Monday, November 20, 2017

Follow Your Dreams, but Remember to Value Your Present Life


“As we pursue our dreams, we must not forget to live our present life.” 
—Nancy Salmeron

Sorry I missed posting my blog last Monday. I had a very difficult week. A lot has been going on with my home, my siblings, and my finances. I live on a ranch, and recently the pump to my well went out. We were without water for a couple of days. It’s amazing how your perspective on the small details of life changes when basic, human necessities such as water are eliminated. All of a sudden you become paralyzed because you can’t wash your hands. The expense of fixing the water situation put a drain on our finances. These minor setbacks, along with other family issues, caused me so much stress that eventually my body gave out. I got sick and was in bed for a couple of days. Bed rest was a good remedy for my current life situation. We fixed the water well problem and got water back on the ranch, but fears and doubts started to creep into my soul. As I tried to connect with my soul, I realized that my ego voice had started to ask questions, such as, “What if you don’t accomplish all of your dreams? What if where you are now is as far as you will go?” My eternally optimistic views disappeared. Doubts appeared. I started to wonder if I had been wrong. What if dreams don’t really come true? What if where I am now is all there is? This made me sad for a moment, but then I realized that my life was not bad. I have a pretty authentic life. I have a husband and family who love me, friends who support and guide me, and a quaint home that I have learned to love. I have water (I am very grateful for water!) and food that sustains me and a business that inspires me. What else could I ask for? As I answered these fear-based questions, I concluded that as we pursue our dreams, we must not forget to value and live our present lives. We must act as if the life we are living in this moment is preparing us for the life of our dreams. We must be grateful for all the good, bad, and ugly of life. Here three tips on how to love all parts of your life despite it not yet being the life you are dreaming about.

Embrace—don’t fight—the situation you are in.
When bad situations show up, don’t fight them—embrace them! Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this? How can I grow from this situation? What is the lesson that I must learn?” With my water situation, I learned to value the small things in life. Not having running water put my dreams and life goals into perspective. It humbled me into realizing how blessed I am to live in a part of the world where water is not a luxury, but is readily available. It made me think about those parts of the world where water is part of the dream. My dreams are valid, but so is the life I am living right now. This life is transforming me into the woman that I must become to see my dreams become a reality. The only thing I must remember is that as I embark on my journey, I must not forget to live and embrace the good, bad, and ugly of life. Because the good, bad and ugly of life make for fascinating stories to someday tell your grandchildren. Embrace and love where you are right now. I promise you that within time you will be where you always wanted to be in your life.

Practice gratitude for the good and the bad.
We all know about practicing gratitude for the good in our lives, but do we ever practice gratitude for the bad? When setbacks appear in my life, I am reminded of all my blessings. So, I have concluded that maybe the bad things in our lives remind us of how good we actually have it. For example, I became grateful for getting sick because it reminded me to value my health. As we encounter death in our lives, don’t we value life more? Let’s not give the negative events of our life a bad rap. Let’s put a positive light on these events so that we can see how great life is.

Work toward your dreams, but don’t get lost in them.
The biggest problem I see with following our dreams is that we can get lost in our dreams and forget to live our lives. To follow our dreams is a lofty ideal. We exist to execute and live our dreams, yet we must remember that life is but a dream. As I imagine my future self, I am reminded that my present self is alive and well. I am reminded that the woman I am now is amazing. Yes, I have a lot of learning and growing to do before I fulfill my destiny, but I love who I am and where I am now. This life I am living right now could be the dream life for many others. I am in love with my dreams, but I am also in love with the life I have right now. Love where you are because one day this, too, will become but a dream.

As we work toward our life dreams and goals, please remember to love and live your present life. Dedicate time and effort to your purpose and passion, but don’t forget to find gratitude where you are now. As my life changes and realizing my dreams gets closer, I am reminded that life is what is happening right now! Life is not what will happen five or ten years from now. Be dedicated to and believe in your dreams, but immerse yourself in the present moment. Enjoy your life by celebrating the fact that you are alive and thriving. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy😊
P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, is out. Check it out! https://www.balboapress.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?Book=749140.







Sunday, November 5, 2017

What Does a Life Without Regrets Look Like?



"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count.
It's the life in your years."
—Abraham Lincoln

I have shared on a few occasions that my aging father has been in and out of the hospital a couple of times this year. A few days ago, I went to visit him at my parents’ home. As we caught up on his health, I shared that he must stay positive and keep on believing that he will get better. We also talked about his regrets in life. He shared that he wished he had given me and his other children more of his time. He wished he had followed his passion for singing. He mentioned that his biggest regret was that he let fear control his life. This very insightful conversation made me think about today’s topic, a life without regrets.
Let’s talk about what it means to live life without regrets. It is my belief that we make life harder than it really is. The older I get the more I understand that certain beliefs and principles can simplify life. These beliefs include: Love should always be our compass: staying in the moment will guide our future; staying close to the ones we love makes us happier; going with the flow does not mean that we can’t express our mind; and we have not lived unless we have pursued our dreams. I believe these principles are essential for living a life of joy. They are all equally important. What matters to me is that if I am asked at the end if I lived a happy life, I want to be able to say, without a doubt, that I chose my life and never settled for it. I did it my way!
Read on to learn more about what I view is essential for a happy life.

Pursue your dreams and not the dreams of others.
To live a life that truly matters you must pursue your dreams and not what your parents, family, or friends desire for you. Some dreams may involve the material world; others come from the heart and seek purpose and significance in your life. Your purpose is as unique as your thumbprint. Your true calling or purpose was given to you for you to follow. Following your purpose makes you come alive. What makes you come alive? For me, it’s empowering individuals to believe in their dreams and follow their purpose. We all have different callings. For some, it’s to be an educator, doctor, scientist, or mother. Your purpose does not have to be grand in a way that society defines as being successful. To be successful in life you just need to follow your heart and your bliss. Do what you want to do because you love it. If you want to be a mother and love that role, pursue it with passion, and be the best mother possible.  Your purpose should bring you joy and contribute positively to others’ lives. How many people you impact does not matter. What matters is that you make someone else’s life better because you were born.

Work less, and stay close to the ones you love.
My father’s biggest regret was that he did not spend a lot of time with his children. He spent much of his time working. Work less and spend time with the ones you love. Life tends to move quickly. When you have children, you notice how the years fly by. Be careful with your time. Dedicate time to the ones you love. Make a conscious choice to spend quality time with them. Yes, we get busy, but let go of the things that take away from bonding with and loving the special people in your life. It is said that on our death beds we will regret the time we spent working but never the time we spent with the ones we love. Have no regrets! Spend time with the ones that fill your heart now.

Go with the flow.
When you go with the flow you understand that you are being guided toward what is best for you. Work for what you desire, but be wise enough to know when to surrender and go with the flow. As you go with the flow, you will discover that there is a better plan for your life than you ever imagined. When you trust in God—in the Universe—you discover that life is not so complicated. When you let go and trust, life becomes effortless and more rewarding.

Express your mind.
If you express your mind, then you will not die with unshared ideas or thoughts that could have changed our world. Be mindful of your thoughts, and express only those thoughts that empower and uplift others. Express thoughts that support love, empathy, and compassion. When you do, you give the opportunity for others to do the same. Even if you have negative or fearful feelings, know that you have the right to express them. Don’t hold onto anger or resentment; express it. Be open with your thoughts and world views, but never impose them.

Enjoy each moment.
Savor every moment. Both good and bad moments should be cherished because they are fleeting. Stay present and focused. As you live consciously every moment, you realize that life is beautiful. Even when pain and suffering make a visit, they too, will transcend into something better. Stay in the moment by reminding yourself that the present moment is all you have. The past is gone. The future is never guaranteed. We can only count on the present.

Let love, not fear, lead the way.
When you decide to be led by love, you will bring prosperity and joy to your life. If you choose to follow fear, you will bring uncertainty and hardship into your life. My father let fear stop him from pursuing a singing career, and now he regrets his choice. Fear is what society and the world teach us, but love is the emotion we are born with. Let go of fear and embrace love. It feels better, and it’s better for your health.

There is a reason for your life. It is to live in joy and purpose!  You will find joy when you choose love and enjoy each moment. You will discover your purpose when you decide to believe in your gift. Express your mind, but also learn to go with the flow of life. Last, but not least, remember to live in purpose because that is why you are here. Your purpose is the gift given to you to share with the world. Make sure you discover your gift, and give it to others.  Until next week, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy😊


P.S. My book Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be is now available.  Check it out at https://www.balboapress.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?Book=749140!

Monday, October 30, 2017

What the World Needs Now




Compassion and Gratitude Equal Peace and Love.
 Look back in forgiveness, forward in hope,
down in compassion, and up with gratitude.
—Zig Ziglar

A few days ago, a friend and I drove by a homeless person who looked very sad, tired, and hopeless. My friend mentioned that she felt badly for her; she wished homelessness didn’t exist. I told her that there was a difference between feeling sorry for someone who was living in these circumstances and having compassion and empathy for them. I shared my belief that the three most powerful emotions that should guide our lives are gratitude, empathy, and compassion. These three emotions are needed if you want to live a life of abundance and success.  With gratitude you see your blessings, which will result in more blessings in your life. With compassion and empathy, you get to experience the passion that exists in your heart for others. Compassion and empathy give you the opportunity to share your love with those in need of love. Today, let’s talk about these three emotions, which the world needs more people to experience to help make it a better place.

Why gratitude?
Gratitude is the gift you should seek because it magnifies the blessings in your life. With gratitude you get to notice how blessed you really are. Counting your blessings ignites your joy. The emotion of gratitude also reminds you of all the wonderful people, circumstances, and experiences that occupy your life.  If you practice gratitude, you feel abundance. You need nothing else, so anything extra you receive is just a cherry on top! I find that when I don’t focus on my blessings, my pain, sorrow, and disappointments deepen. Without gratitude you see only the negative aspects of your life. If you exclude gratitude, you go through life feeling a sense of lack. People who have happy lives practice gratitude and feel a sense of completeness. They seek more blessings by being in the moment and noticing all the wonderful elements in their lives. With this attitude, they attract more wonderful experiences to their lives.

Why compassion?
Do you want love in your heart? Then practice compassion for yourself and others. What do I mean by this? When you have compassion for yourself, you love yourself. You do things for yourself that benefit the growth of your spirit. You never compromise your mission. You know you are valuable. With compassion, you can love yourself and others because you have an open heart. If you have an open heart, the energy of love you send out will reflect back to you in abundance. With compassion in your heart you get to feel the joy of helping others. You identify with others because we are interconnected; we are one. With compassion, you find love and peace in your soul and get to share that with others.

Seek empathy.
If you struggle with feeling empathy toward others, here is a way to practice it using
Just Like Me steps :
Step 1: "Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life."
Step 2: "Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life."
Step 3: "Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness, and despair."
Step 4: "Just like me, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs."
Step 5: "Just like me, this person is learning about life."

As I reflected on why I will continue to seek empathy, compassion, and gratitude in my life, I concluded that my reason is so that I can feel more peace and love within myself. I wish that you, too, can feel more peace and love. Give yourself the gifts of empathy, compassion, and gratitude. And see other people’s suffering with empathy and compassion. This is your gift to the world.
Until next Monday! Remember to Believe. Change. Become!

Sending many blessings and love your way!

Nancy😊







Monday, October 23, 2017

How to Attract What You Desire to Your Life


"Imagine with all your mind.
Believe with all your heart.
   Achieve with all your might."

—photoswithquotes.com

I am super excited!  Next week I will present a Make Your Dreams Come True workshop.  I love sharing this powerful workshop, but I have been experiencing nightmares these last couple of days. 
I dream that I am called to the stage to speak, but I am not ready!  I am missing my shoes. As I start looking for them, I can’t find a matching pair.  Finally, I find two shoes that are not a pair but are the same color— bright yellow. One is a sandal and the other is a high heel. I decide that the audience won’t notice, because the shoes are the same color.
I wake up in a panic and try to analyze my dream.  I have concluded that the bright, yellow color of the shoes promises that my presentation will be bright and fun.  The feeling of not being ready is a negative thought that is taking away from my positive energy.  To remind you, and myself, about the power of positive vs. negative thoughts, let’s talk about attracting what you desire or believe should be yours.  Today I want to help you understand, “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you believe!”  Here are five tips for attracting what you desire:
Know What You Desire.
As a first step in attracting what you desire,  be ridiculous with your desires and dreams. Do not limit yourself.  Dream big, and then make the dream bigger. Do you desire a new job?  Yes? Then dream about a job where you showcase what you are passionate about.  Don’t settle for just any new job. Go crazy, go big, and be specific.  Sometimes this task can be difficult because as children we were told to “Stop dreaming!” or to “Get down from that cloud!”  Today I want to tell you it’s okay to dream, and it’s even better if your dream seems out of reach!

Feel Your Dreams. 
It is important to set a time to daydream.  Give yourself a few minutes every day!  Feel what it would be like to have a job or career that you are passionate about. Imagine looking forward to Mondays like you look forward to Fridays. Imagine waking yourself without an alarm clock.  Feel the joy of living in a home that rises to greet you.  Feel the happiness of a more loving relationship with your family.  It is when we get in the feel stage that we activate positive energy for our desires.

Believe Your Desires Are Yours .
I read somewhere that the universe is like a super store.  Everything you desire is waiting there for you.  The price you must pay is the price of believing.  Believe that if you desire something you were destined to have it.  Your desires were given to you for a reason.  Don’t be modest with your desires. Believe you are worth it!

Take Action and Be Grateful.
One of the hardest challenges about teaching the power of believing is that many people think that if they believe with all their might their desires will simply appear.  And, yes, some dreams can appear effortlessly.  Yet, for the most part, action makes dreams come true.  The way I describe this to my clients is by telling them that the universe is energy, and so are we.  When we put action or energy into our dreams, it matches the energy of the universe and becomes more powerful. Believing is a required step to get what you desire, but  action fuels goals and dreams.  In addition, practicing gratitude increases your positive energy frequency, and you will attract more positive results to  your life!

Be Happy and Be Patient.
Patience and happiness may seem contradictory, but you can make them work in harmony.  I have said before that patience is knowing without a doubt that what you are desiring will be yours.  Be patient, enjoy where you are at this moment, and be happy.  Believe that everything you desire will come to you at the right moment.  If you do this, anything and everything you dream is possible!

In conclusion, to attract what you desire start with changing your energy.  Believe that everything you desire will be yours, take action toward your goals, practice patience, and always be grateful for what you already have!  Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!
Sending many blessings and love your way,
Nancy😊




Monday, October 16, 2017

Nine Reasons We Fail to Pursue Our Purpose


“Allow your passion to become your purpose,
 and it will one day become your profession.”
—Quoteistan.com
I have been asked to do a presentation at a local college in my hometown. I am very excited about this presentation because I feel that college students and people in general need to discover and pursue their purpose to live a fulfilled life. I believe that following your passion will connect you to your purpose. It should be your life’s mission to seek your why. As you discover your why—your reason for living—you will remember that you have a gift that you must share with the world. This journey of self-discovery or remembering is not easy, but it’s necessary so that you can live a life of passion and bliss. Here are nine reasons why many fail to pursue their purpose.

Reason one: We seek outside ourselves
We never fully silence the ego voice and listen to the inner spirit voice so that we can pursue what makes us come alive. We listen to our parents, friends, and to the outside world because we believe they know best. Stop seeking outside yourself for answers. Look within to discover your why, your reason for living. It is only those who trust in their soul’s voice who will fully understand how passion is linked to their purpose. It is these self-aware individuals who realize that they are no accident and who will impact and change the world beautifully. Are you one?

Reason Two: We are afraid to fail
On your journey to remembering why you are here, you will fail. It’s part of the journey. But it’s also part of the growth. Without failure, you will never fully understand your strength. Failure is also a guide; it points you in the right direction. If I had succeeded in everything that I have done, I would never have improved myself or my business. We need failure to develop patience and perseverance in ourselves.

Reason Three: We fight change
Change is uncomfortable. At times, it’s actually painful. We fear the unknown because we are creatures of habit. But without change we would not have seasons; we would not have growth. Change is a blessing in disguise if you embrace it and don’t fight it.

Reason Four: We get comfortable
I believe comfort can become uncomfortable after a while. It is part of our human nature to explore and to seek.  When you become comfortable you don’t challenge your true potential. You become stuck and stagnant and you don’t grow. Being comfortable can be a way we hide from our truest self. Our soul has a mission, which is to remind you about your purpose. Your purpose may be hiding within your comfort zone.

Reason Five: Life happens
Yes, life happens. You get married, have children, acquire a mortgage, pay bills, and then die. Wow! That sounded so morbid—the “pay bills and die” part. I know life happens, but that does not mean you need to stop believing in and pursuing your dreams. On the contrary, you need to be more adamant about pursuing your dreams. Remember, you are the role model for your children. Leave the legacy of self-exploration. Inspire them with your life. Show them the rewards of living a life of passion!

Reason Six: We wait for the “right” time
There is no right time. There is only now! Do something every day that will bring you closer to your life dreams and goals. For those that absolutely hate their jobs, I want to assure you that your purpose is waiting for you. You don’t have to quit your job right now, but have a plan to start doing something that will align you with your purpose.

Reason Seven: We don’t have enough time
“There is no time in the day to do what I love,” I have been told. Oh, yes there is! There are 24 hours in the day. Whether you believe it or not, if you are mindful of your day, you will have at least one hour to dedicate to whatever you are passionate about. When you dedicate time to what you love it becomes a habit. These habits will align you with your reason for being on this planet. You are worthy of giving yourself one hour a day to pursue that special something that is connected to your reason for existing.

Reason Eight: We tried and failed
We all have failed. But the biggest failure is to waste our life doing something we hate. You will fail many times when you pursue your purpose. That is okay because it’s part of the journey. Fail forward and never fall into complacency. Some of the most successful people in the world stumbled and failed their way into success.

Reason Nine: We don’t believe it to be possible
“To achieve, you first have to believe!” I heard that somewhere and it has never left me. To believe in your purpose is to give yourself permission to live a life of meaning. When you understand that your dreams and desires were given only to you, they start to become a reality. If you have doubts about your ability to become what you desire, you will never become who you were meant to be. Believe in your dreams and persevere!

Your life is a gift. Discover that gift by deciding to pursue your passion so that you may remember your purpose. Remember, beautiful, you already have everything you need to make all of your life dreams and goals a reality. Your first step is to understand how amazing you are; your second step is to believe that everything you desire is possible for you. We are waiting for your gift—for that special something you do best. Don’t keep us away from your gift. Share it with the world! Until next time, Believe. Change. Become!

Sending many blessings and love your way!


Nancy😊

Monday, October 9, 2017

How to Pursue Your Goals



“Be stubborn about your goals,
 but flexible about your methods.”
—Unknown
I did it! I accomplished my dream of becoming an author. I believe having a supportive tribe of amazing women and my awesome editor, Debbie Miller , contributed to me realizing my dream. The journey of becoming an author was not easy. I experienced many stumbles and falls on the road, yet the journey has been an adventurous and rewarding one. I learned a great deal about flexibility, patience, and perseverance. Writing a book was very therapeutic for me. The book I wrote, Believe. Change. Become. is my story of believing, changing, and becoming. The writing process reminded me of who I am and who I want to become. Writing this book validated that everything I have been through thus far has prepared me for who I am today. This is just the beginning for me. I have many more books to write and many more ways to grow and become. With all that said, I must be kind and gentle with myself. I must savor this moment, stay present, and be in the flow of life. To enjoy milestones, you must remember that reaching the goal is not the most important thing; rather it is learning to experience peace and contentment as you reach for your goal. Here are some tips on surrendering, staying present on your journey, and loving your destination.

Set your goals, but be mindful in your approach to how you acquire them.
I have a problem with people that hustle their way to their dreams. It is important to work on your goals everyday, but it’s also important to remember to enjoy life. Many dreamers forget that life will not stop because you are pursuing your dreams. People die and children grow up, so you must remember to spend time with the people you love. Toward the end of writing my book, I was so adamant that I wanted to finish that I avoided time with friends and family.  Don’t get me wrong. You need to be mindful of your time, but don’t forget to live. Take time for the people and things you love. Make time for a coffee date with a friend. Spend time with your children. Call your parents. These are the little things that will become the big things when the people you love are no longer around.

Let go of perfection.
Stress can be caused by seeking perfection. Let’s get real. There is no such thing as perfection. Many people don’t pursue their dreams or goals because they believe that everything they do must be perfect. Perfection is an illusion. I have found that it’s better to get something started and put it out in the world than to never share because your project is not perfect. Perfection happens when you get your work out and improve it as time goes by. Please let go of perfection.

Things will fall apart, but you should trust the process.
Many things went wrong during the process of publishing my book. There were many days when I felt like giving up, but giving up is not part of my nature. When things fell apart, I had to trust the process. I had to learn the lesson and move on. As things fall apart with your dreams and goals, don’t despair. Keep on moving forward. It’s those unexpected detours that will provide better scenery for your journey.

Surrender it all and stumble into joy.
After you have dedicated your personal best to your dreams and goals, remember to surrender it all. I had to surrender expectations when dealing with my publishing company on more than one occasion. When I did that, I rediscovered joy. You will discover great peace when you surrender yourself to your God or the universe. I work hard on my desires, but there comes a time when I surrender to the universe. As I trust the universe to hold my desires, I receive more blessings than I had originally expected. Being reminded that you deserve much more than you originally thought is a perk of surrendering. Try it! Work for your desires, but then release them and see what happens.

Writing a book has been one of my biggest accomplishments. It was not easy, but I am glad I did it. Again, I am blessed that I had a wonderful tribe of women who supported me every step of the way. I am proud of my work, but I have learned to put less pressure on myself when I work on my goals and dreams. I have learned to trust the process, but most important, I have learned to trust and love myself more. Yes, believe in your dreams. Pursue your life goals. But remember to practice being present, being patient, and surrendering it all. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy😊

PS. Here is a link to my book. Check it out! http://www.balboapress.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?BookId=SKU-001112832




Monday, October 2, 2017

Don’t Ask for Change. Be the Change.



“I always wondered why somebody 
didn’t do something about that.
Then I realized I am somebody.”  -Unknown

I immigrated to this country when I was two years old. I was one of the lucky ones who could get a visa because my grandfather was in the Bracero Program, which brought millions of Mexican workers to the United States between 1942 and 1964. Currently, there are nearly 800,000 young undocumented immigrants brought to the United States as children who are not as lucky as I was. Since 2012, these immigrants were protected by Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA). The purpose of DACA was to protect eligible immigrant youth who came to the United States when they were children from deportation. The current president has recently ended DACA. I could have been one of these young immigrants. I am sad for them. Today I want to dedicate this blog post to them.

Superman can’t save you. You can save you. I know the direction of our country and our world looks grim, but we need to stay hopeful and optimistic that the clouds will clear and the rainbow will appear. I know that uncertainty and instability can cause chaos within ourselves. We all want to be assured that we will be okay. We all need to feel that we are going to be taken care of. Only when you decide to be your own hero, can you save yourself and influence others. It’s going to be up to you to change whatever situation you are dealing with into a prosperous one. Don’t expect world leaders to fix your problems. Rise above your problems and, as you do, you will become the shining light who will guide others to do the same. Step out of your comfort zone. Be the change you want to see in your home, community, and world. More than ever, we need beacons of light who will shine light on the injustices of the world. More than ever, we need you to step up for the scapegoats of our nation. There are no accidents in life, just lessons. There are lessons to be found in what is going on in the world—lessons we may have forgotten—lessons that will remind us that our power is found in our human spirit. We have much to learn about our true purpose on this planet. Today, I want to challenge you to get uncomfortable; to fight for your joy and happiness; to fight for your dreams! Know that we can no longer blame others for the cause of our misery and expect others to bring us joy and certainty. It’s YOU, and only you, who has the power to transform your life and impact the life of others.  Are you willing to give up some comfort to create a better world for yourself and others? Here are three tips on how to be the change you want to see.

What is something you would like to change in your home, community, or the world?
A key to being a change agent is to identify what you want to change. What is something that drives you insane? What do you desire? Do you wish people were kinder to each other? Are you seeking more connection? Do you wish there was no more prejudice? I believe that we all have a purpose—a mission—in life. We are all impacting the world with our life views and ideas. What moves you? When we identify what we would like to change, we transcend into purpose. We all have a mission for our lives. There is significance in discovering what your mission is and pursuing it. My mission is to inspire you to believe in your dreams by defying all of your limiting beliefs. I also seek to remind you that although many people have surrendered to fear, love is the superpower given to us by our creator to change the world.

You can do something big or small.
To be the change you must emulate what you are seeking to change. For example, if you are seeking less prejudice in the world, ask yourself if you are being open and inviting to people who may be different than you. If you are seeking more kindness, be an example of kindness and love. As you change your old ways, you will influence others to do the same. It’s your light that will bring clarity to others. It’s easier to point fingers and blame others for problems. Instead, be the solution, be the change. Little things you do can have major ripple effects in your family, community, and the world.

Your success is dependent on taking care of yourself.
You can’t change the world if you don’t take care of yourself. Love yourself. Listen to your inner wisdom. Take care of your body, mind, and soul. When you are an advocate for yourself, you can better affect those around you. You give them the best of you, and they, in return, give you their best. As I become aware of my love for myself, I can give more to others. When you value and respect your being, it gives others permission to love and respect themselves.

Our world needs your help. Those who have decided to be the change they want to see in the world have indeed changed the world. Know that you are capable of influencing others with your good deeds. It can be your mission to seek change for the better. To be successful in changing the world you must take care of yourself and reflect what you want to see in the world.  Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!
Sending many blessings and love your way,

Nancy😊

Monday, September 25, 2017

Is It Time to Give Up on Your Dreams?


"Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps our ships from sailing."
-Unknown


“I don’t know if I can continue doing this,” my coaching client told me, as we drank coffee and talked about her past business failure. She had joined a health food network marketing business that she thought had lots of potential, but she had not succeeded yet.  “I didn’t know there would be so much disappointment in pursuing my dreams. I have lost confidence that I could possibly be successful,” she shared.
“Failures are not the end of a dream; they are lessons you have to learn,” I responded. “Failures are kinks that you need to work out before you can grow. Think about your business failure. What is something that you learned from it? What could you do differently next time?”
“Well, I guess I could invite extra people to my presentations, so that I have a better result.”
“Yes, and remember that you are just starting. It will take some time to get momentum, but you will get there. For now, a small group is a perfect opportunity to practice your presentation with the few people that do show up,” I told her.
“I had not thought about it that way,” she said. “You are right. A small group is a perfect opportunity for me to get better at my presentations. Thank you!”
We have all felt disappointed at times when pursuing a new career venture, a dream, or a life goal. I personally know what it is like to fail my way to the top. I have been disappointed many times, but I have learned to pick myself up quickly. Here are four tips that will help you manage self-doubt resulting from a failure.

“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
As entrepreneurs, we assume that success happens overnight. Why not? We are passionate about our service or product, so everybody else should be too, right? The reality is that success requires time. Give yourself time to grow. We make a mistake when we believe success happens overnight. Studies show that it could take three to five years, sometimes even longer, to achieve success in a new business. Although there is no exact timeline for success, I believe that you become successful when you make the choice to dedicate time to a life goal or dream.

Remember a time when you were successful.
I know it’s hard to stay positive when you have failed, but you must remember the times when you were successful. Know that you can win because you have won before. Write down your WINS. Ask family and friends to remind you of the times when you reached your goals. We are so critical of ourselves; we focus so much on our failures that we forget about our past triumphs.

Love yourself.
 “Love Yourself,” says the motivational speaker and author, Louise Hay. In the past, I did not understand that this phrase is the answer to many of our problems. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with dignity and respect. Think about someone that you love—perhaps your child, husband, or wife. Would you mentally abuse them? No. Then why would you abuse yourself? When you love yourself, you speak kind words to yourself. You believe in yourself and know that you are worthy and capable of acquiring your dreams. Be as kind to yourself as you are to others.

Fail, fail, and fail some more.
Remember that when you fail it’s a sign that you are trying. The detours that you encounter on the road to success will eventually put you on the right track. Failure is part of growth. Embrace it, learn from it, and move on. As I continue to fail, I am proud of my personal growth. Failure has taught me that there is no one way to get to my final destination. Dare to fail. Dare to learn. Dare to grow.

As I fail forward, I realize that in life we must experience disappointment so that we can not only learn from our failures, but also appreciate our successes more. It’s a win-win because it teaches us so much about ourselves and our strength. Expect disappointment on your journey to your becoming. Expect success as well. Love yourself, and know that you are worthy of treating yourself with dignity and respect. As you do, you set the mood for others to do the same, and you also gain the stamina to continue to move forward even when all hope seems gone. Keep your chin up, beautiful, and persevere! A day will come when you will look back at your stumbles and failures and be glad you never gave up. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!

Nancy😊

Monday, August 28, 2017

Change and Personal Growth


"We cannot become what we need to be 
by remaining what we are."
-Max DePree

Time and change have taken my baby and are transforming her into a young lady. My nine-year-old daughter, Miranda, will be turning ten years old in a few months. Last week I told her that we needed to start to focus on the theme of her birthday celebration. I like to take a few months to find decorations, invitations, and all the materials needed for a great party. Since we have a large family, every year we have a big birthday party with fifty-plus guests. It’s a very elaborate celebration. For the last nine years the themes for her birthday parties have been Disney Princesses. It’s a great time with family and friends and something that we all look forward to every year. But this year the tradition will end because my daughter asked if she could have a spa birthday party with her best friends instead. I tried to convince her to not change the tradition, but I quickly realized that I was fearing and fighting change. I wanted my little girl to still want Disney Princess theme parties, but she is growing up. She is seeking change, and change is inevitable. I was surprised at my resistance to her growing up. I, someone who advocates change and who understands that we must seek change if we want to grow, am truly having a tough time letting her grow up. I understood why fear appeared in my heart. Fear appears in our hearts because change and fear go hand in hand. We fear the unknown that comes with change. I told myself that it was normal to fear change, but I also reminded myself to embrace it and not fight it. Here are three tips on why or when you should seek change and not fight it.

Seek change when you are seeking self-improvement.
Are you doing something that is compromising your true potential? There is true greatness in you that needs to be uncovered so that you may fulfill your best self.  Are you seeking to move up in your career? Are you seeking a different career? Do you want to get healthier? Then you must pursue change. In these cases, change is essential for your personal growth. You are actively pursuing change because you understand it will result in a better you. This type of change will happen when you go after it.  Yes, making changes for your personal growth can be uncomfortable and requires a lot of work, but it’s necessary for you to discover your true self.

Seek change for a better life.
Are you happy—I mean happy, not just content—with your personal relationships with your children, partner, and family? If you said yes, skip this section. If not, then you must seek change. I believe that in personal relationships you should never be only content. In these areas, you should seek happiness. The trick to being happy with your relationships is to be the change. Remember a couple of weeks ago, I talked about being the change you want to see? Well, you must apply that same principle in your personal relationships. Don’t seek to change others; seek to change yourself.

When change finds you
Change is inevitable. You don’t need to seek change all the time because it will find you. Change that finds you can be an unexpected death, divorce, or job loss. It’s the way life reminds us that nothing is constant and that nothing is forever.  Again, I know it’s scary, but in the end you will see that change was necessary for a new beginning. In my case, my little girl is growing up. I knew she would grow up, but it caught me off guard. This unexpected change reminded me of my mortality. It reminded me that change is part of life, and that I must embrace it. I was also reminded that I must embrace who my daughter is becoming and continue to support her in her growth. She was my beautiful baby. Now she is becoming a beautiful young lady. Change can open doors to ever more wonderful things, if you decide to accept it graciously.

If you want to have a life of daring and adventure, embrace change. Don’t fear it. Change reminds us that we are mortal; nothing is constant in our lives. Also realize that change exists to push you to do new and wonderful things in your life. Change also shows you what you are made of. Change may push you to your limits, but it will also make you limitless.  Until next Monday, Believe, Change, Become!

Sending many blessings and love your way!

Nancy Salmeron😊


Monday, August 21, 2017

Why Should You Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch?


"Believe you can and you're halfway there."

-T. Roosevelt

Recently I read a sign that made me smile. It said, "Don't count your chickens before they hatch." It made me smile because I think that this idiom can make us skeptical. I believe this expression takes us away from positive thinking.  Can you plan for a future without faith? Can you follow dreams without hope?  Some would argue that it is wiser to be realistic even if it requires a pessimistic view.  I would argue that being realistic is a dream killer. Would we have Disneyland if Walt Disney had been realistic and had a “real job” and never pursued his dream of animation? Would we have an Oprah Winfrey if she had not believed that there was something better for her than being a news anchor? I call people who count their chickens before they hatch optimists. They have only positive expectations and prevail most of the time.  When they don't prevail, they readjust their sails, and try again! Those who don’t count their chickens before they hatch are pessimists. They buy into such views because they don’t want to get excited over something that may not happen. In their viewpoint, it's better not to, as Wikipedia puts it, "expect all of your hopes to be fulfilled."  This view is based on fear.  When we think this way, we can talk ourselves out of wonderful things.  We know that Steve Jobs and Albert Einstein would not have accomplished what they did, if they had not believed in their dreams first. They stuck with working on their inventions because they were people who “counted their chickens before they hatched."  Look around you. Every invention or creation that was ever fulfilled started with the visualization that it was possible. It started with the belief that it could and would happen. Here are three tips about how to live in optimism and count your chickens before they hatch.

Be clear on your desires.
What do you desire? Do you really want those chickens to hatch? Be clear on your life goals and dreams. If your desire is to be a chef, what type of food do you want to cook? Do you want to own a restaurant or work in a top-rated restaurant? Don’t be afraid to dream big and to ask for big things. If you are desiring to be the CEO of your company, it’s because it’s possible for you. Don’t limit yourself by playing small. When you play small you are taking away from your God-given potential. As I got clear on my desires, amazing people showed up to help make my dreams a reality. I know that this will be true for you also.

Visualize and believe that it’s possible.
Why not try visualization? You have nothing to lose and many wonderful things to gain. Visualization is the first step to your dreams. To visualize is to use your imagination through pictures or mental imagery to create visions of what we want in our lives.  Next you must believe in your dreams. To believe is to know without a doubt that what you desire will become.  When you play it, safe and don’t count your chickens before they hatch, you bring doubt to your dreams. I believe that this idiom cuts your wings. If you want to pursue something that you have never done before, you must believe that it’s possible. When you truly believe, you are halfway there!

Let go of negativity.
Negativity, be gone! As someone who counts my chickens before they have hatched, I had to let go of worst-case scenarios. I needed to stay positive and only expect positive results. When problems appeared, I learned to see them only as detours to my destination. Don’t complain about your failures; learn from them.
I used to be scared to count my chickens before they hatched.  I guess I believed that if I thought positively, I would jinx or bring bad luck to my desires. In my humble mind, positive things could not happen to me. I also believed it was better not to have high expectations, so that I would not be disappointed.  You know the strangest thing?  I couldn’t believe that great things could happen to me, but I expected bad things to happen all the time!  In other words, I assumed that I was not going to get any chickens, and was not able to stay optimistic that my eggs would become chicks. It’s funny how our brain works, or should I say, it’s funny how the brain works us?

I hope that I have influenced you to “count your chickens before they hatch.” You are EXTRAORDINARY, and for this reason you should only see the possibilities, not the limits, of your dreams.  Remember, dream big. Only have positive expectations.  Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!


Nancy😊

Monday, August 14, 2017

How to Deal with Tough Times




"Be strong because things will get better.
It may be stormy now,
but it never rains forever."
-Unknown

I am amazed at the resilience of our human spirit. A few days ago, I walked into my favorite coffee shop, and I met a stranger who became a friend. I normally don’t stay to drink my coffee, but something compelled me to stay this time. A woman with a gentle smile was seated at the table next to mine. She said hello, I introduced myself, and it felt like we were long lost friends.
To keep her anonymity, I will call her Stacy. Her husband had just passed away due to cancer. Since she was a stay-at-home mom and had no formal income coming in, she was in the process of losing her home. She planned to move with her two children into her brother’s home and live with his family of five. I asked her how she was handling this very difficult situation, and she said, “I take it a day at a time and count my blessings every day.” This made me think about the topic for today’s blog, which is how to deal with hopeless times.
If you are going through difficult times, this post is especially for you. Here are three things that will help you to carry on when you are feeling hopeless and defeated.

Embrace, or at least accept, change.
Accepting change is crucial in dealing with difficult times. It is my belief that one reason that we struggle with tragedies in our lives such as death, losing a job, separation, or divorce is because we can’t accept that our life will never be the same. We are creatures of habit. We like to know what to expect. When our life changes, we fight it and dwell on the past.  In my case, the death of my beloved cousin, Sam, impacted and changed my existence. Losing her to cancer when she was only fourteen was hard to comprehend or accept. I could not believe that she would no longer be part of my life. But I finally embraced it when I realized that although she would not be part of my future, she would always be in my memories. I have great stories to tell about Sam, yet I understand now that my acceptance of losing her helped me move on to a better place. Let go of the past, and accept what is. Remember life is constant change. Things always get better if you give life a chance!

Change your lens or perspective.
Zoom into a better lens. Some of the problems or tragedies in your life are a subset of other things that may be going on in your life. I know it’s difficult to change your perspective when there is a death of a loved one, but as with other problems you need to focus on the grand scheme of things. Fear of the unknown may pop up because of a change, yet understand that unless you face your fear you will not be able to change your view of your life challenge. In my case, with the death of Sam, I finally understood that cancer had made her body weak, and we had to let her go. It was no longer about us and how much we would miss her. It was about her pain. By changing the lens on why she needed to give up the fight, my perspective shifted into surrender and acceptance. Sometimes it’s okay to surrender the fight to shift your perspective.

Remember to count your blessings.
To count your blessings may sound like a clichΓ©, yet it’s always a best practice when dealing with difficult times. What helps me count my blessings is the understanding that it could have been worse. If you look around, there are blessings to count. In the case of Stacy, it could have been worse if she did not have her brother. She could have been homeless with her two children. Stacy told me that she was also grateful for the support of her friends. In Sam’s case, it could have been worse if she had suffered with chemo longer than she did. I miss her, but I am happy she is no longer in pain. Count your blessings if you are going through tough times, and don’t forget that in due time, this too shall pass. Remember nothing is forever, and you have the spirit of a lion!

In conclusion, your problems or your life’s difficulties come to you to teach you something about your spirit. They remind you of your strength. Whatever you are going through, or will go through, is given to you because you can handle it. Nothing is forever, even our pain, and worries will transform into happiness and joy. Have faith in yourself and find strength by accepting change, changing your lens, and counting your blessings! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and much love your way!

Nancy😊

Monday, August 7, 2017

How to Stay Consistent with Consistency



“Your dreams depend on determination and consistency to come alive.”
                                                                                     -Nancy Salmeron

As I thought about today’s post I realized that I am a creature of habit. My morning routine starts with drinking a cold glass of water and taking my vitamins. I then make my bed and brush my teeth. Next, I drive to the gym where I do some cardio, go back home to meditate for twenty minutes, and then have my oatmeal and black coffee. This is all before 9:00 a.m. This is how I start my day, before I start my workday. I then attend to my scheduled appointments.  My routine changes if I must go out of town, but for the most part I am constant with my routine, and I like it this way. I am a person that strives to commit to consistency. I am also a person that holds her commitments to a high standard. If I say I am going to do something, I do it. If I say I am going to be somewhere, I’m there. I believe that this commitment to consistency is what has made me able to meet my goals and accomplish some of my dreams. What about you? How do you feel about consistency? If you are seeking to improve or change any aspect of your life, you need to implement consistency. But consistency can be difficult to start or keep up. Here are five tips to staying consistent so that you can accomplish your dreams and goals!

Think about your why.
Consistency is essential in reaching short and long-term goals. Think about that goal or dream you are seeking. For example, perhaps you have a goal to lose weight. Why is this important to you? Is it for health reasons? If your reasons will truly impact or change your life, then you will do it. If you don’t have a big enough why you will fail to stay consistent. My why for wanting to be healthier is so I can live longer for my family and have more time to live out my purpose, which is helping others find their passion. Your why should push you to be consistent with the small steps that you need to take to reach your goal. A powerful why will make a big difference in your ability to stay consistent with new behavior and reach your goals.

Focus on one goal at a time.
To be consistent and successful you must stay focused. When you have too many goals that you are working on, you will not get any done. Identify your most important or essential goal that you need to accomplish first, so you can finish it and move onto your next goal. I have experienced that when I try to focus on too many goals at once, I don’t know where to start. What I suggest is to focus on one thing at a time. Once that goal is accomplished, feel free to move onto your next goal.

Schedule a time to work on your goal.
When I started blogging, I decided that I would commit myself to my blog every Monday morning. This time is sacred for me. I don’t schedule appointments on Monday morning that would take away from my commitment to work on my blog. This is part of my weekly routine. I feel accomplished when I finish my post every Monday morning. I am committed to my blog 100 percent! Once you identify your priority goal, you need to put a regular time to work on it in your calendar and stick with it. If you do it long enough, it will become part of your routine, like sleeping or eating.

Watch out for negative feelings and inner critics.
I must ignore negative inner voices that tell me that I am wasting my time. These voices want to discourage me from doing something new, because they want me to stay in my comfort zone. I must silence the voice that tells me that going to the gym to work out is a waste of time and that I should go back to sleep. We all struggle with these negative inner voices that want to sabotage our dreams and goals. Ignore them!

Get back on the wagon.
Yes, I have fallen off the wagon a couple of times. I have gone back to sleep instead of going to the gym in the morning. However, then I will find a time to work out in the evening. Understand that falling off the wagon can happen, but know that you can get back on. The point is to be consistent with the tasks that will get you to your goal.  

To be consistent is to be on the path to your goals and dreams. It may not be easy, but once you make consistency part of your routine, it’s hard to be inconsistent. Remember, it’s the small steps and tasks that you do today that will make a great difference in your life tomorrow. Give your goals and dreams the time and dedication required, so they may come alive. Know that you may get off track because of distractions, but also know that you can always get back on track. As part of my commitment to being consistent with myself and my readers, I want to thank you for being a consistent reader of my blog. You push me to keep on blogging. See you next Monday! Don’t forget to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME.
Sending many blessings and love your way!

Nancy😊

Monday, July 31, 2017

The Purpose of a Life Coach


"Coaching is the universal language of change and learning."
-CNN
Last week I was at a networking event and I was asked what a life coach did. I said that a life coach is a professional who helps you reach a goal or make a change in your life. They help you to figure out where you are stuck in your life and how to start taking action to change and move forward. Here is more information on how I can empower you live a purpose filled life!

Why use the services of a life coach?
Life coaching is a collaboration between the life coach and a client designed to tap into your full potential. Just as Olympic athletes wouldn’t think of training without the added insight, objective perspective, and enthusiastic support of an athletic coach, many of today’s most successful business leaders, professionals, executives, entrepreneurs, and CEOs use the services of a life coach to take their lives, careers, or businesses to the next level.

How I can help you.
My focus is to help you realize your potential by reminding you of your purpose. I do that by helping you to awaken to what makes you come alive. I help you to find your passion. Here are some signs that you are seeking a higher purpose for your life:

You are wondering if there is more to life.
Have you asked yourself if there is more to life than what you are currently experiencing? If so, you are seeking significance and purpose. You probably feel stuck and confused because the material things of the world no longer fulfill you.

You are wondering about “what ifs?”
If you are wondering if you can make a dream a reality, I am here to tell you it can be done. I will help you work on your mind so that your dreams don’t stay as “what ifs,” but become realities.

You’re feeling lost in life.
 Maybe you don’t know what your “thing” is. Maybe you don’t love your job, or you feel like you’re not living, but simply existing. I can help you with that.

How does life coaching work?
As a personal development coach, I will help you identify your personal values. We often inherit values from our families or from society, but without examination we may not know if these really are our truest values. Once you are clear on your values, you can get clear on what is important to you.If you are unhappy in your life and want to make changes, I can provide an objective viewpoint that will help you pinpoint why you’re unhappy. Then I can help you make changes. I can show you how to transform an attitude of doubting in yourself into an attitude of believing in yourself. Together we will name your fears, and you will learn tools to take action despite them. By doing this, you will exchange fear for courage. I will support you in realizing your full potential by encouraging you to dream a bigger life for yourself. Are you ready to live your purpose? If so, I am ready to help you.

If you have more questions on how I can help you take your life from good to great connect with me at www.believechangebecome.com or Nancy@believechangebecome.com. Until next time Believe. Change. Become!

Sending many blessings and love your way!