Monday, July 24, 2017

Happiness Is a Choice

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
-Wayne Dyer

Lately, I am living in my head a lot. I am worrying about the future and forgetting that I can choose my reactions to change. My husband’s seventeen-year-old daughter, Andrea, will soon join our family.  I am excited to include her in our family, but I am also nervous. Our family is now four people— my daughter, Miranda, who is nine; my son, Julian, who is sixteen; my husband; and myself.  We will become a family of five. It’s a change in my life that I am adjusting to. I have some fears and doubts about this change.  I worry what will happen if Andrea does not click or connect with me or other family members. I know it’s normal to have fears and doubts about the unknown, but I also know about the power of choice. I can choose to have negative expectations or positive ones; to fight this change in my life or embrace it; to struggle against the current or let events flow; to let my fears consume me or to acknowledge my fears and confront them. We all have this immense power of choice, but few use it or understand how it works. Here are three tips on how you can choose your reactions to change.

I have the choice to stay positive.
                Let me be clear. You have the power to decide how change affects you. Right now, I have the power to decide that I am not going to get ahead of myself and let negative, fearful emotions take away my peace. I am going to stay focused on expecting a beautiful relationship with my new daughter. Positivity is where we discover true magic, and it’s my choice to embrace it. Stay positive about your life changes. Yes, change is hard, but it also teaches us something about ourselves.

I can choose to be unafraid.
                Acknowledging my fears reminds me that I am human. It’s okay to worry and wonder. I can be afraid, yet I can reduce my fear with thoughts of love. My worst-case scenario of Andrea not liking her new family disappears when I give my fear a name. In this case, my fear is that Andrea will not connect with me or someone else in her new family. Once I have identified the fear that is bothering me, I can shift it. I remind myself that we are a pretty amazing family, and that she will love us. Call your fears out. Name and understand them. Your fears are not intended to hold you back, but to be noticed and  conquered.

I can choose to be happy.
I also have the choice to be happy. I have the choice to focus on the present moment—the right now. But if I do feel the need to project myself into the future, then I will seek only happy thoughts. You also have the power to be happy. It is your right to find joy in your present moment. Let the future take care of itself. You do not need to postpone happiness until the future. The future is not guaranteed. Only this moment matters, so choose happy now!

                Many will go through life experiencing themselves as victims of every new circumstance that shows up. Let me remind you that you have a choice about how you react to everything that happens. You have a choice to let optimism lead you forward or to let pessimism hold you back. Embrace positivity in everything that comes your way. Choose to acknowledge fear, but don’t let fear hold you back. Invite happiness into your present moment. Choose to live in the now, and let joy be your companion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!                                  

Monday, July 17, 2017

It Takes Courage to Surrender

"Sometimes surrendering means giving up trying to
understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."

Have you ever tossed and turned all nightlong wondering if you would get a job that you applied for, or if a business deal would come through? This used to happen to me in the past. I would wake up tired, because I had been tossing and turning, wondering if a speaking or coaching contract would or would not happen. I would often feel anxious, scared, and tired, until I finally concluded that I had to surrender to not knowing. I have had a tough time with surrendering, because I learned that I must never give up and that I must fight till the end. I teach this to my clients all of the time. Yet, there is so much power in letting go and trusting the universe that no matter what happens we will be okay. We live under this illusion that we can control everything that happens in our lives, but I have news for you. We can’t. When you try to control things outside of your control, you are exhibiting a fear-based mentality. It’s natural to have some doubts and worries about your world, but they don’t make things any better. In my case, worrying about whether I would get speaking and coaching contracts used to take away my peace of mind. Now, I don’t worry about rejections, or “no’s.” I see them as detours to the possibility of something better. I have learned to surrender and trust that everything is working in my favor. I believe that only the right doors will open, and that I must trust and be patient. Today, let’s talk about letting go and surrendering your desires to the universe, so that you may find more joy and peace in your journey to success.

To surrender does not mean to give up.
To surrender is to have faith in something greater than yourself. Surrendering is telling your source to take the wheel because you have done everything in your power to accomplish your goal or dream. When you surrender, you are giving up fear. Many of us have believed that when you let go, you are giving up. The truth is that you are giving the universe an opportunity to have your back. You are trusting that whatever happens is part of a better plan for your life. Something awaits you that is more amazing than what you originally dreamt of. Do everything that you can to acquire your dreams and goals. Then understand that there is power in letting your source, the universe, take over.

Let go of expectations.
In accordance with the law of attraction, we are energy, and the energy you send out will be reflected back onto you. When you have no attachment to a specific result or outcome, you open yourself up to all sorts of wonderful possibilities. Letting go of expectations and the struggle to control outcomes will bring you peace and calm. And you will be amazed at what the universe has in store for you!

Conquer your fears.
It takes courage to surrender. What do you fear will happen if you let go? In my case, I felt that if I did not worry about a business deal, I would lose it. The truth is that I was letting fear control me. I still don’t know what will happen with any of my business ventures, but I know that I will be fine no matter what happens. Conquer your fears by surrendering any doubts that everything will work out for the best. In the end, everything works out for the best, or it’s not the end.

To let go is to set yourself free.
I feel so relieved and free. I am no longer the prisoner of “what ifs.” I am content and excited about what will be. You need to set yourself free by surrendering any doubt. Let it go. Go with the current and not against it. Life is not that hard; we  make it hard by trying to control everything in it. Trust in the universe—in your source. Know that life wants only the best for you!
I am a work in progress. I had been taught to fight to the end, and this brought a great deal of resistance into my life. As I learn to trust that the universe is my friend and that it has my back, I discover more joy and peace. Letting go has not been easy, yet it has made me wiser. Let go of the fears that hold you back, and have faith that the universe has your best interests in mind. Foster the positive energy of surrender, and let go of the toxic energy of controlling to live a peaceful, joyous life. Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

Sending many blessings your way!


 [DM1]Boy, is this true!

Monday, July 10, 2017

How to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck

“I would rather die of passion than of boredom.”
-Vincent Van Gogh

Last week, at a networking event, someone asked me what I did for a living. I responded, “I help people come alive.” “How do you do that?” they then asked. “I help individuals identify their passion, so that they can pursue their life’s purpose,” I said. “Don’t you think passion is overrated?” they asked next. “No, I don’t think so,” I answered. “I believe that if people pursue their passion and live in purpose, they will find more meaning in their lives and be happier. According to a Gallup poll, seventy percent of people hate their jobs or are disengaged at work. I believe that when people do what they love, they give their best work and will never feel disengaged. These people understand that they are the creators of their lives. They have discovered the connection that their passion has with their life’s purpose, and they are always ready to give their gift to the world. I am passionate about empowering individuals, women specifically to believe that they can pursue their passion. Therefore, I don’t think living passionately is overrated.” The person asked me no more questions after that. Today, I want to talk about passion and how it is the gateway to a life of joy. Here are three tips for letting passion take the lead in your life.

Identify what brings you joy.
What brings me joy is empowering the human potential. I love seeing people pursuing what makes them come alive. I get chills when I see someone doing what they love for a living. I see the creativity in individuals when they are using their unique talents to help others. One person’s talent might be making jewelry. In making jewelry, they bring beauty and joy to others.  Another person’s talent might be nursing and assisting in saving people’s lives. Again, using their gifts, they make this world a better place. What are your gifts? What brings you joy?

Put fear aside and pursue your passion.
I was afraid when I began pursuing my passion of personal development. I found it hard to leave a wonderful career as an educator to follow my purpose of personal development. My fearful ego voice tried to convince me many times that I should continue on my well-known path of teaching. It told me that there was nothing wrong with my life and that I was stupid for giving up a modest, but secure, income for something that had no real guarantees. Yes, I experienced sleepless nights when fear of the “what ifs” conquered me. I had no idea what it took to run a coaching business or how much work it required. However, if I was going to advise others to live their passion and I was not doing that myself, then I was being a hypocrite. So, I decided to take the plunge, leave my teaching position, and sink or swim! Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that you do what I did. I am suggesting that you take whatever step fits for you in pursing your passion.

Ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?”
Anything that is worthwhile requires some risk. In my mind, the worst that could happen when I decided to pursue my passion was that I would fail. That was scary! I continued to feel scared until I heard “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. If you have not heard this recording, I recommend that you look it up. Earl Nightingale reminded me that I was failing if I was not doing what I was passionate about. He also says that one fails if we stop pursuing our dreams. It’s important to understand that you will stumble and fall, but you will succeed if you fall forward and keep on moving. Also, you must remember that sometimes your worst failure only happens in your mind.

To conclude, I want to remind you that you are amazing, and you should never settle for a dull life. Seek passion, not only in your romantic relationships, but in every aspect of your life. Look at your life. How have you handled setbacks? If you are reading this, you have survived many trials and tribulations, and here you stand. Don’t doubt the power of your soul. When you go after your passion, you will develop courage and strength. Fight to believe in your life’s purpose! Never doubt that you have what it takes to go after your dreams, because if you didn’t you wouldn’t have these desires to begin with. It will not be easy. Failure and pursuing your passion go hand in hand. However, you fail everyday if you are not doing what you love. So, keep your head up, Buttercup, and follow your passion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!

Monday, June 26, 2017

How to Make Your Life Goals and Dreams a Reality

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. 
Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. 
It cannot be any other way. 
This is not philosophy. This is physics.”
-Albert Einstein

I am presenting a workshop this week on manifesting dreams. It is one of my favorite workshops to present because I teach participants about quantum physics and the law of attraction, and then they make a vision board. I have been asked, “What is the point of making a vision board?” My response is that making a vision board helps you to identify your dreams, desires, and life goals. You give attention and clarity to your intentions. A vision board can also help you maintain focus on achieving specific life goals. I love to see women ignited to believe in the power of their dreams. I love to awaken them to the possibility of realizing their deepest desires. But before we do the vision board, we talk about energy and the law of attraction. Here are five things we talk about before making a vision board.

Watch your thoughts.
We may never become what we want, but we will always become what we believe. So, we need to be mindful of our thoughts. Focus on positive expectations. Think good thoughts. We are energy; our thoughts, words, and actions are part of that energy. One of my favorite quotes, attributed to multiple sources, is: “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” As you can see, your destiny begins with the energy initiated in the mind.

Your energy is like a puzzle piece.
Your energy, positive or negative, wants to connect with the correct puzzle piece, like in a jigsaw puzzle. If your energy is fearfully focusing on worst case scenarios, you will send negative energy out into the universe that will reflect on you. Work on staying positive and optimistic so that the positive puzzle piece finds you instead. Focus on the beauty of staying optimistic and positive in every element of your life. This positive focus is more than wishful thinking; it’s believing that you are worthy of wonderful things happening in your life.

Be grateful and practice gratitude.
Being grateful for what you already have will let you practice gratitude. When you live in gratitude you are in a positive energy flow. When you have a positive energy flow, you attract more positive things to your life. I love living in gratitude, because it reminds me how blessed I am. I find my blessings in the faces of my daughter, Miranda, and my son, Julian. I am blessed to have a wonderful husband, who supports and believes in me. I have been blessed with a wonderful tribe of women who see my vision and support me into making it a reality. Be grateful for where you are now; stay optimistic and hopeful for your future; and know that the best is yet to come.

Visualize living your dreams with feeling and emotion.
When you visualize yourself in success, success will follow. Who do you want to become? What do you hope to acquire? Smell it; feel it; and then you shall have it. The energy that you transmit to the universe good or bad will be the same energy that will be reflected to you. I have grand dreams for myself and my business. I created those dreams in my mind, but they will soon find me. I have no doubt about that.

Let go of attachment and outcome; Be patient.
I believe that patience is one of the grandest virtues. I have struggled with patience all my life. We all want results now, or we assume something is not working. Once you have put action into your life goals and dreams, you must surrender and not be attached to the outcome. You must let go and trust that whatever dream or goal you had will manifest in its own time. Also, understand that sometimes, God or the universe has a better plan for you. All of this will be revealed to you in time. Be patient and be open to other wonderful possibilities. In my journey, I have been beautifully surprised at how my dreams have taken me to places that I never imagined.

My dreams continue to manifest. I now understand that if I stay positive, practice gratitude, stay patient, and surrender it all, the dreams that I have for my life will find me. Meanwhile, as I wait, I remind myself how lucky I am to be doing what I love and to have beautiful people by my side. Believe in your dreams, because they are trying to find you. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and much love your way,

Monday, June 19, 2017

Stay in the Present Moment

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.
Always work with it not against it.”
-Eckhart Tolle

My father has been in the hospital for the past week. He has been losing a lot of weight and has had a persistent cough for a few months now, so finally at the request of his doctor he was admitted to UCSF Medical Center in San Francisco. His illness has taken a toll on the whole family. As the doctors give him different tests to try to figure out what is wrong with him, I am hopeful and optimistic that things will be okay. Yet, I can’t help but think about the worst-case scenario of his death. In my fearful mind, I am convinced that he will not get better and that our lives will be changed forever. I rationalize this by telling myself that his body is old and tired, and he already had a break eight years ago when he received a kidney transplant. I also remind myself that we have been lucky to have him alive and healthy for these last eight years. Even though my father and I don’t have a special father-daughter bond, his illness and the idea that I could lose him has made me depressed. I wonder what life without him would be like. He is a big part of my family tapestry. In my family, my mother is the one with the most influence, yet I can’t imagine how she would truly function without him. These are my thoughts and fears. But then I stop and remind myself that nothing is certain except this moment. At this moment, my father is still alive. At this moment, he is still with us. Why must I focus on a future that is not here yet? It’s part of human nature to want to get ahead of ourselves to try to protect ourselves from pain.  But, we must not get ahead of ourselves. We must take it a minute, hour, and day at a time. I don’t have a crystal ball that can tell me what will happen in the future. I only have the power to focus on the present moment. When the time comes that I must say goodbye to my father, I will welcome that moment with open arms, but I will not get ahead of myself now. Right now, I am grateful that he is being taken care of by some of the best doctors in the state. In this moment, I am grateful that he is still alive. Here are three tips for not getting ahead of yourself and for staying in the present moment.

You are not your fearful thoughts.
When I go into my head and embrace my fearful thoughts, things don’t get better; they get worse. If you are going through something difficult in your life, get a hold of your fearful thoughts. Understand that these thoughts are not real; they are only in your head. My worst-case scenarios are creations of my imagination. This doesn’t mean that these scenarios couldn’t happen, but at this moment they have not happened. So why should I stress about something that is only in my head? Let go of your fears by trusting that you will know how to handle any difficult situations when, and if, they ever happen.

Avoid worrying about the future.
Plan optimistically for your future and don’t worry about it. It is the job of the fearful mind to try to make you worry about worst-case scenarios. Many times, these worst-case scenarios never come to fruition. I believe that we must always stay in the present, but if you must consider the future only look at it with high hopes and stay positive. The future should never intimidate you. It should only inspire you.

Savor the moment.
To savor the moment is to be at peace with it. Peace is to be content with what is and not desire anything else in the present moment. As I savor my moments when I know my father is still in this world, I can’t wish that I could go back to when he was healthy. In life, there is no going back; there is only going forward. And in life, death is a form of moving forward. I am savoring life by being grateful for my health and the health of my husband and children. I am savoring life, one moment at a time.

Life can be beautiful one moment and ugly the next, so treasure the beautiful moments deeply, and don’t rush to the ugly moments in your thoughts. In this moment, I feel love and peace. For now, I will stay in this moment. Remember it’s okay to be optimistic and excited about your future, but always stay present. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings your way,

Monday, June 12, 2017

What Voice Guides You?

"There is a voice that doesn't
use words. Listen."

To balance the roles of mother, wife, and business owner, I need to connect deeply to my soul through listening to my intuition, or what I call the “spirit voice.” I have noticed that if I get busy and neglect this voice, I feel confused, tired, lost, and sad. The spirit voice knows what steps I need to take in my relationships, career, and business. All that is required from me to access this voice is to silence myself so that it may be heard.  As I continue my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking, I am getting more comfortable with my spirit voice. This quiet, subtle voice has whispered to me when something is wrong with an individual or a life choice. The spirit voice, or what some call our intuition, will also guide you in deciding if you want to take a grand leap of leaving a bad relationship, or a bad job. Here are three tips on how you can be guided by your powerful spirit voice. When you allow yourself to be guided by your spirit voice, you will be amazed at how your true path appears and the negative chatter disappears.

Trust your gut.
You have heard, “Trust your gut feeling,” right? Well, it’s that gut feeling I like to call your spirit voice. It’s the voice that tells you to take another road. Your spirit voice will advise you to leave that bad relationship or that bad job. It’s also the feeling that makes you uncomfortable with some people, but you can’t point out why. Trust that feeling; listen to that voice. Your spirit voice knows more than you will ever understand. It has seen your future and understands what your true path is. Trust your spirit voice, because it knows the way!

Meditation results in clarity.
When I meditated this morning, I could silence my negative voice, or what I call my ego voice, easier than some other days. I felt more alert. When I meditate for at least ten minutes a day, I notice that my spirit voice becomes a bit louder—not obnoxious and loud like my ego voice, but a bit louder and clearer. If you already meditate, you understand what I mean. If you don’t meditate, it will take practice to learn, but if you dedicate some time you will eventually get there. There are many resources online about how to meditate. I will offer some tips in future blogs. But for now, try to stay still for ten minutes, clear your mind, and focus on nothing. See what pops up. If negative, fearful thoughts appear, it’s the ego working on your mind. If loving, beautiful thoughts appear, it’s your spirit voice, your intuition. Go there!

Let the right voice guide you.
How do you know which voice is guiding you? As I already mentioned, the ego voice may be louder and obnoxious. The spirit voice may be calmer and subtle. Your reliable voice is the one that is affirming, but not necessarily loud. You feel a sense of calm and that you will be okay—that the universe has your back. On the other hand, the ego voice will remind you of your insecurities and can be cruel and demeaning. The ego voice wants to keep you a prisoner of the known and comfortable.  You probably heard this voice if you considered whether or not to leave a career that no longer fulfilled you. Your ego voice is lying to you when it tells you that you are not worthy of a new or better relationship. Which voice is governing your life choices?

Being intuitive and letting your spirit voice guide you is not always easy. It’s not easy because the spirit voice is not the most rational voice. Being rational is the role of the ego voice. The ego voice limits possibilities by telling you that you are not worthy of a dream or desire. Don’t despair. If you silence your mind and learn to love yourself, the spirit voice will step in to remind you that you are capable and worthy of all your dreams. So, you see, you have two different voices fighting to get your attention. One voice is loud and full of fear, and the other is calm and full of love and possibilities. It is your task to uncover the true voice that will guide you to your destiny. May it be the voice of your spirit ! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!

Monday, May 22, 2017

Your Critics Will Never Be in the Ring

“A critic is a man who knows the way
but can’t drive the car.”
-Kenneth Tynan

In my family, we follow many traditions throughout the year. One tradition that we have during the summer is to get together for a barbecue and watch boxing. I am not fond of boxing. I think it is a brutal sport, but I love connecting and catching up with friends and family. Last week we got together for the Canelo Alvarez vs. Julio Cesar Chaves fight at a friend’s house. Usually, I keep myself busy with other things when the fight starts. I find any excuse to leave for a while. I run to the store to get some wine, dessert, or anything else that comes to mind. But this time I did something different. I stayed. Yes, I decided that I would stay and not just watch the fight but observe my family and friends watching the fight. I wanted to discover what all the fuss was about and why we have not evolved from the ancient Roman times. Just like in the Roman colosseum, family and friends yelled, and cursed when the boxer they favored was not meeting their expectations. It appeared to me that they transformed from being spectators to being boxing coaches.  They became the experts and the critics. For the most part, everybody wanted Canelo to win. Everyone yelled and cursed at him when they thought that he was not giving one-hundred-percent. And they all laughed at his opponent and his performance. Then I got it! We all had become harsh critics, even though we would not make it through one round in the ring. This experience made me think about the harsh critics that we encounter as we follow our dreams. People that are not in the ring will tell you how crazy and stupid you are for going after a life goal or passion. Here are three tips for overcoming harsh critics.

There is a reason that your harshest critics are not in the ring.
I have had many harsh critics on the road to my dreams. Just like the critics in your life, the people that are yelling at the boxer couldn’t be in the ring because they don’t have the drive or passion to pursue such a lofty ambition. From the outside of the ring they become experts because being a critic does not require great skills. On the other hand, it takes special talents and abilities to be a boxer. Only the athlete in the ring knows the strategy for when to punch or not to punch that we see in the ring. If we compare life to boxing, we find that our harshest critics think they know what our fight is about. But they have no idea. It’s easy to yell and curse at the boxer for not punching enough, or for avoiding a punch, when we are not in the ring. And it’s easy for others to criticize you. But remember, they are not in the ring. You are.

Only listen to people that have your best interests in mind.
When I think about the boxer, the only one that has the right to be a critic is the boxing coach. Only the coach knows what the boxer is capable of and what the strategy is. Even people that love you may want to discourage you from pursuing your dreams and goals. They believe that they are incapable of acquiring their dreams so they assume you can’t either. This belief exists because of who they are. It has nothing to do with you. People who love you may have the best intentions, yet know who your true coaches are, listen to them with care, but always take the advice of your soul because it knows the true fight you must win.

When all else fails, ignore them.
If you can’t delete your harshest critics from your life, simply ignore them. Don’t give them the power to hold you back. Ignore what they tell you and move on. I ignore those who doubt my dreams and ambitions by incorporating humor. I can laugh doubts away by not taking everything to heart. For example, when one of my harshest critics once told me that the world already had a Latina Oprah named Cristina, I told her that the world never had a Latina Oprah named Nancy Salmeron. I let it roll and laughed it away.

Boxing champions in the world are few, but the arena is filled with thousands of spectators and critics. There is a reason they are in the arena and not in the ring. Remember, you can’t listen to those that don’t know who you are or have lived your journey. Ignore those who doubt your dreams and don't forget that champions of the world are few. Be the champion of your life by not listening to outside critics and staying in the ring long enough to see your dreams come true. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending blessings your way,

Monday, May 15, 2017

A Fulfilled Life and Passion

“Always go with your passion.
Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.”
-Deepak Chopra

There is a big debate on whether following your passion equates to a fulfilled life. When I share with some people that I gave up my career as an educator to follow my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking I get many different responses. Sometimes I get the, “Wow that is amazing!” stare. Other times I get the, “Have you lost your marbles?” stare. What is better: To go into the unknown, experience uncertainty and chaos, and be the creator of your life; or to be content with a life that you did not purposefully create? Today I want to look at these two viewpoints because they both have validity.  Here are three points to consider if you want to follow a passion-filled life.

Passion vs. Comfort.
To follow or not to follow your passion. That is the question. Following your passion is one of the most difficult things you will ever do. For some people like myself, it required giving up the comfortable, content lifestyle of a teacher.  It meant giving up a secure salary, a 401(k), summers and holidays off, and wonderful relationships. The first year was the hardest. I felt like a fish out of water. I mourned my old life, which had been practical and effortless. My daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly routine was gone. I cried at times. I wondered if I had made a mistake. But despite all of this I felt I could not go back. The idea of going back felt suffocating. I have wonderful memories of my life as an educator, but they are that—memories. I know that my soul would not let me go back.

Following my passion has given me courage.
If you want to become more courageous, follow your passion. People who follow their passion must beat fear. Yes, it’s scary to go into the unknown and pursue something that has no real guarantees. But what in life really is guaranteed?  In a conventional job or career, you are never exempt from losing your job.  You may think following your passion is risky because you have responsibilities like children, a mortgage, and bills. To risk this is very scary, and the truth is that, in accordance with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, if you don’t have basic survival needs taken care of you won’t be able to focus on your dreams. With that said, start dedicating an hour a day to your passion, and if you need more time find a gateway job that will assist you until your passion can provide for you. That was not an option for me. I took a full leap of faith and left my teaching position because my soul would not have it any other way, and I have a wonderful husband who helps with the children, bills, and mortgage. Connect with your soul. What is it telling you? Take mini-steps to follow your passion, but please—take a step forward.

You may feel lost.
Listen, Beautiful, life is hard with or without a passion and just because you don’t follow a passion it does not mean that life and its’ difficulties won’t show up. They always do and will. Remember you are strong and wise enough to overcome every obstacle that life brings.  If you conform and settle for a life that does not inspire you, you have decided to give up the fight before you even get in the ring and you lose by default. Yes, following a passion adds a little more stress to your life, but it’s that stress that makes you grow. I can’t speak for all the people who have given up on their dreams and not followed their passion. But as a past conformist, I do know that I used to live a flat-lined life that made me sad. Today, there are many ups and downs in my life that remind me how much I desire to be aligned to my purpose. I am euphoric one moment and down the next and I love it! I love it because I know that I am on the right path.

Life is a gift that you give to yourself. You decide what you put into the gift box. Will it be a life full of adventure, meaning, purpose, and passion? Or will it be a life of contentment and comfort, based on fear? Yes, I have had many doubts about where I am going and even if I will get to my true destination. But I know that I have put into my gift box a life of connections with beautiful people, courage, patience, perseverance, and determination. So, the verdict is in. When I am on my deathbed, I will look back at my life and be proud to say that passion defined what my purpose was and that I did it my way. Listen, my friend—wake up to your true potential by connecting to your soul because your soul already knows what you are truly supposed to be. My soul has guided me toward realizing that I am supposed to remind you that you can overcome fear to live an authentic life full of passion and purpose. Believe in yourself and say yes to a life of your creation. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, May 8, 2017

Follow What Sets Your Soul on Fire

"Be Fearless in the pursuit of what set's your soul on fire."
A few days ago, I had a conversation with one of my soul sisters. Her soul reminds me of mine. We both have taken a leap of faith to pursue the unknown to discover our true calling. Our newly found calling includes being speakers and writers. Using different language, we cover some of the same topics. We have a special bond because our souls reflect each other. We both believe in uncovering the true human potential. In this conversation, we talked about our dreams, current milestones, stumbles, and failures. As we focused on our passion and our purpose we concluded that we will continue to do what makes us come alive regardless of the outcome. I told her that my journey to uncovering the true human potential has been the best one yet. I told her that I would speak about living in purpose and following your dreams for free because I loved it so much. She told me that she would continue to write even if her daughter was the only one who read her material. It was then that I realized that when you follow your passion and pursue your purpose you will do it for the joy of it and not for the money. I love this woman and I know that she is a powerful writer who needs to be heard by the world. Yet, I also know that what she said is true, because just like her I am authentically living in purpose and I have discovered joy not in the material things but in my essence which contributes to my purpose.  Here are three tips for clarifying if you are living in purpose or simply existing.
Purpose is found in the things you obsess about.
Empowering people to live authentic lives makes me come alive. I am obsessed with helping people to believe in their dreams. I believe that some of the desires you obsess about can connect you to your purpose. What do you obsess about? Is it creating pretty places in your home? If so, your purpose may be in interior design. Is it upgrading family recipes? Then, you may want to become a chef. Whatever your obsession may be, pay attention to it. Your soul is trying to point out your reason for being here on this planet. Don’t ignore it because it is not practical. If you love dancing, dance yourself to becoming a dance instructor, or simply do more of it!
What are you a natural at?
We are all good at something. I am a natural at connecting with people. I love being around people and feel that communicating with individuals comes very easily to me.  My connection with people and the fact that I love to talk makes it effortless for me to convey my message of pursuing dreams. Think about the things that come easily to you. Are you a natural diplomat, networker, or leader? Pay attention to what comes easily to you because being in your purpose feels effortless.
Where do you bring value?
I believe that our soul is a gift to the world because it’s within our soul that we discover what the meaning of our lives is. You are not an accident. You are intended to contribute the gift of your purpose to the world. I bring value to others by pushing them to be effective leaders, follow their goals, and make their dreams come true. As I empower others to believe in themselves I connect more to my reason for living. Your purpose does not have to consist of changing a million lives. Your purpose may be found in impacting one life. The value you bring may consist of bringing peace, joy, or contentment to others. The value you bring is also found in the value you give yourself. So, remember to believe in yourself and know that you are no accident and that your life has meaning.
In conclusion, I want to emphasize that living in purpose requires you to understand your self-worth. It also means that you must take responsibility for your life. Your life is a gift and your gifts should be shared with others. Your obsessions and what feels natural to you can point you to your true calling if you pay attention. In the end, living in purpose is about realizing that you are no accident and that your life ‘purpose will soar when you bring value to other people’s lives. Unleash your authentic self and connect to your reason for being here by pursuing your purpose.  Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, May 1, 2017

Don't Wish for Things to Change be Patient

"Two things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, 
and your attitude when you have everything."
Yesterday I had one of those days that make you want to scream—a day that makes you want to crawl back into bed and stay there! I have been dealing with a bit of back pain because of stress from some issues with my house. Due to the tumultuous weather we have been having, some parts of the roof on my home have missing shingles which resulted in leaks in the kitchen, garage, and living room. I have flooring, ceilings, and a roof that needs pairing. I have been feeling hopeless these last couple of weeks because the rain has not stopped so that the construction can begin. According to my husband (who knows about these things) repairing roofs, floors and ceilings is not an overnight job, and I needed to be patient. So, I started speaking to God and asking for patience. I did not want that roof fixed or my back pain to disappear. I just wanted patience to endure what I needed to endure with grace. I felt ridiculous because I know that there are bigger problems in the world and that missing shingles or damaged flooring is something that will eventually get fixed. Then it hit me! If I had only one wish, my wish would be to develop the virtue of patience. I started to realize that all my major problems have always been solved in one way or another and that I had no reason to suffer. My suffering comes from my lack of patience—my wanting things to get fixed now! Today, I want to dedicate this post to patience. With patience, anything is possible. With patience, you will make your dreams come true! Here are three tips on developing calmness and perseverance in your life by embracing patience.

Admit that you are impatient.
The first step to changing anything in your life is to admit that you have a problem. I used to believe that I was perfect and that patience was one of my top virtues. Now I have recognized my problem and I’m trying to do something about it. When you admit that impatience is a problem, don’t mistake it for procrastination. Patience isn’t about sitting idle and waiting for things to happen. It’s about understanding that the best things in life do require work and dedication, but they won’t be done overnight.

Develop the ability to embrace waiting.
Embrace waiting by not getting caught up in your emotional impulses. I embrace waiting by being present and mindful of my thoughts and actions. For example, yesterday I needed to step back and see my situation from another angle. When you feel that you need to have something done this moment, step back and relax. Focus on your breathing if you need to and visualize things working out. Be mindful of your thoughts and actions.

Analyze the situation and decide the next steps.
As I analyze my home situation and realize that it’s not a life or death matter, I am able to relax. I know my roof and floors will get done in due time and all I can do is be patient. If you have something else that you can be doing as you embrace waiting, do it. If not, relax and let things work out at their own pace. Trust me, things will get done. When you are impatient with a person, be mindful of your thoughts and understand that everyone is working at their level.  You can journal your thoughts or feelings about a situation. Find possible solutions and next steps, and then let it go.

Life can be overwhelming, but it’s up to us to center ourselves and to surrender the idea that things must happen now. As I let go of time expectations I discover more peace in my life. Yes, things will fall apart and take you off the journey to your becoming, but eventually things will come together the way they were meant to. As I go into my kitchen and see the destruction of the ceiling and floors I also remind myself to look at my beautiful white cabinets that were not ruined. These minor setbacks that can take away our patience can also direct our attention to the blessings in our lives. I have wasted precious time and energy focusing on what is not working in my life, but these moments were also perfect. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!


Monday, April 17, 2017

How to Celebrate Your Small Triumphs

"Celebrate your small triumphs
 as much as you celebrate your big ones."

-Nancy Salmeron

This weekend I went through a pile of files that I needed to organize two years ago. Have you had this happen to you? It’s all the work you have done. Work you have collected from workshops, seminars presentations, awards or certificates. In these files, I discovered my accomplishments and my failures of the past two years. It was rewarding to see all my major triumphs, but also humbling to see the mistakes and failures I have made. As, I looked back I remember how my failures took so much of my time and energy to get over. But I don’t ever remember celebrating or giving the same amount of time to my triumphs. On your journey to your becoming you will make many mistakes, but you will also have accomplishments that may seem minor, but that need to be celebrated as big triumphs. This weekend I realized that my focus has been so much on my mistakes and setbacks that I rarely celebrated my well-deserved accomplishments. As you pursue your dreams, remember that failures and mistakes are part of the journey to the peak of the mountain, but don’t forget to celebrate the small accomplishments. What I want to talk about today is how to give your triumphs and successes more of the spot light. I want to show you how to celebrate the small steps forward more often and how to learn, but dwell less on the setbacks. Here are three tips on how to celebrate more of your triumphs and how to move past your failures at a faster rate.

Decide that you are worthy of celebrating yourself.

To feel worthy of a celebration comes with the notion that you are worthy. In the past I have felt that I was not worthy of celebrating any major accomplishment, therefore minor accomplishments were never noticed. Today, for example I will watch one hour of TV when I am done with this blog post. I will meet with a friend for coffee to celebrate a “potential” coaching client, or “potential,” speaking engagement. I celebrate even if the reward is, “potential.” As you focus on your grand success, don’t forget that you are worthy of celebrating the big ones, but also the small ones. Remember you work hard and you should reward yourself always.

Let failure take the back seat.

You will fail, but let failure take the back seat. As I look back at these past two years I have failed many times. I have failed and learned, but I have also given failure too much of my time and energy. I am not saying you should not give attention to your failure so that you can learn from it. But please don’t dwell on it. Learn the lesson and move on.

Let success be your copilot.

My biggest mistake has been that I have never let success be my copilot. Failure has been my copilot. Reflecting, I understand what a big mistake that is, because I took away my belief in myself, it made me doubt myself. What I do now is celebrate my success, no matter how small. For example, a few weeks ago I had the opportunity to share my Believe. Change. Become. program for girls to a school district. I did not get a definite yes, because the school year will be ending. I got a potential yes for the next school year. The truth is I felt like a winner regardless because I had the opportunity to share my program. This just fueled my passion for my program more. I celebrated myself for taking initiative to share it and was very happy for this small step. In the past I would have looked at my failure of not selling my program, today I celebrated that I have a program that will benefit many young girls in schools.

In conclusion, learn from your mistakes and move on, don’t stay there too long. Dedicate your time to rewarding yourself for your smallest successes and celebrate the big ones too! You are worthy of these celebrations and everything that is coming. Until next Monday Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, April 3, 2017

To BECOME is to Remember

It's never about BECOMING anything.
It's always about remembering who you were
destined to be.

-Nancy Salmeron

Last week I went to a networking event. I was asked about the name of my company Believe. Change. Become. I was asked how clients or individuals BECOME. I clarified that we don’t really become, we remember who we were intended to be by believing and changing. The becoming part we always have inside of us. I was asked to clarify further, so I did. I explained that as children, we have this grand view of what we desire for our lives. But as we grow older we become more skeptical and more practical and never pursue it. We are reminded by our parents and peers that we need to take that path of least resistance. That the less traveled path is less traveled for a reason. We are told that we need to fear the unknown. We lose ourselves, we forget who we are. My program teaches individuals about shifting a doubt mindset into a believe mindset. It validates that everything we need to be successful in this world is always inside of us. But first we must BELIEVE that what we desire is possible. Then we must CHANGE the old way of thinking and behaving to BECOME. Here are four tips to awaken your becoming.

Connect with an inner child.

Do you remember what made you come alive as a child? As a child, I used to be a problem solver. I loved listening to friends, cousins, and family member’s stories and trying to help them solve them. I loved being my friend’s cheerleaders and always being there for them. As a child, I wanted to be a teacher and did that, but what I forgot was that I wanted to be a teacher of life. My becoming had to do with remembering that I loved talking and questioning life. When I connected the dots, and realized that my life’s purpose had to do with personal development I affirmed that I always had what I was seeking.

Believe in what you are seeking.

Once you have connected with that inner child you must believe that what you desire is your purpose. To believe is to change the way the mind works. It’s staying optimistic and having no doubt that what you desire will become a reality. When I first started to believe in my dreams, I had no idea where they would take me. For a long time I lived in fear of failure. When you believe in your dreams you understand that you will fail, yet you do it afraid. When you believe, you may be the only one that sees your dream and that is OK. When you truly believe, you ignite that flame to your inner becoming. Believing is one of the hardest steps, but when you do there is no limit to what you can accomplish.

Change, change, change.

The next step to awakening your becoming is to change not only your mind, but you may also need to change the people and things around you. Change is essential to conquering your dreams because they put action into believing. You can believe in your dreams all you want but if you don’t put action into them it will not matter. I was very drastic in my changes. I resigned from my teaching career and took that full leap into personal development, inspirational speaking. It was not easy, but it worked for me. Would I recommend for you to quit your job and take that grand leap? Only you know how to embrace change. I have discovered that for some people going all in works. But for others it requires baby steps. Change is change not matter how big or small. Embrace it and just do it!

To BECOME is to remember.

When I first founded my company, I believed that to BECOME was something that happened to you in the process, and in a way, it does. But, now I understand that you become the moment you decide to give your desires life. I also believe that when you remember the pack you had with your soul you also become. So, remember who you wanted to be because that is where it’s all at. You have it in you to fully change yourself and the world.

Do you remember who you were always destined to be? If you said yes to this question good for you. If you don’t know let me help you on your journey to your becoming. Feel free to contact me at with any questions. Until next time, BELIEVE anything is possible for you, understand that you will CHANGE in the process to BECOME or remember who you were destined to be.

Monday, March 27, 2017

How Failures Move You Forward

"Giving up is the only sure way to fail."

-Gena Showalter

Robert F. Kennedy once said that, “That only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Do you believe this to be so? What is failure? Failure to me signifies growth. Failure to me shows me another way. Failure reminds me that nothing is constant and that we shall always keep moving forward. As I fail forward, I am reminded of my strength. As I fail forward, I am reminded of my conviction. Let’s talk about your failures and how you can learn from failure so that you too can fail forward. Here are three tips to conquering failure so that you are not off track with your life dreams and goals.

When you give up, you fail.

When going after a dream or life goal one thing I can guarantee you is that you will fail your way to it. Are you willing? If you answered yes, then you are one step closer to getting what you desire. If you are not willing to fail, you have failed without getting started. The truth about failing is that you only fail when you give up. Don’t give up, but most importantly don’t give up before you start.

Let failure be your teacher.

When I fail, I let failure become my teacher. Learn from your mistakes and try a different approach to getting what you desire. As I reflect on what I want for my life there are many lessons learned. I have learned to be patient with myself and that in the end I know the right way. I also learned I that must not drop my goals or dreams when I fail. That I simply have to change my approach. Remember, learn the lesson and move on!

Failure teaches you who your true friends are.

As I continue to fail forward you will see some friends go. When you fail, you will lose friends but you will also gain new ones. Don’t be afraid to let go of those anchors that don’t believe and hold you back. Keep the ones that support you and let go of the ones that were never real friends in the first place. Failure in the end will be the gift to your present and future relationships. All you must do is keep the friends that hold you tight as you fail and let go of the ones that walk away when you fail.

When you fail, you must surrender it to the past and move toward the future. Yes, like I mentioned before you must learn from your mistakes, but don’t dwell on them. Remember, that nothing is forever and that this too shall pass. Move into your amazing future with open arms.
I have learned that with failure also comes opportunity. I see and understand that if I had not failed forward my life would be very different. I needed to stumble and fall to learn to better move forward. When you fail be grateful for the experience shake it off and move on. Treat failure as a blessing in disguise and understand that without failure we would not ever reach that peak of the mountain. I hope you have a fabulous week and that your failures make you strong and push you to your destiny. Until next time Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, March 6, 2017

How Positive Thinking Evokes More Happiness

"The energy of the mind is the
essence of life."


“Why do these things always happen to me?” A potential client asked me. “Things never work out for me.” She continued.
“Stop and be mindful of your words.” I told her.

“My life changed when I started to be more conscious about my thoughts, words and actions. I am a believer that we are magnets of positive and negative energy. When we emit positive energy, we attract more positive energy. When we dwell on negative energy we attract more of it. Why don’t we focus on what is going right in your life to see if we can move into a more positive vibration? I promise you it feels better and you will be glad you did.” She agreed and the conversation ended in a very positive note.

Today I want to talk about how to attract positive energy in to your life. Here are some tips on how to stop circulating toxic negative thoughts and start circulating positive thoughts, that in return will reward you with a more positive life.

Self- love is key.
Some of the things you tell yourself you would not tell your worst enemy. Love and accept yourself as you are. When I coach clients about self- love I remind them of the many obstacles that they have overcome. What about you? What obstacles have you overcome? Be proud of all that you have done. Be proud of all your accomplishments.

Let love take lead.
There are two emotions that guide our lives love and fear. When love guides your life your energy flow is positive. When fear rules your life the energy flow is toxic. There are many doubts, many questions.  Let love be the antidote to fear.

Develop an attitude of gratitude.
To have positive energy flow let the universe know how much you appreciate what you already have. Be grateful for your breath, your health, home and loved ones. It’s these things that make you attract more blessings into your existence. What are your blessings? Make a list and be grateful for the health and well being that is coming your way.

Let go of past resentments.
It is time to let go of all past resentments. You don’t need to be a prisoner of the past or others.  It’s important that you learn the lesson so that you don’t repeat it, but you must move on.  When you release past disappointments, you will quickly move into a positive flow. It’s also important that you forgive yourself for mistakes you made in the past. Again, reflect and learn the lesson.

Choose your words wisely.
Your words set your reality in motion, therefore choose them wisely. Do not speak of words of lack only words of abundance. Do not speak of what could go wrong in your life, but what is right and what will go right. Your words and thoughts are powerful. Be mindful of what goes in your mind and out your mouth.

When we dwell on the negative we attract more of it. This will in return take away our positive energy and give us more negative energy. It starts in the mind, becomes words and take form in our actions. Be the creator of abundance by manifesting abundance, joy and love. See you next week where we delve deeper into how to develop an attitude of gratitude and why this is important to creating dreams. Until next time Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, February 27, 2017

How Dreams Take Us Forward

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!
Live the life you've imagined."

I used to believe that dreams where accomplished by lucky people, and that I was not one of them. For many years, I put my dreams on hold, to fulfill the dreams of my parents. Where are you with your dreams and goals? When I reflect on what I want to accomplish for my life, I am reminded that first must believe that those dreams and life goals are possible and that they will be attainable. Do you believe your dreams will come true? It is said that when you believe is your dreams you are half way there. I would agree with this statement one hundred percent! Today I want to share with you why this is so and how we could be on our way to making sure those dreams become a reality!

Don’t doubt your dreams or life goals.
The first step in believing in your dreams is to not doubt them. The second step is to believe in them. When you believe that it is possible for you to get that dream job, to meet that perfect man, to buy your dream job, the universe, God can’t help but conspire with you to make sure that it becomes a reality. Your optimistic view that this is not only possible but necessary is the fuel that your dreams need to start to fruition. It sounds very simple but this is the first step to igniting your dreams. As, I work on my dreams I am reminded that I once doubted them. I doubted that I could be the creator of my life, and that is why it took me twenty years to be on my purpose. Now that I believe in my dreams, and understand my purpose a stand taller, there is much more meaning in my life.

Action, action, action!
The second step in making your life goals or dreams a reality is to act. When you are working toward your dreams, you inform the universe that you are serious and in return the universe gets serious too. It’s what you put out that will be reflected to you. As I reflect on my success, on my fulfilled dreams I can see that everything resulted out of me putting my part to making it sure it would happen. For example, one of my dreams was to be a published author. But it would have stayed a dream if I had not put action to it. The universe supported this desire by connecting me with my amazing editor Debbie. I had the dream, I put action to it. Then the universe, God sent this amazing woman to make my dream of becoming a published author a reality. Thanks to her and my dedication to this project, this book will be released in the next few months.

Be flexible and patient.
I used to believe in rigid time lines. I used to believe that things had to happen on my time. Not anymore! Today, I like to ride with the flow and I don’t feel guilty about it. I believe in the flow because I have no doubt that dreams come true. The only thing I don’t know for sure is that I could pin point the date and time. I now understand acquiring dreams and life goals is not about that peak of the mountain, it’s about the journey. You stay in the journey when you practice gratitude for what you have and continue to work for what you desire. Don’t ever surrender, don’t ever believe that you have failed if your dreams don’t show up tomorrow. Your dreams need time to fruition. Be patient and enjoy the climb, because that is where you will spend most of the time.

My dream for you is to believe in your dreams. Don’t despair when they don’t show up on your rigid time line. The most important thing is that you keep on moving forward. Yes, evaluate the progress you are making, adjust your sails if you need to but keep with the ocean current.

Join me next week where I will discuss a bit further why it’s important to work on our energy flow and how this makes your dreams find you much easier. Until next Monday, I want you to BELIEVE anything is possible, understand that you will CHANGE in the process, to BECOME who you were destined to be!