"Your journey will be much lighter and easier
if you don't carry your past with you."
Happy New Year friends! I hope you all had time to reflect on lesson learned in 2015, and are focusing on the goals and dreams you want to acquire this 2016. In reflecting on what I hope to accomplish this year, I realized that I had to let go of the past in order to move on to a better me for 2016.
We all have a past and for this we need to be grateful. Our past has mold us to the person we are today. But how much should we hold on and how much should we let go? As I reflect on my past I realized that I have made many mistakes, but also learned from them. My biggest mistake, is letting fear kill my hopes and dreams. Sometimes our past can hold us back from our true potential, from wonderful things. The failures from the past can inhibit us from growing because we believe that things will never change, that the past will repeat it self. But this is not so! What I want to share with you today is that your past has engraved lessons that should be learned, but your past does not dictate your future. It’s a new start, a new year, a clean slate, let’s accomplish all the goals and dreams that were not accomplished in 2015 without fear!
When moving on to your better future, you have to recognize that it’s time to let go. Have you accepted this? Are you ready to move into your true becoming? If you are, here are four things to consider.
Let go of past anger and resentment.
This is not easy. Yet you have let go of past anger and resentment because if you don’t it will only damage you and nobody else. Living of past anger and resentment is not only detrimental to your health but to your hopes and dreams. It’s an ugly feeling when you are stuck on what other people did or did not do for you. I used to blame my mother for my lack of connection and affection toward others. Her lack of connection with me when I was a child made me feel disconnected to others. I used to wish that she had been more affectionate, but then I realized that she did the best that she could. She actually did better than her mother did with her! Not until I let go off all this was I able to move on with my dreams of connecting with people in a positive way. If I had stayed with this past anger and resentment I would have never been doing what I am doing now.
Let go of guilt.
To let go of guilt is to understand that you are not perfect and forgive yourself for that. Guilt is a sign that the lesson was not learned. Learn the lesson and move on. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time, so let it go! Guilt does nothing for you, but stop you from growing, and the only reason you are here is to learn and grow.
Learn to forgive.
It’s all about forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness! When you forgive it’s not only for the other person’s freedom from guilt, but most importantly for yourself. When you learn to forgive you are loving yourself. As I forgive those that may have hurt me, I am loving myself. I am not stuck on what someone did. I move past that and realize that only people who are hurting hurt. It takes courage to forgive!
Don’t feed past fears.
We all have failed in the past, but this does not mean it will always be that way! Again learn from your failures and move on. Your fears should not stop you, they should propel you to get back on the horse. The past is not a predictor of all the wonderful things your future has for you. Laugh in the sight of fear and let it know you are doing it afraid!
You’re New Year and your new life are waiting for you! Learn from your past but move toward your future with a sense that things can and will change. You are the only one that can break those chains! Go for it! You have nothing to fear and only wonderful things to gain. Until next Monday!
Believe. Change. Become,