Monday, October 17, 2016

Four Tips on How to Make Joy Your Choice


“We are our choices.”
-J.P. Sartre

The power of choice is that you can always change what you don’t like in your life. But sometimes we forget this. Last week I had a conversation with a friend who told me she was ready to make a change in her career. I asked her why it took her so long to make that decision. She said the fear of the unknown, fear of losing stability, and the fear of making a mistake was what kept her there. “We are our choices,” I told her, and you are deciding to give fear the power. She continued to justified why she had made the choice to stay in a job that she hated. I told her that until she made the choice to change her situation her life would not change.

What choices are you making that are not making your happy? Here are some tips to make that choice that will bring you more joy!

Identify what is not making you happy.
It is very important to look at what is taking away from your joy. Is it a job or a relationship? Somehow we believe that we don’t have the power to change things in our life that are not making us happy. The truth is that we always have the power to change what is not working in our lives. You have to make the choice. You have to DECIDE that you are going to let change take place in your life. When you do, it’s a step forward in the right direction to a new life.

Stop fearing the unknown.
What stops us from making the choice to change something in our life is fear. Yes, it can be scary to change, but it’s scarier to stay in a place that you no longer belong. Face fear head on. Don’t let fear control your life. Trust me when I tell you that fear is scarier in our minds. I am not saying it won’t be hard, but you can do it. Don’t fear the change fear staying the same!

Don’t over think the process.
What if this happens? What if that happens? What if nothing happens? Don’t over think the process. Take it a day at a time. If you decide to take a leap of faith and leave that relationship that is making you unhappy. Listen to your inner voice, not the fearful voice. Not the one that is asking the questions above, but the one that is calm, the one that tells it would work. The one that started to point out that you were not happy in the first place. Trust that voice, it knows what you need to do and where you will go. In life sometimes you have to surrender and let go!

Make the choice to be happy.
Happiness is ever fleeting. But it’s a choice. This does not mean that you will not encounter sadness or disappointment. It does mean however, that when those sad or difficult moments show up you will embrace them, and you will also know how to let them go. It is in the choices you make that you bring joy. It is in the decision to not compromise who you are and what you are about that you will discover joy. Make the choice to follow your bliss. Make the choice that no matter how difficult things get in your life you will always be on the lookout for the silver lining.

My choice is joy. This does not mean that fear and disappointment don’t happen in my life, I have simply decided to give joy a bigger stage. When you decided to focus on happiness, you will see how effortless things become. You will let go of things that don’t contribute to your spiritual evolution. Relax, be O.K. with deciding that you are worthy of love, peace and joy. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

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