rain and the strong winds have taken one of my favorite trees down. I am sad for the loss of my favorite tree, but grateful that it did not land on the house. We have lost many shingles on our roof that resulted in some water leaks in our home. With pots and pans holding the water, I am blessed to still have a home. Yet, I am fearful of the cost of these repairs. In regards to the political climate in our country it has felt a bit dark and gloomy.  I understand that my fears are legitimate, yet I also understand that if I continue to live with these stressors I am bound have a very sad existence. I understand that we must be realistic, but when is it OK to let hope take over? I don’t know about you. But, I have felt that when one talks about hope it means that you have given up on the battle at hand. I know understand, that hope makes the impossible become possible. If we give up on hope, we may end up in despair. Today let’s talk about the things you can do when anxiety, fear and despair want to take over your life.

Acknowledge your feelings.
Your feelings are legitimate. Identify what is causing your anxiety. My anxiety was based on the weather that did cause damage on my property. My advice for you is to be clear on your fears and let them go. I had no control over mother nature, therefore I had to surrender to what could be.

Don’t project to far into the future.
When we are projecting too far into the future we tend to bring fear, uncertainty and anxiety into our lives. Yes, it’s a good thing to plan accordingly for your future. But don’t go too far into the future. Know that you will deal with it accordingly when you get there. But if you must go far into the future make sure that you see your future very bright.

Distract yourself.
Once you have identified all the things that could go wrong. Distract yourself, by focusing on the solutions. When you have done everything possible to find a solution to a problem you need to move forward. Also, engage yourself on activities that you love. Don’t let the fears consume you. Remember that worrying rarely leads to solutions. Take it easy on yourself. Let go and love yourself.

It’s all in the breath.
Learn to relax by letting go of anxiety by overseeing your breathing.  It’s this simple technique that gives you a sense of calm. Practice it with devotion when these fearful thoughts come to you.


Don’t let your worries stop you from living your life. These thoughts that want to take over your life half of the time are fear based. Let go of fear and embrace hope. Never forget your power. Know that whatever hardships you do encounter you will overcome. Don’t project to far into the future live your life now! Until next Monday Believe. Change. Become.

Monday, January 9, 2017

The Art of Being Present


"Do not stay in the past, do not dream of the future,
concentrate on the present moment."
-Buddha

It seems to me that we have lost the art of being present. Look around you when you are out having dinner or at a social gathering. What do you see? Everybody and their mother with a phone on their hand. And even when you have put the phone down, where are you? Are you fully engaged in the moment or are you thinking about the argument you had with your spouse the night before? Or you are projecting yourself to the future by wondering what your encounter will be like with your significant other when you get home? Regardless, you are not fully present. You are either projecting yourself to the past, or future but you are not in the moment. It has been my experience that when we don’t learn to stay in the present we take potential beautiful moments from our lives. Here are three tips to being more present and living a full life.

Feel your breath.

I have discovered that when I meditate and focus on my breathing it brings me to the present moment. I believe that you should apply the same practice to your everyday. When I focus on my breathing, it brings me back to the present moment. Try it when you have projected yourself to the past or future. See the difference it makes in your present moment. I know that when I do this it centers me and brings me a sense of peace and calm. By feeling my breath, I can focus on the people and events that are happening now. So, pause periodically throughout the day and feel your own breath.

Nurture relationships by staying present.

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or family member and have been half way there? You hear what they are saying but you are thinking about the party you are planning for your child. You may also be contemplating what the response will be when they are done talking. Thus, you have missed half of what they have said. It is very common to do this, because we want to prove to the person speaking that we are listening. The fact is that we were hearing what they said, but we were never really listening. My suggestion is for you to stay focused, don’t worry about you listen to what they are saying. The truth is that for the most part we all seek to be heard more than to be talked too.

Be grateful.

Staying present and being grateful go hand in hand. I am amazed at what happens to me when I count my blessings. It brings me to the present moment. Look around you. What are you grateful for? I am grateful for my children, husband, home, trees and all the people that believe in me. When you see all the amazing things that are in your life, you can’t help but be in the present moment. They don’t always have to be big things, sometimes it’s the little things like a sip of coffee in a cold morning. Another suggestion is to write your blessings down. Start with five every morning and add to your list throughout the day. Be present to discover your blessings.

In conclusion, when we stay present and live in the moment you discover an abundant life. Being present is a magnet for happiness and joy, because it makes you aware of all your blessings. As you move into a more prosperous you, don’t forget to count your blessings and stay in the present moment. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
NancyJ


Monday, January 2, 2017

Be The Director of Your Life Movie


"Live your life like your are the hero in your movie."

-Unknown

Happy New Year! Many blessings to you and your loved ones. What lessons will you take with you from 2016? Who are you leaving behind? What brought you joy in 2016? What brought you pain or disappointment? I believe that it is essential to reflect on these questions, so we don’t repeat past mistakes. So, we can get the toxic people out of our lives. It’s OK to forgive others for past pain or disappointment, and it’s also OK to exclude them from your life. As far as happiness, keep doing those things that bring you love and joy. Why change what is working? But seek change in what does not bring you happiness.

What brings me joy are intimate moments of connection with my loved ones. Pursuing my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking. I find joy knowing that I am the creator of my life. That I am the director of my movie. I have the main role and even if I can’t always control how well others play their role, I can always eliminate them from my movie. You can do the same. Here are three tips for making the best movie of your life this far.

Identify what type of movie you want for your life.
As I realize the power we all have to create an Oscar winning movie. I am filled with gratitude and joy for all the blessings in my life. I see the wonderful people that have come into my life as well as ones that must exit my life. I also understand that before they exit, it’s OK to forgive them for any pain or disappointment they brought into your life. It’s never about you it’s about them. As, you let go a new sense of meaning and peace will emerge into your life. Let go of the people and things that don’t bring you calm and surround yourself with individuals that do. Remember it’s your movie and you pick your supporting actors.

What obstacle will you conquer?
What is the major obstacle or fear you want to overcome? Something that I constantly work for in my life or movie is to surrender. As a personal development coach, it’s not as easy to do because I teach perseverance, pushing forward, never giving up. The essentials for success. Yet, I have realized that too much effort can make things stale. I want to focus on a more relaxed positive energy that will attract wonderful thing into my life. Having goals, and meeting them is essential. But what is more essential is to stay present, enjoy each moment and continue to push forward.

It’s about optimism.
When things fall apart in your movie as they often do. Remember that you can change the plot by staying focused on the goal and staying positive. I know that with every thunderstorm that appears a rainbow will appear. Knowing that there is always a happy ending to your movie is a matter of optimism and positivity. Always reflect amidst the storm, and don’t forget that things will always get better. When you do, your life changes and your movie becomes a great one!

I am excited about this new year. I am ready for all the wonderful people and gifts it will bring. Remember you are the director, the creator of your life. You are powerful beyond measure. Love, peace and harmony are ready to for you. Seek them out! There will be many obstacles, plot changes, elimination of characters and this is ok. As a creator of your life this is the fun part. Understand what you want your legacy to be. Define what your purpose for this year is and go after it. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ