Monday, October 31, 2016

Four Steps to Getting Your Desires


Your spirit is the universal voice of love-in you.
-Darren L. Johnson

“We never get what we want, we get what we BELIEVE we deserve.” I told my new client as she shared that she always gets the short end of the stick in her professional and personal relationships. As a personal development coach, l love teaching my clients that they are creators of their lives. I tell them that they start designing their lives in their minds, and that our minds are being govern by two voices the spirit voice and the ego voice. The ego voice is fear based. In its efforts to protect us the ego voice focuses on the things that could go wrong, it tells you that you are not smart enough to get that promotion, good enough to be in a relationship. It never believes that wonderful things are possible. On the other hand, the spirit voice reminds you how amazing you are, it tells you that you are worthy of you desires and that you should pursue them. This voice is love based not fear based. When the spirit voice takes lead, you will be on your way to a life of bliss. It’s not an easy task to do but it’s possible. The first step is to admit that you are responsible for your life, you are the creator of your destiny. Here are four steps on how be led by your spirit voice.

Believe that you will be successful.
I don’t believe in back up plans. For many years, my ego voice told me that I could not pursue my personal development business because I did not have one. When you have a backup plan you are expecting to fail. Watch your thoughts, because they become reality. I cringe when people talk about plan B, when they have not tried plan A! When you embark on a desire have positive expectations, and adjust accordantly. Believe, that everything will work out for you, and if it doesn’t you will know the next move. Set your frequency on positivity and see your results as a success.

Be clear on what you want and believe you are worthy of receiving it.
Who are you?  What are your values? When you can answer these questions without hesitation, you will discover that you can now dictate who you want in your life. So many times, our desires may be aligned with what is expected of us. Are you a person that beliefs that respect and integrity are your most important core beliefs? Listen to the spirit voice that tells you are worthy of embracing who aligns with your desires and who you are. In my case, I value commitment and integrity. If I say I will do something rain or shine, I will show up. How about in love? What do you value? I honor respect, commitment, and again integrity. If these core beliefs are not evident in all my relationships, I walk away. Can you say the same for yourself?

Be specific with your ideal relationships.
When I decided that my ideal business clients needed to reflect my values. It was not hard for me to find them in my life. I discovered that the energy of commitment and dedication that I was transpiring to the world, pulled the same type of people to my life. Are you happy with the people that you have called to your romantic, friendship and business relationships? Remember these people in your life in some way reflect who you are. Family we have no control over, but you can limit your interactions if they are not contributing to your well-being. Remember this is your movie and you can limit peoples screen time.

Focus on the positive.
When you decide to focus on the positive you attract more positivity. Many of you have heard my moving into a ranch story, and how remodeling my home was such chaos. Well, in the beginning all I would see what was wrong with the house. My ego voice told me that it was a bad idea to move to a ranch. I would see everything that needed to be fixed, and this created more fear and anxiety. Which resulted in more things requiring to fixed. Finally, when I decided to focus on all the wonderful things my home had, when I focused more on positive results, I got better end results. In your case, believe your spirit voice when it tells you that you are worthy attracting wonderful things to your life. Stay positive and know that you don’t get what you want to get what you believe you deserve.

To recap, to attract the right people in business, love and personal relationships you need to be the change you are seeking to see or be what you are desiring to attract. It starts in the mind and knowing who you truly are and what your true desires are. Be led by your spirit voice and give the ego voice a rest. Focus on your values, discover what your core beliefs are. This will also require some positivity and flexibility. Stay true to who you are and never compromise who you want to be! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ

Monday, October 24, 2016

When is a Good Time to Give Up?


"Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to
 understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."

-Unknown

I woke up tired this morning. I had been tossing and turning wondering about a business deal that may not happen. I was anxious, scared and tired until I finally concluded that I had to surrender. I have had a tough time with surrender, because we are taught that you must never give up. That we must fight till the end. I teach this to my clients all the time. Yet, there is so much power in letting go, in trusting your source, the universe that no matter what you will be OK. We live under this illusion that we can control everything that happens in our lives, but the truth is we can’t. When we try to control things outside of your control, you are dealing with a fear based mentality. It’s natural, to have some doubts and worries about our world, but it does not make things better. In my case, this deal that I released to the universe has taken away my peace of mind. When I finally decided to surrender it to my higher source there was a peace in my heart. Today let’s talk about letting go, about surrendering your desires to the universe so that you may find more joy and peace in your journey to success. 

To surrender does not mean you are giving up.
To surrender is to have faith in something greater than yourself. It is telling your source to take the wheel because you have done everything in your power to accomplish that goal or dream. When you surrender, you are giving up on the fear. Many of us have believed that when you let it go you are giving up. The truth is that you are giving the universe an opportunity to have your back. You are trusting that whatever happens is part of a better plan for your life. That what awaits you is something more amazing than you originally thought. Do everything you can to acquire your dreams and goals, understand that there is power in letting the universe take over.

When you surrender, there is calm.
In accordance with the law of attraction, we are energy and the energy you sent out will be reflected on you. When you have no attachment to results, when you give up the control to a specific outcome, we open ourselves for all sorts of wonderful possibilities. Stay calm and let go of expectations to be amazed at what the universe has in store for you!

Conquer your fears.
What do you fear if you let go? In my case, I felt that if I did not worry about this business deal I would lose it. The truth is that I was letting fear control me. I don’t know what will happen with the deal, but I know that I will be fine no matter what. Conquer your fears by surrendering any doubts that everything will work out for the best. In the end, everything works out for the best.

To let go is to set yourself free.
I feel so relieved, so free. I am no longer the prisoner of the “what if’s.” I am content and excited at what will be. You need to set yourself free by surrendering any doubt. Let it go. Go with the current and not against it. Life is not that hard; we make it hard by trying to control everything in it. Trust in the universe in your source. Know that it wants only the best for you!

I am work in progress. I have been taught to fight to the end and this has brought a great deal of resistance in my life. As I learn to trust that the universe is my friend and that it has my back, I discover more joy and peace in myself. It has not been easy, yet letting go has made me wiser. Let go of the fears that hold you back and have faith that the universe has your best interest in mind. Bring that positive energy of surrender and let go of that toxic control energy, to live your best life or a peaceful, joyful life. Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

NancyJ

Monday, October 17, 2016

Four Tips on How to Make Joy Your Choice


“We are our choices.”
-J.P. Sartre

The power of choice is that you can always change what you don’t like in your life. But sometimes we forget this. Last week I had a conversation with a friend who told me she was ready to make a change in her career. I asked her why it took her so long to make that decision. She said the fear of the unknown, fear of losing stability, and the fear of making a mistake was what kept her there. “We are our choices,” I told her, and you are deciding to give fear the power. She continued to justified why she had made the choice to stay in a job that she hated. I told her that until she made the choice to change her situation her life would not change.

What choices are you making that are not making your happy? Here are some tips to make that choice that will bring you more joy!

Identify what is not making you happy.
It is very important to look at what is taking away from your joy. Is it a job or a relationship? Somehow we believe that we don’t have the power to change things in our life that are not making us happy. The truth is that we always have the power to change what is not working in our lives. You have to make the choice. You have to DECIDE that you are going to let change take place in your life. When you do, it’s a step forward in the right direction to a new life.

Stop fearing the unknown.
What stops us from making the choice to change something in our life is fear. Yes, it can be scary to change, but it’s scarier to stay in a place that you no longer belong. Face fear head on. Don’t let fear control your life. Trust me when I tell you that fear is scarier in our minds. I am not saying it won’t be hard, but you can do it. Don’t fear the change fear staying the same!

Don’t over think the process.
What if this happens? What if that happens? What if nothing happens? Don’t over think the process. Take it a day at a time. If you decide to take a leap of faith and leave that relationship that is making you unhappy. Listen to your inner voice, not the fearful voice. Not the one that is asking the questions above, but the one that is calm, the one that tells it would work. The one that started to point out that you were not happy in the first place. Trust that voice, it knows what you need to do and where you will go. In life sometimes you have to surrender and let go!

Make the choice to be happy.
Happiness is ever fleeting. But it’s a choice. This does not mean that you will not encounter sadness or disappointment. It does mean however, that when those sad or difficult moments show up you will embrace them, and you will also know how to let them go. It is in the choices you make that you bring joy. It is in the decision to not compromise who you are and what you are about that you will discover joy. Make the choice to follow your bliss. Make the choice that no matter how difficult things get in your life you will always be on the lookout for the silver lining.

My choice is joy. This does not mean that fear and disappointment don’t happen in my life, I have simply decided to give joy a bigger stage. When you decided to focus on happiness, you will see how effortless things become. You will let go of things that don’t contribute to your spiritual evolution. Relax, be O.K. with deciding that you are worthy of love, peace and joy. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

Monday, October 10, 2016

Tips on How to Stay Consistent With Your Goals


“We become what we want to be by consistently
being what we want to be each day.”
Richard G. Scott

As I thought about today’s post I realized that I am a creature of habit. My morning routine starts with drinking a cold glass of water and taking my vitamins. I then get my daughter ready for school, put her on the bus and then drop off my son. Next, I drive to the gym where I do some cardio, get back home to meditate for twenty minutes and have my oatmeal and black coffee this is all before 9:00 a.m. This is how I start my day, before I actually start my day. I then attend to my scheduled appointments.  It changes if I have to go out of town, but for the most part I am pretty constant with my routine, and I like it this way! I am person that strives to commit to consistency. I am also a person that holds her commitments to a high standard. If I say I am going to do something, I do it. If I say I am going to be somewhere, I’m there! This is what I believe has made me meet my goals and accomplish some of my dreams. What about you? How do you feel about consistency? If you are seeking to improve or change any aspect of your life you need to implement consistency. But consistency can be a difficult task to start or even keep. Here are five tips to staying consistent so that you can accomplish your dreams and goals! 

Think about your why?
Consistency is essential in short and long term goals. Think about that goal or dream you are seeking. For example, a goal of losing weight. Why is this important to you? Is it for health reasons? If your reasons will truly impact or change your life, then you will do it!  If you don’t have a big enough, “why” you will fail to stay consistent. My, “why,” for wanting to be healthier is to live longer for my family and to have more time to live out my purpose, of helping others find their passion. Your why should push you to be consistent with those little things that will make a big difference in the end.

Focus on one thing at a time.
In order to be consistent and successful you have to stay focused. When you have too many goals that you are working on you will not get any done. Prioritize what is your most important or essential goal that you need to accomplish first, in order to move to your next goal. I have experienced that when I have too many things that I need to focus on, I don’t even know where to start. What I suggest for you is to focus on one thing at a time. Once that is accomplish feel free to move to your next goal.

Schedule a time for your goal.
When I started blogging, I decided that I would commit myself to my blog every Monday morning. This time for me is sacred for me. I don’t schedule appointments on Monday morning that would take away from my commitment. It has become part of my weekly routine. I feel accomplished when I finish my post every Monday morning, I am committed to my blog one hundred percent! You need to put it in your calendar and stick with it! If you do it long enough it will become part of your routine, it will become like sleeping or eating.

Watch out for those negative feelings.
I have to ignore those negative voices that tell me that I am wasting my time. The voice that discourage you to do something, because it want you to stay in the comfort zone. I have to silence that voice that tells me that I am wasting my sleep going to the gym to work out, that I should go back to sleep. These voices want to sabotage your dreams and goals. Ignore them!

Get back on the wagon.
Yes, I have fallen of the wagon a couple of times. I have gone back to sleep instead of going to the gym in the morning, but will find a time to work out in the evening. Understand that falling of the wagon can happen, but know that you can get back on. The point is to get back on the wagon. 

To be consistent is to be on the path to your goals and dreams. It may not be easy, but once you make it part of your routine, it’s hard to be inconsistent. Remember it’s the little things that you do today that will make a great difference in your life tomorrow. Give your goals and dreams the time and dedication required so they may come alive. Know that you may get off track because of other distractions, but also know that you can always get back on track! In my commitment to being consistent to myself and my readers, I want to thank you for being a consistent reader of my blog. You, push me to keep on blogging! See you next Monday! Don’t forget to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME.

NancyJ

Monday, October 3, 2016

Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?





“The ones who find happiness are the ones who don’t make excuses.
If it’s broken they fix it. If it’s wrong, they make it right.”
-Unknown

“You do what?” Cynthia, a new friend that I met at a birthday celebration this weekend asked me.
 “I am a personal development coach. I help people identify what makes them come alive and provide support as they fulfil their dreams.” I said.
 “Wow, that sounds like lots of fun. What is the hardest thing about your job? She asked.
“I work on people’s mindsets. I help people believe in themselves, but the hardest thing that I work on is helping people drop their excuses for not following their dreams. We all have reasons why things would not work, but we never focus on why it would work!”
“Yes, I can see why that would be hard.” Cynthia added.

What excuses are stopping you from fulfilling your dreams? Do you want to lose weight? But don’t have time to work out? Do you want to follow your passion of being a business owner? But you don’t believe you are smart enough to do so? Do you dream about being a chef?  And can’t seem to find time to attend a culinary school? Excuses hold us back on our dreams. We will always find reasons why we should not take action to doing something we would love to do. The reason we don’t take action to fulfill our life goals and dreams is because me may believe we are not worthy and that we don’t have what it takes to accomplish them. We let our ego make us believe that we will fail. The truth is that your desires are a special pack you had with your soul. Your desires were meant to come to fruition. The problem is that you have forgotten your strength and your worth. Yes! You can become that baker you always wanted to be. Yes! You can be a business owner. The limits you have set for your life are an illusion of the ego. You are capable of acquiring every desire if you work towards it and you believe it is possible. Here are four tips to dropping those excuses and living a life of joy and bliss!

Find the reason why it can work.
Excuses are not real reasons to not pursue life goals. Excuses are fear based illusions of the ego. Stop believing the ego and start listening to your soul. Your soul knows what you are made of. It knows what you are capable. Think why things will work for you and drop all the reasons why they won’t. Yes, there will be some disappointments as you pursue your dreams, but you will also remember your strength. You will remember what you are made of. You are something awesome. You got this!

Believe in yourself.
To believe in yourself is to love yourself. Believe that you are worthy of your desires also believe that you are capable of making them come true. I love what I do because I get to empower individuals to see the strength of their soul and see the fear of the ego. When you believe that you have what it takes to acquire all of your hearts desires, you will also discover that the universe conspires to support you through it. Remember you if you believe you will achieve!

Stay in the now.
I have been guilty of sabotaging my dreams by projecting myself to the past and future. In the in the past I see how many times I failed and in the future I can only see failure. Yes, it’s understandable to try to predict how something will work out for you. Yet, you have to stay in the present moment. If you must project something to your future, send only positive energy to your life goals and dreams. Let the negative energy stay in past failures and only project good vibes to your future self if you must. Stay in the now, but show gratitude and appreciation to everything good in your life.

Yes, may fail.
What if you fail? In my opinion we fail every day we don’t pursue or dreams. There is a saying that says, “It’s better to have tried and failed to have never tried at all.” The reality is that we do not fail until we stop trying. Failure points us to the right direction. Don't give up! Also, the sad true is that many never try so that makes them fail by default.

To let your life dreams and goals be sabotaged because of excuses is detrimental to your life. Understand that if you truly believe in a desire you need to believe it’s possible to acquire it. Drop the excuses and get into action! Believe only in positive outcomes and know that if you stumble and fall in your journey to your dreams you will get up and persevere. Remember your life dreams and goals are waiting for you to accomplish them. Excuses are an easy way out to a half lived life! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ