Monday, August 8, 2016

How To Balance It ALL To Not Lose It ALL




"Never get so busy making a living 
that you forget to make a life."
-Unknown

I have been enjoying my summer with my two children Miranda who is 8 years old and Julian who is 15.  They are true blessings in my life.  They have been very patient with me and my work this summer.  In the past, we were all off for the summer, but since I am a business owner now and no longer a teacher, I don’t get to have the whole summer off.  Every morning my daughter asks me if I have a meeting.  For the most part I try to schedule morning appointment, so we can still go to a park to have lunch or go swimming, unfortunately it can’t happen every day!  We have gotten away to the beach as a family for a couple of days, but my little girl has confessed that she would love to get away for a longer time.  Last week, I asked Miranda if she would like me to go back to being a teacher and she said, “Mommy I only want you to be happy, and I see that you are. So no!” What she does not know is that I am very happy but feel a bit guilty for the extra hours that I have to dedicate to my business, which takes time away from being with her brother and her.  Yes, they are my, “reason,” my “why.” For pursuing my passion of Personal Development Coaching.  I want to inspire them to never settle, to pursue what they are passionate about and to live the life or their dreams.  I also want them to understand that when you commit yourself to pursuing your purpose, there are things that you must give up, but your life should also have balance.  Today, let’s talk about how you can balance your dream job or career with family life. It is not easy, but it’s necessary! Here are three tips for balancing it all so that you don’t lose it all.

Let go of guilt
Memo to me, and all of you who are feeling guilty for the time you dedicate to a career or a calling that you love.  Rather than dwelling how you are not with your children value and fully be present when you spend time with them.  Remember it’s not about the amount of time you spend with your children it’s about the quality time.  I have scheduled, “mommy and daughter dates,” with my little one.  My son no longer seeks one on one time with me, but I do make it a habit to check in with him throughout the day.  It’s important for me that he knows that I am available to him when he needs me and that he understands how much he is loved.

Focus on your priorities
What are your priorities?  Where can you save sometime so that you can be spend some more quality time with your children, husband or loved ones?  Remember that your priorities should be family, not Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or TV.  How can you better invest this time with your family when you are not pursuing your life goals or dreams?  This has been a true challenge for me, but I am working every day to get better with this! It’s imperative that you are not distracted from things that don’t contribute to your life goals, and dedicate quality time to the people in your life that are your biggest supporters!

Make time to take care of yourself
How about setting some time for yourself?   It’s very important that you set sometime for yourself.  You can’t be an effective parent or spouse if you are, “cranky,” or “unhappy.”  You are the role model for your children and when they see that you care and love yourself they will also apply this to their lives.  So don’t forget to love yourself, because when you do your love will flow more freely.

Set boundaries and have a family calendar
Being organized is essential to your business and your family time.  In my home there is a routine on the event’s that we are part of.  I have also learned to set boundaries on what I do on my weekends.  It’s not always possible, but I try my very best to be around my kid’s and husband on the weekend.  Again, when I can’t do this I make sure that we are electronically connected. 

In conclusion, I am very grateful for the amazing husband and exceptional children that I have.  They have taught me so much about being present and enjoying the here and now.  I know I am loved, because they have never obstructed my dreams.  They show me unconditional love every day, by being my biggest cheerleaders.  In return I hope to make them proud and inspire them to live a life full of passion and acquired dreams.  What are you doing to show your loved ones to live authentically?  Are you living a life of passion and joy?  How do you balance it all?  Connect with me at Nancy@believechangebecome.net if you would like me to assist you with your transformational journey!  Know that you are here to identify what makes you come alive and to live a life of purpose. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become!


NancyJ

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