Monday, December 26, 2016

Remember Hope, Discover Courage and Practice Love This New Year


"A new year will always give us the opportunity
 for a new beginning 
to a beautiful life story."

-Nancy Salmeron

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas with your loved ones. I had a quiet, but meaningful Christmas. It was a time of reflection and connection with my family. This Christmas I had to forgive some family members that brought hurt and disappointment to my life in 2016. I had to remind myself that to forgive others is to bring the gift of peace and love into my soul. It’s not about not holding others accountable for the pain they brought into my life, it’s about loving myself enough to let that hurt go. In doing this I could let go of bad karma and welcomed more positive vibrations into my life.

As we get ready to welcome the new year I want to wish you the best and remind you that next year will provide you with the opportunity to write a new beautiful story for yourself. Know that you are amazing and that everything you desire is ready to be given to you. Believe that you are worthy of bringing positive wonderful things into your life. But also, remember that you can attract negative things into your life if you let fear take the lead. Here are my three wishes for you for 2017.

May you remember hope.

When I reflect on my desires I know that hope is one that I must hold highly. I desire for you to always remember hope, and know that with hope the impossible is always possible. Hope is part of having a sound belief system. It’s part of practicing optimism. With hope, you understand that things will fall apart, but things will also come together. Without hope, you see a gray and unloving world. You never see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know that hope will guide you toward the light and never against it. Remember hope when things fall apart in 2017.

May you discover courage.

To live in fear is to live a half-life. To live a full life, you must embrace courage. There will be many doubts in 2017. There will be many moments that courage may want to come and play. Let it! I know that courage will push you to the unknown, will get you out of your comfort zone. With courage, you will discover your true essence, your strength. With courage on your side you will fulfill your destiny. In those moments of fear rediscover what you are made of. Rediscover courage.

May you practice love.

In the year to come I wish you to practice much love. To live in love is to also surrender to fear.  As you embrace love you will discover peace. To live in peace is to embrace love. Remember anything that is done with love will prosper. Love is why we are here. Love is what feels good. Fear is what feels sad. So, for 2017 I wish you much peace and love.

A new year is like a blank book that you can write. It’s never too late to have a different story. It’s never too late to have a different ending to a beautiful story. Remember to keep hope alive and believe in yourself and the power of your dreams. Have the courage and strength to persevere through difficult times, but above all remember to live in love. Until next time Believe. Change. Become. and have Happy New Year!

NancyJ

Monday, December 12, 2016

How to Learn More by Reflecting



"We don't know by doing.
We learn by reflecting on what we have done."

-Unknown

As I reflect on this past year I can’t help but feel proud. It has not been an easy year, yet it has been an adventurous, beautiful one. One of confusion, and lessons learned that in the end has brought clarity and peace to my journey. We have two more Monday’s before the new year and you must stop and see all your accomplishments as well as your failures. Look at your lessons learned as well and what needs to be done. It has been my pleasure to have shared some parts of my journey with you. I have loved to reflect on my life this far. I know, I have a lot of work to do to get to my true destination. But I am loving discovering who and what I am about. To move forward to a prosperous 2017, it’s important to be proud of all the amazing things this year has brought to you this far and to start projecting what you desire 2017, to bring. Here are some ideas on how to make sure 2017, is a year of prosperity and growth.

Reflect and be proud of all your minor and major accomplishments.

What are some amazing things that you accomplished this year? Can’t think of any? Well if you are reading this I assume you are alive. So being alive is a great accomplishment! Did you change careers or move up in your field? Did you mend a broken relationship? Did you identify what makes you come alive? Simply identifying what makes you come alive is a major accomplishment! Don’t disguard the small simple things you did this year. It’s the little things that become big changes in our lives. I am proud of honoring what I said. I am proud to say that in 2017, I will be a published author. I attribute this to honoring what I say. I take pride in this, because I believe honoring your words make them become reality. Try it and see! Remember it’s the little things we do. I have other small accomplishments that have resulted in big changes in my life. How about you?

Learn and let go.

Learn from your failures or learn the lesson and move on. Failures make you grow and the contribute to a better you. They teach you what you don’t know and what you must do different. Have you learned from your lesson to not repeat it? There were many mistakes that became learned lessons in my life this past year. One lesson is to practice patience and to stay present. In my business, you must be patience. My clients found me. As an educator, my clients (students) came to me. In the beginning, I was very aggressive pursuing clients. Today I let them find me. I love this feeling of trusting and letting go. Trust that you are love by something greater than yourself and let go.

Believe you are worthy of wonderful things and get clear.

You are worthy of only beautiful things. When you believe that you are worthy you accomplish so much more. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and get clear on your desires. What is that you want to accomplish next year? Be bold and know that everything you desire is waiting for you on the other side. I finally understand that I am worthy of all the wonderful things this world has to offer. I understand that when I shine I bring light for others to do the same. Please understand that you are worthy of every desire you want to manifest next year. And remember when you shine, our path becomes lighter.

Surrender it all and stumble into joy.

After you have dedicated your all to your dreams and goals remember to surrender it all. As you do that you will also stumble in joy. There is such a peace that you will discover when you surrender yourself to your God or the universe. I work hard for my desires, but there comes a time when I surrender it to the universe. As I trust the universe to hold my desires, it brings me more blessings than I had originally thought. The perk of surrendering is being reminded that you deserve much more than you originally thought. Try it! Work for your desires, but then release it and see what happens.

As we wind down this year and welcome 2017 don’t forget how wonderful 2016 was to you. Count your blessings, look at your lessons learned and only manifest wonderful things for this 2017. Believe that it is possible to acquire everything and much more of your desires. Know that you are never alone and that indeed the universe has your back! I look forward to continue to grow with you this 2017. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

NancyJ

Monday, December 5, 2016

Are You Contributing Your Gifts to The World?



"We are waiting for your gifts. 
That something special that was only given to you."

Nancy Salmeron

I had a great conversation this morning with a wonderful friend. We were discussing that many of us will never get what we desire for our lives because we don’t believe we are worthy of our desires. We feel that wonderful careers or relationships happen to others but never to us. We tell ourselves that we are destined to be in bad relationships, horrible jobs because that is life. My goal today is to change this belief and let you know that you are mistaken. You are wrong! You are worthy of your desires! Actually, the reason you are born is to give love and seek what makes you come alive. Release yourself from these limiting beliefs. Know that if you are in this world it’s because you are more than just special, you are amazing! You must contribute to the world with your gifts. Have the courage to follow your dreams. Your dreams and desires are no accident they are waiting for you to accomplish them. Here are four tips on how to seek your bliss.

Examine your current beliefs.

What do you believe you deserve for your life? Do you have limiting beliefs? When I looked back at my limiting beliefs, I had a tough time believing that I could be a business owner. I thought that business owners had no heart that all they cared about was the bottom line, which was to make money. I rejected this idea because one does not get into education for the money, I thought I got into it for the love of teaching. Then I discovered that indeed I enjoyed it, but I would not do it for free. Sadly, I don’t think I know anybody that could afford to do it for free. We all have bills and a mortgage to pay so education also has a bottom line. Today, I understand what was holding me back and what to do to release myself from this limiting belief. What are your beliefs about success?

Focus on positive information.

I would suggest looking at motivational videos or reading inspirational books about success. Reading my blog posts! I am an auditory person so I also like to listen to powerful talks about personal development when I drive to meetings or appointments. Focusing on positive people in your life is part of staying positive. I know I have said this before but, “we are the company that we keep.” Is your circle pushing you to your best life or keeping you away from it? Evaluate these friendships and eliminate, eliminate, eliminate.

Focus on manifesting what you desire.

What your desire? You must focus on it and act like you already have it. How do you do that you ask? By showing gratitude for what you have and staying positive. Also, believe that what you are wanting is on its way. The truth is that what you want is already yours you just should match your energy with that of the universe. It’s like a puzzle piece that is looking for the right fit, so are your desires.

Train your subconscious mind to believe.

The subconscious mind is the mind that you need to train so that your desires could flourish. This was very difficult for me because I used to be very practical and reasonable. This was what my subconscious mind was used to. I came in like a wrecking ball, destroying everything that I believed was real to my life. I then demanded my subconscious mind to be open to endless possibilities that it had never experience. Train it to believe that what you truly desire will be a sure thing, but do remember to give it time.

It is very important to be cognizant of your thoughts and train your subconscious. Your thoughts and beliefs are the secret to your success. To get the life you want, it takes awareness and responsibility of those thoughts. Change those negative vibrations so that your life can change from an OK to WOW! Don't forget you are worthy of everything you desire! Until next Monday watch your thoughts and don’t forget to Believe. Change. Become!

Nancy:)

Monday, November 28, 2016

The Problem with Life


"Life is 10% what happens to us 
and 100% how we react to it."
-Denis P. Kimbro

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving, full of gratitude and grace. I had a very insightful holiday. In my family I have hosted Thanksgiving for the past eleven years, but this Thanksgiving was more exciting than past Thanksgivings.

As I prepared the Thanksgiving feast, with the chopping of celery for the stuffing, the cranberry sauce and the cornbread. I heard a rumbling sound coming from the room that is next to the kitchen, the laundry room.  I rushed to see what that was, and I slipped on a pile of water. I landed on my bottom and realize that the pipes in my kitchen had burst and that some water had managed to come out of the laundry room. The discovery was a clogged kitchen sink and a flooded laundry room, my husband had to turn of all water until he figured out the problem. This all happened Thanksgiving morning when I was roasting a turkey and everything else. After we cleaned up the mess, my husband and I decide to go to the store to get some Drano, hoping to take care of the problem. We tried to pay for the Drano, but the bank card was declined. Immediately I called the bank and was told that some checks that were deposited had bounced, and that we were on the negative close to a thousand dollars. Lucky for credit cards we could pay for the Drano.

When we got home, the smoke alarm was going nonstop! The cause was a burnt Turkey! I started to laugh so hard that my husband questioned my sanity. He was worried I had lost my marbles. This was the first time in a long time that life reminded me how spontaneous, unpredictable but exciting it could be. In the end, everything worked out just perfect. We ended up changing the tradition and going to my parents’ home instead, due to no running water. Even if the turkey was burnt it was still delicious and the ham made it just fine. It was a wonderful Thanksgiving after all.

The problem with life is that you think you are always designing it to your liking, but the truth is that life will show up and arrange certain things to it’s liking. The thing about life is to understand that it can be amazing, then awful and then amazing again. The secret to life is count to your blessing (while you have them) and the amazing things it brings. Here are three tips to adjusting to life’s curve balls, with laughter and grace.

Affirm that life is amazing.
When you show life that you are grateful for it’s amazing things, it responds by bringing more of that. Count your blessings, even when things are falling apart. As my credit card was being rejected, I was grateful for my credit cards. As, the pipes burst in the kitchen, I was happy to discover that only that part of the house needed to be fixed. As far as the burnt turkey goes, the ham went unharmed and everything was delicious.

Realize that those curve balls show your resilience.
It had been a tradition in my family to host Thanksgiving for many years. I thought I was going to flip, when things seemed to be changing. I could not handle the idea that this tradition was going to be changed. I discovered that I did not fall apart, nor did anybody else. It was also nice to take a break from washing all those dishes. Again, another blessing in disguise. Know that you are resilient and will handle anything life sends your way!

Be present and relax during the ordinary.
So many times, we are looking forward to those special moments in our lives. Christmas, New Year’s or birthdays. Yet, we forget to live, and devour ordinary moments. We don’t practice being present we keep on projecting to a future that we are never guaranteed will come. It’s ok to enjoy these next festivities that are coming, but don’t forget to inhale the mundane moments with much joy and anticipation as you do those bigger celebrations. It’s those moments that we get more of, it’s those moments that shape our lives.

In conclusion, love your life no matter what stage. Know that nothing is forever because change is the sister of life. No matter what curve balls life has in store for me, I know that will also change and I will always prevail. Believe the same for your life and it will be. Until next time Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ

Monday, November 21, 2016

Superman Won't Save You


"Nobody can save you but yourself and you're worth saving.
 It's a war not easily won but if anything is worth winning then this is it."
-Charles Bukowski

As I plan my Thanksgiving grocery list, I find myself thinking how different it feels this year. There is a sense of uncertainty. Like many of you, I am also fearful with the direction of our country, and the direction of our world. I know that uncertainty and instability can cause chaos within ourselves. We all want to be assured that we will be ok. We all need to feel that we are going to be taken care off. Unfortunately, superman can’t save you. Only when you decided to be your own hero can you save yourself and influence others. It’s going to be up to you to change whatever situation you are dealing with to a prosperous one. Don’t expect world leaders to fix your problems. Rise above your problems, and as you do you become the shining light that will guide others to do the same. Step out of your comfort zone, be change you want to see in your home, community and your world. More than ever we need beacons of light that will bring light to the injustices of the world. More than ever we need you to step up for the scapegoats of our nation. There are no accidents in life, just life lessons. There are lessons in what is going on with the world. Lessons we may have forgotten, lessons that will remind us that our power is found in our human spirit. We have much to learn about our true purpose in this planet. Today I want to challenge you to get uncomfortable, to fight for your joy and happiness. Know that we can no longer blame others to be the cause of our misery and expect others to bring us joy and certainty. It’s YOU, and only you that has the power to transform your life and impact the life of others.  Are you willing to give up some comfort to create a better world for you and others? Here are three tips on how to be the change you want to see.

What is something you would like to change in your home, community or world?
The key to being a change agent, is to identify what you want to change. What is something that drives you insane? What do you desire? Do you wish people were kinder to each other? Are you seeking more connection? Do you wish there was no more prejudice? I believe that we all have a purpose a mission in life. We are all impacting the world with our life views and ideas. What moves you? When we identify what we would like to change we transcend in purpose. We all have a mission for our lives, there is significance in discovering what that is and pursuing that change. My mission is to inspire you to believe in your dreams, by defining all limiting beliefs. I also seek to remind you that love was the superpower given to us by our creator to change the world. Yet, many have surrendered to fear.

You can do something big or small.
To be the change you must immolate what you are seeking to change. For example, if you are seeking less prejudice in the world are you being open and inviting to people that may be different than you? If you are seeking more kindness, be the example of kindness and love. As you change your old ways you will influence others to do the same. It’s your light that will bring clarity to others. It’s easier to point fingers and blame others for problems, be the solution, be the change. It’s the little things you do that will have major ripple effects in your family, community and the world.

Your success is dependent on taking care of yourself.
You can’t change the world if you don’t change and take care of yourself. Love yourself. It’s about listening to your inner wisdom. Taking care of your body, mind and soul. When you are an advocate for yourself, you can better affect those around you. You give them the best of you and they in return give you their best. As I become aware of the love for myself I can give more to others. When you value and respect your being, it gives other permission to love and respect themselves.

Our world needs your help. It is those who have decided to be the change they want to see that have indeed changed the world. Know that you are capable of influencing others with your good deeds. It’s your mission to seek change for the better. To be successful in changing the world you must take care of yourself and reflect what you want to see in the world. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and be grateful for all the blessings in your life. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!


NancyJ

Monday, November 14, 2016

How My Intuition Guided Me This Morning


"There is a voice that doesn't 
use words.
Listen."

-Unknown

This morning I was ready to share with you some of the amazing things that I learned from my four day Tony Robbins seminar that I attended this weekend. Unfortunately, I was blocked from doing my blog due to many computer viruses that I discovered. So, I thought anyway! The truth was that my computer was blocked from scammers who wanted me to pay $199.00 so that they could clean out my computer. Why do I share this with you today and not what I learned from Tony Robbins? Because today once more I was reminded of my spirit voice the one that works with my intuition. Your intuition may be guided by your spirit voice or a feeling. The feeling may be excitement when you think about going back to school. In voice form it may tell you to follow your dreams. It's the one that assures you that you will be fine if you do. It may also warn you with a feeling, when something is not right.  The one that reminds you how amazing and powerful you are! I will share what I learned from Tony, in future blogs, I promise. But today let's talk about your spirit voice, your intuition. 

As I continue my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking, I am getting more comfortable with this voice. This quiet, subtle voice reminded me today, to not trust what the scammers where telling me and to contact Microsoft instead. When I did, I discovered that indeed it was a scam. They took care of the problem, and I was relieved that I listen to my voice, to my intuition. Your intuition will not only guide you in small matters such as this one, but will also guide you in deciding if you want to take grand leap of leaving your bad relationship, or the bad job. Here are three tips on how you can be guided by that powerful voice, by your intuition. When you do, you will be amazed on how your true path appears and all that negative chatter disappears.

Trust that gut.
You have heard to trust that gut feeling. Yes? Well, it’s that gut feeling I like to call your spirit voice. It’s that voice, that tells you to take another road. It also tells you to leave that bad relationship. That bad job. It’s that feeling that makes us uncomfortable with some people, but you can’t point out why. Trust that feeling, listen to that voice. It knows more that you will ever understand. It has peaked at your future and understand what is your true path. Trust that feeling and listen to the spirit voice.

Meditation results in clarity.
As I meditated this morning, I could silence my negative voice or what I call my fearful ego voice faster than other days. This made me feel more alert. When you meditate for at least ten minutes a day, you will notice that your spirit voice becomes a bit louder. Not obnoxious, and loud like your fearful ego voice, but a bit louder and clearer. If you already meditate, you understand what I mean. If you don’t it will take time and practice to do this, but if you dedicate some time you will eventually get there. There are many resources on line on how to meditate. I will work on some tips on future blogs. But for now, try to stay still for ten minutes, clear your mind and focus on nothing. See what pops up. If it’s negative, fearful thoughts it’s the ego working in your mind. If it’s loving, beautiful thoughts it’s your spirit voice your intuition. Go there!

Let the right voice guide you.
How do you know what voice is guiding you? As I already mentioned a fearful ego voice maybe louder and more obnoxious. The spirit voice may be calmer and subtle. Your reliable voice is the one is affirming, but not necessarily loud. There is a sense of calm. A feeling that you will be OK, that it has your back. On the other hand, the fearful ego voice will remind of your of your insecurities it can be cruel and demeaning. It wants to keep you a prisoner of the known it likes comfort. You have heard this voice as you decided to leave that career that no longer fulfills you. It has lied to you when it told you that you were not worthy of a new, or better relationship. What voice is governing your soul?

Being intuitive and letting your spirit voice guide you is not easy. It can be confusing because at one point you may feel that both can deal with fearful emotions, yet one guides you from bad situations by bringing emotion, such as something not feeling right. The fearful ego limits possibilities, by telling you you are not worthy of a dream or desire. It requires you to silence your mind and to love yourself. When you decide to follow your intuition, you will also discover some fun. Look at it as two different voices fighting to get your attention. One voice is loud and full of fear and the other is calm and full of love and possibilities. It is your goal uncover what is the true voice that will guide you to your destiny. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!


Monday, November 7, 2016

How Self-Doubt Can Crush Dreams


"Self-Doubt is the anchor that keeps or ships from sailing."
-Unknown

“I don’t know if I could continue.” My new client told me as we drank coffee and talked about her past business failure. She had joined a health food networking marketing business that had a great deal of potential.  “I did not know there would be so much disappointment in pursuing your dreams. I have lost confidence that I could possibly be successful.” She said. “Failures are not the end of a dream; they are lessons you have to learn. They are kinks that you need to fix before you grow. Think about that business failure. What is something that you learned from it? What could you do differently?” I asked.  “Well, I guess I could over invite people to my presentation, so that I have a better result.” “Yes, and remember that you are just starting, it will take some time to get momentum but you will get there. For now, it’s a perfect opportunity to practice your presentation with the few people that show up.” I told her. “I had not thought about it that way. You are right this is a perfect opportunity for me to get better at my presentations. Thank you!” She said.

Who has not felt disappointed with a new career venture, following a dream or a life goal? I personally know what is like to fail my way to the top! I have been disappointed many times, but I can pick myself up very quickly. Here are four tips that will help you manage self-doubt.

“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
As entrepreneurs, we assume that success happens overnight. Why not? We are so passionate about our service or product, so should everybody else, right? The truth is that success requires time. Give yourself time to grow. We make the mistake to believe that within a couple of months we will become successful. There is no set number of the time to reach your peak, but studies show that it could take 3-5 years, sometimes even longer. Be patient learn from your mistakes that are preparing you for that peak of the mountain.

Remember a time when you were successful.
I know it’s hard to stay positive when you have failed, but you must remember when you were successful. Know that you are capable of winning because you have won before. Write down your WINS. Ask family and friends to remind you of the times when you got the goal. We are so critical of ourselves, we focus so much on our failures that we forget about our past triumphs.

Love yourself.
 “Love Yourself,” says Louise Hay. In the past I, did not understand that this phrase is the answer to many of our problems. When we love, ourselves we treat ourselves with dignity and respect. Think about someone that you love. Your child, husband or wife? Would you mentally abuse them? Well, maybe one will abuse a husband or wife, but we shouldn’t. Be kind to yourself and others. You are more capable and worthy than you give yourself credit for.

Fail, fail and fail some more.
Remember when you fail you are on the right track. Failure is part of growth. Embrace it, learn from it and move on. As I continue to fail I am proud of my tiger stripes. They teach me things about my strength that I did not know I had. Dare to fail, dare to learn so that you may grow.

As I fail forward, I realized that in life you must experience disappointment so that you can not only learn from it, but also appreciate your successes more. It’s a win-win because it teaches you so much about yourself about, about your strength. Expect disappointment on your journey to your becoming. Expect success as well. Love yourself, and know that you are worthy of treating yourself with dignity and respect. As you do, you set the mood for others to do the same and it gives you stamina to continue to move forward even when all hope is gone. Keep your chin up beautiful and persevere! There will be a day when you will look back at your stumbles and failures and be glad you never gave up! Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

Monday, October 31, 2016

Four Steps to Getting Your Desires


Your spirit is the universal voice of love-in you.
-Darren L. Johnson

“We never get what we want, we get what we BELIEVE we deserve.” I told my new client as she shared that she always gets the short end of the stick in her professional and personal relationships. As a personal development coach, l love teaching my clients that they are creators of their lives. I tell them that they start designing their lives in their minds, and that our minds are being govern by two voices the spirit voice and the ego voice. The ego voice is fear based. In its efforts to protect us the ego voice focuses on the things that could go wrong, it tells you that you are not smart enough to get that promotion, good enough to be in a relationship. It never believes that wonderful things are possible. On the other hand, the spirit voice reminds you how amazing you are, it tells you that you are worthy of you desires and that you should pursue them. This voice is love based not fear based. When the spirit voice takes lead, you will be on your way to a life of bliss. It’s not an easy task to do but it’s possible. The first step is to admit that you are responsible for your life, you are the creator of your destiny. Here are four steps on how be led by your spirit voice.

Believe that you will be successful.
I don’t believe in back up plans. For many years, my ego voice told me that I could not pursue my personal development business because I did not have one. When you have a backup plan you are expecting to fail. Watch your thoughts, because they become reality. I cringe when people talk about plan B, when they have not tried plan A! When you embark on a desire have positive expectations, and adjust accordantly. Believe, that everything will work out for you, and if it doesn’t you will know the next move. Set your frequency on positivity and see your results as a success.

Be clear on what you want and believe you are worthy of receiving it.
Who are you?  What are your values? When you can answer these questions without hesitation, you will discover that you can now dictate who you want in your life. So many times, our desires may be aligned with what is expected of us. Are you a person that beliefs that respect and integrity are your most important core beliefs? Listen to the spirit voice that tells you are worthy of embracing who aligns with your desires and who you are. In my case, I value commitment and integrity. If I say I will do something rain or shine, I will show up. How about in love? What do you value? I honor respect, commitment, and again integrity. If these core beliefs are not evident in all my relationships, I walk away. Can you say the same for yourself?

Be specific with your ideal relationships.
When I decided that my ideal business clients needed to reflect my values. It was not hard for me to find them in my life. I discovered that the energy of commitment and dedication that I was transpiring to the world, pulled the same type of people to my life. Are you happy with the people that you have called to your romantic, friendship and business relationships? Remember these people in your life in some way reflect who you are. Family we have no control over, but you can limit your interactions if they are not contributing to your well-being. Remember this is your movie and you can limit peoples screen time.

Focus on the positive.
When you decide to focus on the positive you attract more positivity. Many of you have heard my moving into a ranch story, and how remodeling my home was such chaos. Well, in the beginning all I would see what was wrong with the house. My ego voice told me that it was a bad idea to move to a ranch. I would see everything that needed to be fixed, and this created more fear and anxiety. Which resulted in more things requiring to fixed. Finally, when I decided to focus on all the wonderful things my home had, when I focused more on positive results, I got better end results. In your case, believe your spirit voice when it tells you that you are worthy attracting wonderful things to your life. Stay positive and know that you don’t get what you want to get what you believe you deserve.

To recap, to attract the right people in business, love and personal relationships you need to be the change you are seeking to see or be what you are desiring to attract. It starts in the mind and knowing who you truly are and what your true desires are. Be led by your spirit voice and give the ego voice a rest. Focus on your values, discover what your core beliefs are. This will also require some positivity and flexibility. Stay true to who you are and never compromise who you want to be! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ

Monday, October 24, 2016

When is a Good Time to Give Up?


"Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to
 understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."

-Unknown

I woke up tired this morning. I had been tossing and turning wondering about a business deal that may not happen. I was anxious, scared and tired until I finally concluded that I had to surrender. I have had a tough time with surrender, because we are taught that you must never give up. That we must fight till the end. I teach this to my clients all the time. Yet, there is so much power in letting go, in trusting your source, the universe that no matter what you will be OK. We live under this illusion that we can control everything that happens in our lives, but the truth is we can’t. When we try to control things outside of your control, you are dealing with a fear based mentality. It’s natural, to have some doubts and worries about our world, but it does not make things better. In my case, this deal that I released to the universe has taken away my peace of mind. When I finally decided to surrender it to my higher source there was a peace in my heart. Today let’s talk about letting go, about surrendering your desires to the universe so that you may find more joy and peace in your journey to success. 

To surrender does not mean you are giving up.
To surrender is to have faith in something greater than yourself. It is telling your source to take the wheel because you have done everything in your power to accomplish that goal or dream. When you surrender, you are giving up on the fear. Many of us have believed that when you let it go you are giving up. The truth is that you are giving the universe an opportunity to have your back. You are trusting that whatever happens is part of a better plan for your life. That what awaits you is something more amazing than you originally thought. Do everything you can to acquire your dreams and goals, understand that there is power in letting the universe take over.

When you surrender, there is calm.
In accordance with the law of attraction, we are energy and the energy you sent out will be reflected on you. When you have no attachment to results, when you give up the control to a specific outcome, we open ourselves for all sorts of wonderful possibilities. Stay calm and let go of expectations to be amazed at what the universe has in store for you!

Conquer your fears.
What do you fear if you let go? In my case, I felt that if I did not worry about this business deal I would lose it. The truth is that I was letting fear control me. I don’t know what will happen with the deal, but I know that I will be fine no matter what. Conquer your fears by surrendering any doubts that everything will work out for the best. In the end, everything works out for the best.

To let go is to set yourself free.
I feel so relieved, so free. I am no longer the prisoner of the “what if’s.” I am content and excited at what will be. You need to set yourself free by surrendering any doubt. Let it go. Go with the current and not against it. Life is not that hard; we make it hard by trying to control everything in it. Trust in the universe in your source. Know that it wants only the best for you!

I am work in progress. I have been taught to fight to the end and this has brought a great deal of resistance in my life. As I learn to trust that the universe is my friend and that it has my back, I discover more joy and peace in myself. It has not been easy, yet letting go has made me wiser. Let go of the fears that hold you back and have faith that the universe has your best interest in mind. Bring that positive energy of surrender and let go of that toxic control energy, to live your best life or a peaceful, joyful life. Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

NancyJ

Monday, October 17, 2016

Four Tips on How to Make Joy Your Choice


“We are our choices.”
-J.P. Sartre

The power of choice is that you can always change what you don’t like in your life. But sometimes we forget this. Last week I had a conversation with a friend who told me she was ready to make a change in her career. I asked her why it took her so long to make that decision. She said the fear of the unknown, fear of losing stability, and the fear of making a mistake was what kept her there. “We are our choices,” I told her, and you are deciding to give fear the power. She continued to justified why she had made the choice to stay in a job that she hated. I told her that until she made the choice to change her situation her life would not change.

What choices are you making that are not making your happy? Here are some tips to make that choice that will bring you more joy!

Identify what is not making you happy.
It is very important to look at what is taking away from your joy. Is it a job or a relationship? Somehow we believe that we don’t have the power to change things in our life that are not making us happy. The truth is that we always have the power to change what is not working in our lives. You have to make the choice. You have to DECIDE that you are going to let change take place in your life. When you do, it’s a step forward in the right direction to a new life.

Stop fearing the unknown.
What stops us from making the choice to change something in our life is fear. Yes, it can be scary to change, but it’s scarier to stay in a place that you no longer belong. Face fear head on. Don’t let fear control your life. Trust me when I tell you that fear is scarier in our minds. I am not saying it won’t be hard, but you can do it. Don’t fear the change fear staying the same!

Don’t over think the process.
What if this happens? What if that happens? What if nothing happens? Don’t over think the process. Take it a day at a time. If you decide to take a leap of faith and leave that relationship that is making you unhappy. Listen to your inner voice, not the fearful voice. Not the one that is asking the questions above, but the one that is calm, the one that tells it would work. The one that started to point out that you were not happy in the first place. Trust that voice, it knows what you need to do and where you will go. In life sometimes you have to surrender and let go!

Make the choice to be happy.
Happiness is ever fleeting. But it’s a choice. This does not mean that you will not encounter sadness or disappointment. It does mean however, that when those sad or difficult moments show up you will embrace them, and you will also know how to let them go. It is in the choices you make that you bring joy. It is in the decision to not compromise who you are and what you are about that you will discover joy. Make the choice to follow your bliss. Make the choice that no matter how difficult things get in your life you will always be on the lookout for the silver lining.

My choice is joy. This does not mean that fear and disappointment don’t happen in my life, I have simply decided to give joy a bigger stage. When you decided to focus on happiness, you will see how effortless things become. You will let go of things that don’t contribute to your spiritual evolution. Relax, be O.K. with deciding that you are worthy of love, peace and joy. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

Monday, October 10, 2016

Tips on How to Stay Consistent With Your Goals


“We become what we want to be by consistently
being what we want to be each day.”
Richard G. Scott

As I thought about today’s post I realized that I am a creature of habit. My morning routine starts with drinking a cold glass of water and taking my vitamins. I then get my daughter ready for school, put her on the bus and then drop off my son. Next, I drive to the gym where I do some cardio, get back home to meditate for twenty minutes and have my oatmeal and black coffee this is all before 9:00 a.m. This is how I start my day, before I actually start my day. I then attend to my scheduled appointments.  It changes if I have to go out of town, but for the most part I am pretty constant with my routine, and I like it this way! I am person that strives to commit to consistency. I am also a person that holds her commitments to a high standard. If I say I am going to do something, I do it. If I say I am going to be somewhere, I’m there! This is what I believe has made me meet my goals and accomplish some of my dreams. What about you? How do you feel about consistency? If you are seeking to improve or change any aspect of your life you need to implement consistency. But consistency can be a difficult task to start or even keep. Here are five tips to staying consistent so that you can accomplish your dreams and goals! 

Think about your why?
Consistency is essential in short and long term goals. Think about that goal or dream you are seeking. For example, a goal of losing weight. Why is this important to you? Is it for health reasons? If your reasons will truly impact or change your life, then you will do it!  If you don’t have a big enough, “why” you will fail to stay consistent. My, “why,” for wanting to be healthier is to live longer for my family and to have more time to live out my purpose, of helping others find their passion. Your why should push you to be consistent with those little things that will make a big difference in the end.

Focus on one thing at a time.
In order to be consistent and successful you have to stay focused. When you have too many goals that you are working on you will not get any done. Prioritize what is your most important or essential goal that you need to accomplish first, in order to move to your next goal. I have experienced that when I have too many things that I need to focus on, I don’t even know where to start. What I suggest for you is to focus on one thing at a time. Once that is accomplish feel free to move to your next goal.

Schedule a time for your goal.
When I started blogging, I decided that I would commit myself to my blog every Monday morning. This time for me is sacred for me. I don’t schedule appointments on Monday morning that would take away from my commitment. It has become part of my weekly routine. I feel accomplished when I finish my post every Monday morning, I am committed to my blog one hundred percent! You need to put it in your calendar and stick with it! If you do it long enough it will become part of your routine, it will become like sleeping or eating.

Watch out for those negative feelings.
I have to ignore those negative voices that tell me that I am wasting my time. The voice that discourage you to do something, because it want you to stay in the comfort zone. I have to silence that voice that tells me that I am wasting my sleep going to the gym to work out, that I should go back to sleep. These voices want to sabotage your dreams and goals. Ignore them!

Get back on the wagon.
Yes, I have fallen of the wagon a couple of times. I have gone back to sleep instead of going to the gym in the morning, but will find a time to work out in the evening. Understand that falling of the wagon can happen, but know that you can get back on. The point is to get back on the wagon. 

To be consistent is to be on the path to your goals and dreams. It may not be easy, but once you make it part of your routine, it’s hard to be inconsistent. Remember it’s the little things that you do today that will make a great difference in your life tomorrow. Give your goals and dreams the time and dedication required so they may come alive. Know that you may get off track because of other distractions, but also know that you can always get back on track! In my commitment to being consistent to myself and my readers, I want to thank you for being a consistent reader of my blog. You, push me to keep on blogging! See you next Monday! Don’t forget to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME.

NancyJ

Monday, October 3, 2016

Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?





“The ones who find happiness are the ones who don’t make excuses.
If it’s broken they fix it. If it’s wrong, they make it right.”
-Unknown

“You do what?” Cynthia, a new friend that I met at a birthday celebration this weekend asked me.
 “I am a personal development coach. I help people identify what makes them come alive and provide support as they fulfil their dreams.” I said.
 “Wow, that sounds like lots of fun. What is the hardest thing about your job? She asked.
“I work on people’s mindsets. I help people believe in themselves, but the hardest thing that I work on is helping people drop their excuses for not following their dreams. We all have reasons why things would not work, but we never focus on why it would work!”
“Yes, I can see why that would be hard.” Cynthia added.

What excuses are stopping you from fulfilling your dreams? Do you want to lose weight? But don’t have time to work out? Do you want to follow your passion of being a business owner? But you don’t believe you are smart enough to do so? Do you dream about being a chef?  And can’t seem to find time to attend a culinary school? Excuses hold us back on our dreams. We will always find reasons why we should not take action to doing something we would love to do. The reason we don’t take action to fulfill our life goals and dreams is because me may believe we are not worthy and that we don’t have what it takes to accomplish them. We let our ego make us believe that we will fail. The truth is that your desires are a special pack you had with your soul. Your desires were meant to come to fruition. The problem is that you have forgotten your strength and your worth. Yes! You can become that baker you always wanted to be. Yes! You can be a business owner. The limits you have set for your life are an illusion of the ego. You are capable of acquiring every desire if you work towards it and you believe it is possible. Here are four tips to dropping those excuses and living a life of joy and bliss!

Find the reason why it can work.
Excuses are not real reasons to not pursue life goals. Excuses are fear based illusions of the ego. Stop believing the ego and start listening to your soul. Your soul knows what you are made of. It knows what you are capable. Think why things will work for you and drop all the reasons why they won’t. Yes, there will be some disappointments as you pursue your dreams, but you will also remember your strength. You will remember what you are made of. You are something awesome. You got this!

Believe in yourself.
To believe in yourself is to love yourself. Believe that you are worthy of your desires also believe that you are capable of making them come true. I love what I do because I get to empower individuals to see the strength of their soul and see the fear of the ego. When you believe that you have what it takes to acquire all of your hearts desires, you will also discover that the universe conspires to support you through it. Remember you if you believe you will achieve!

Stay in the now.
I have been guilty of sabotaging my dreams by projecting myself to the past and future. In the in the past I see how many times I failed and in the future I can only see failure. Yes, it’s understandable to try to predict how something will work out for you. Yet, you have to stay in the present moment. If you must project something to your future, send only positive energy to your life goals and dreams. Let the negative energy stay in past failures and only project good vibes to your future self if you must. Stay in the now, but show gratitude and appreciation to everything good in your life.

Yes, may fail.
What if you fail? In my opinion we fail every day we don’t pursue or dreams. There is a saying that says, “It’s better to have tried and failed to have never tried at all.” The reality is that we do not fail until we stop trying. Failure points us to the right direction. Don't give up! Also, the sad true is that many never try so that makes them fail by default.

To let your life dreams and goals be sabotaged because of excuses is detrimental to your life. Understand that if you truly believe in a desire you need to believe it’s possible to acquire it. Drop the excuses and get into action! Believe only in positive outcomes and know that if you stumble and fall in your journey to your dreams you will get up and persevere. Remember your life dreams and goals are waiting for you to accomplish them. Excuses are an easy way out to a half lived life! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ

Monday, September 26, 2016

How to Deal With The Betrayal of Others




“Sometimes we expect more from others because
 we are willing to do that much more for them.”
-Unknown

We have all felt disillusioned by someone we love. We have all felt betrayed. It’s part of our life experience on earth. It’s what makes us learn and grow. Currently someone I love deeply is going through the grief of disappointment. She is feeling she has gave too much to someone she loves and should not be dealing with the betrayal of this person. This blog post is dedicated to her and to you if you are dealing with the disappointments of others in your life. It’s not easy to accept this, but the faster you let go of expectations of others the sooner you will move on. Here are some tips for dealing with life setbacks.

It’s not them it’s you.
I believe that you should have positive expectations for people and in everything you do. The only problem is that there may be times when we will be disappointed with loved ones. In your mind you think that people see the world through your eyes, but the fact is that they don’t. When we set high expectations based on what we would do, we will encounter disappointment. Again, it’s based on the differences of world views. I am not suggesting that you don’t set high expectations for others, but know that you don’t have the power how they will respond in the future. If they fail you, it speaks to their character not to yours. In the end is how you deal with the disappointment or the person that has disillusioned you is what matters.

Be clear with your expectations.
When you assume that someone understands your expectations you are setting yourself for future disappointment. Be clear on your expectations. Tell them what you expect to happen out of your relationship. If it’s a familial relationship put the cards out on the table. In a professional or friendship relationship you should do the same. Now the trick is to understand that if they do disappoint, you will be just fine! The key to being alright is to not take it personally, remember they are showing you who they are. They are giving you what they believe they stand for. It’s their integrity on the line. Integrity, is a virtue that many aspire to have, but few actually do.

Be honest with your feelings.
It’s ok to express what you are feeling without blaming others. Understand, it’s your expectations of who you thought they should be that brought the disappointment. Don’t nag or blame them for your unhappiness. Only you have the power to change it. Focus on you. Know that this too shall pass and that you will be just fine.

Accept who they are.
To change oneself is one of the most difficult and beautiful things one can do for ourselves. Unfortunately, you cannot expect to change anybody. You may influence change in others by your actions, but it’s up to them to be who they desire to be, so accept them. Accept them without compromising who you are. Remember, life is short to be hanging around people who do not meet your sense of integrity. If you have family or friends that are constantly showing you who they are eliminate any high expectation you may have. Give everyone in your life the benefit of the doubt, but believe them when they show you who they truly are.

Learn the lesson to not repeat it.
In my relationships, I always give people the benefit of the doubt. I never assume anybody will disappoint me until they do. When they do, I quickly learn the lesson so that I may not repeat it! You, may think I give up quickly, but I know my time on this world is limited and don’t have much time for nonsense. How can you give up on someone who has given up on themselves? If a loved one has betrayed you, and they don’t understand why you may have changed, they may not be worthy of a second chance. For some people this concept is hard to accept, if you feel you need to take the lesson again, by all means repeat it. But please be ready to move on!

In conclusion, don’t expect that the people you love will never disappoint you. It’s part of life, it’s part of growth. Even though, be mindful of the people that constantly betray you. People that you have invested a great deal of time in, you may need to give more opportunities to redeem themselves, but then be ready to move on! Believe that if you are a person with integrity, you will attract the same kind of people to your life. Also, remember that major life betrayals can be hurtful, but will make you stronger and they shall pass. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become!

NancyJ

Monday, September 19, 2016

Stop Loving on Social Media!


"Life can be found only in the present moment."

-Thick Nhat Hanh

How was your weekend? Was it a weekend of connection? A connection to someone else’s soul, or a connection to the virtual world? This weekend, I celebrated eleven years of marriage with my amazing husband Carlos. I am not much for celebrating “special events” because I believe everyday should be special. So, I make it a habit to tell the people that I love how much I love them today, not just valentine’s day, Christmas or anniversaries. It’s about today! Regardless, we made reservations to our favorite restaurant to try to find a deeper connection, on our special day. As we approach our table I notice there were other couples trying to connect. Unfortunately, not with each other, but with the virtual world. Many couples were looking at their cell phones. As if what was on their phones was more interesting than the person they were with. I pointed this out to my husband and he joked that maybe they were checking in. Letting the Facebook world know that they were having a fabulous time. When in reality what my husband and I were seeing was quite the opposite.

This made me think about the topic for today. Are you connecting with the people you love? I mean really connecting? In your family do you have a policy that at dinner time you focus on each other? When you spend time with others, are you constantly checking social media? If you are you are lacking human connection. Here are three tips on how to connect spiritually so you may have a more meaningful life!

Set time to connect with loved ones.
It is very important in my family to have time to connect every day. I have discovered that dinner time is connection time! When we have dinner in my home, we turn of all electronic devices. This is a time to simply talk about our day. I ask my children to share two of their favorite parts of the day, and one challenge. My children have gotten so used to this routine, that they have reminded me to turn off the TV if I have not done so, when I am done cooking! It works for us because this has become a habit. They understand this is family connection time, not virtual world connection time!

Drop that phone!
I have not done this, but I have seen friends that have a tub where cell phones could be dropped during a party. I think it’s a great idea! If you have an issue with this at family functions or parties designate a phone drop box for the evening. Tell your guests that you really value them and want to really connect without distractions. Some will argue that they may need in case of an emergency, I would say that if they are expecting an emergency, then they should stay where the emergency would happen. In reality a few hours of no phone interruptions will not harm anybody.

Focus on the NOW.
When you are having a conversation with someone. Focus on being present. Put your phone on vibrate and give them undivided attention. Whatever is happening out there, you will be able to get to soon enough. Also, if you are trying to have a conversation with someone who is focusing on the virtual world, bring it to their attention and don’t attempt to engage unless they are giving you the attention you deserve. Remember you teach others how to treat you! Teach them to treat you well by focusing on you on hundred percent, because you deserve it!

In conclusion, there are many benefits to connecting with the outside world. I have been blessed to have connected to some super amazing people. But I have concluded that social media can take us away from our loved ones. Remember we are only here for a very short period of time. Make the best of it by truly connecting to others souls. Show them that you value them, by stay focus and present. Love your loved ones in the flesh not on social media! Until next time, Believe. Change. Become!


NancyJ

Monday, September 12, 2016

Where Are You With Your Dreams? All In or All Out?


"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!
Live the life you've imagined."
-Thoreau

Last week I was in a networking event. While mingling a sweet, kind, gentle woman approached me and asked, “What do you do?” “I help people come alive!” I responded. “How do you do that?” she asked. “By helping them remember their passion.” “You’re like a dream whisper!” she told me. “Yes! That is what I am!” I told her.  We both laughed and exchanged business cards and promised to reconnect this week! This conversation made me think about dreams and the stages of dreams. Do you still believe in your dreams? Where are you in your dreams? Are you pursuing them? All in? In the middle? All out? Today, I want to talk about not only believing in your dreams, but truly committing yourself to being all in, because this is the stage that will put you in a state of bliss. Here are three tips for making dreams come true.

Admit you have dreams and life goals.
The first step in making dreams come true is to admit you have dreams. How do you do this? By telling yourself that you are worthy of dreams. Many times we are told when we are young to, “stop dreaming” “to get out of the cloud.” “In your dreams!” we are reminded. In essence to be a dreamer is considered to be a waste of time, because it would never happen. This develops a sense that you are not worthy of being a dreamer or a goal seeker. Let me remind you it’s your human right to be a dreamer, but it’s most important to go after them.

Take a small step.
I believe the hardest step to accomplishing dreams is the first step. Once you have identified your dreams, you must then take that first step that makes it more real. It’s the action of moving toward your life goals and dreams that make the come alive. When I decided to pursue my dream of “helping people come alive,” I started blogging. I was on a mission! What is one thing you can do today that will move your closer to your dreams? If you want to pursue your passion of cooking or photography, what can you do to be on your way? Could you take a culinary class? Could you take a photography class? It’s the little things that we do today that will make a big difference tomorrow.

You took the grand leap, now what?
You decided that you were all in with your dreams and took the grand leap, now what? Brace yourself and feel proud! Not many people plunge into the unknown all at once, but the ones who do, are in it for the ride of their lives. Taking a full leap is not recommended for everyone, but if you think it’s for you, go for it! The issue many people deal with when taking the grand leap is that there are many ups and downs. There are great doubts. You wonder if you did the right thing. You question your sanity! When you take the grand leap, you have to be mentally strong, you have to BELIEVE, that you will succeed. Keep your chin up beautiful and believe that you will prevail any obstacle that may come your way. This is the stage you must stay to make all your dreams come true. It's the hardest stage, but the stage where you will be reminded of your true essence.

So what will it be? Are you all in? In the middle? Or all out? My desire for you is to be all in! But I understand for many of us the first step is to actually remember our dreams. Wake them up! Take that first step, to eventually take the leap! Believe in your ability to make anything and everything possible by loving yourself and always seeking what makes you come alive. Until next time, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

Nancy:)


PS. Let me know if I can support you in making all your dreams come true! Sending love and blessings your way!

Monday, August 29, 2016

Take Responsibility for Your Life!


“If you could kick the person in the pants
responsible for most of your trouble,
you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
-Theodore Roosevelt

It felt like deja vu, meeting with my friend who we shall call “Mary” to discuss the infidelity of her husband for the third time.

“I can’t believe he did it again! He promised he would change that he would not cheat on me again and I believed him. I feel so stupid!” She told me as tears rolled down her cheeks. “He has ruined my life!  I have wasted ten years of my life for nothing!”

“Well nothing is ever wasted if you learned the lesson.” I told her. “But you have to take responsibility for your life, for your choices. He did not ruin your life; you did this to yourself!” Yes, I was being brutally honest, but I felt that I could not sugar coat it anymore! In the past I had taken the role of a therapist, I just listened and let her her figure it out, but last week my patience was exhausted! “You may not be able to control everything that happens to you, but you had the choice to leave him the first or the second time he cheated on you. You are responsible for the people you bring into your life and the people you keep! Stop blaming him and take responsibility for your life! You have given him the power to treat you this way, because you have showed him how to treat you. Take your power by holding yourself accountable for your life! He has not ruined your life because you can still change it, make it the life you want! Remember, you are the creator the maker of your life! I told her.

She stopped crying, looked intensely into my eyes and said, “You are right, it’s time that I get my power back!”

When you realize that you are the creator of your life. There will be a great sense of freedom. No more blaming games, no more excuses. Own it! If you are not happy with your life you have the power to change it! Stop with the victim mentality! Stop the complaining and do something about it! Yes, I understand that we avoid change because it’s comfortable, but is it really? Is it comfortable to accept people and events in your life that take away from your joy? Is it comfortable to settle and give excuses as to why you are not living the life of your dreams? Stop blaming your children your circumstances and “NIKE IT!” or “Just do it!” Here are four tips on how to take responsibility for your life.

Sail Your Own Ship
If you truly want to be happy you have to sail your own ship. You are in this world to create a masterpiece with your life. You are the creator of your life. No matter your circumstance or where you were born. You have the power to change it. To change it you have to BELIEVE that you are worthy of a better existence. BELIEVE that everything that comes into your life you have attracted some way, somehow. Stay positive, be grateful so that you only get this energy back from the universe. Look at every negative life event as a lesson that needs to be learned. Learn the lesson and move on!

Stop making excuses
When you hold accountable for the bad things that come into your life you will better learn the lesson so that you don’t have to repeat it. If you continue to make excuses for why things don’t work out for you, you will continue to get the same. Stop making excuses and seek to change the things that don’t bring joy into your life. Remember you always have the power to create yourself a better life!

Develop an I can and I will attitude.
Yes, you can! Yes, you will! When you have this type of attitude nothing and no one can stop you. If you have identified what makes you come alive and want to pursue it. DO IT! Fulfill your destiny, by living your best life. Know that you are the only one that can set your limits. Be limitless!

Release when you have done everything in your power.
You have taken responsibility of your life. You have worked hard for your desires and nothing has changed. What now? There is power in releasing your dreams and major life goals to the universe to God. Again, be grateful appreciate what you have in your life and let it go. Be patient and believe that your grand desires are trying to find you. Let God know that you understand that your life is a gift and will make the best of it!

Life is about choices and ultimately the choices that you make are your responsibilities. When you take ownership of your life by holding yourself accountable you will discover true happiness. Eliminate what is damaging your life’s creation and embrace what is helping you create a beautiful existence. Don’t blame others for your current circumstances terminate them from your life. Understand that your life is truly a gift to you and to the world. Make it amazing! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!


NancyJ

Monday, August 22, 2016

How To Get The Life That You Desire


“My greatest challenge has been to change the mindset of people.
Mindset play strange tricks on us.
We see things the way our minds have instructed our eyes to see.
-Mahammad Yunus

A year and half ago I was city girl, but know I am a country girl with a few acres, four chickens and a turtle. You can say I am taking it very slow in the animal department, due to the fact that animals require a lot of time and commitment, and that my husband has not quit his day job. Having a ranch was not my dream. It was my husband’s dream. His life goal is to be an almond farmer with a few more chickens, goats, cows and a horse. He supported me following my dream of Personal Development Coaching/Inspirational Speaking, therefore I felt that living in a farm was the least I could do for him. Yet, there are days I want to scream because my home is always work in progress. Anybody that has lived in reconstruction understands how challenging this can be. Yesterday, as I looked at the corn field next to our place I thought about how everything my husband had created in his mind was coming to fruition. I can remember when we first got married that we lived in a very small home with a tiny backyard. I loved it because it was our first home. Back then this was all we could afford.  So when looking back at our lives I see that we have been true creators of our desires. Everything that we have wished for at one time or another has happened. So why would I every doubt future success? Well, we always doubt our potential our capability because we lack patience. We see impossibilities in the future and we have these beliefs that good things happen to other people. So we get what we believe. These amazing things that you desire start in your mind, they then turn into things that you say and then become physical realities.

How about you?  Do you like what you see in your life? Have you been a successful creator of your life? If so, congratulations you have done well for yourself. You have attracted all those wonderful things to your life.  If not, you have only one person to blame yourself! You have created it. Here are four tips to create the life or your dreams.

Examine your current beliefs.
What do you believe you deserve for your life? Do you have limiting beliefs? When I looked back at my limiting beliefs, I had a tough time believing that I could be a business owner. I thought that business owners had no heart that all they cared about was the bottom line, which was to make money. I rejected this idea because one does not get into education for the money, I thought I got into it for the love of teaching. Then I discovered that indeed I enjoyed it, but I would not do it for free. Sadly, I don’t think I know anybody that could afford to do it for free. We all have bills and a mortgage to pay so education also has a bottom line. Today, I understand what was holding me back and what to do to release myself from this limiting belief. What are your beliefs about success?

Focus on positive information.
I would suggest looking at motivational videos or reading inspirational books about success. I am an auditory person so I also like to listen to powerful talks about personal development when I drive to meetings or appointments. Focusing on positive people in your life is part of staying positive. I know I have said this before but, “we are the company that we keep.” Is your circle pushing you to your best life or keeping you away from it? Evaluate these friendships and eliminate, eliminate, eliminate.

Focus on manifesting what you desire.
What your desire? You have to focus on it and act like you already have it. How do you do that you ask? By showing gratitude for what you have and staying positive. Also believe that what you are wanting is on its way. The truth is that what you want is already yours you just have to match your energy with that of the universe. It’s like a puzzle piece that is looking for the right fit, so are your desires.

Train your subconscious mind to believe.
The subconscious mind is the mind that you need to train so that your desires could flourish. This was very difficult for me because I used to be very practical and reasonable. This was what my subconscious mind was used to. I came in like a wrecking ball, destroying everything that I believed was real to my life. I then demanded my subconscious mind to be open to endless possibilities that it had never experience. Train it to believe that what you truly desire will be a sure thing, but do remember to give it time.

In essence it is very important to be cognizant of your thoughts and train your subconscious. Your thoughts and beliefs are the secret to your success. To get the life you want, it takes awareness and responsibility of those thoughts. Change those negative vibrations so that your life can change from an OK to WOW! Don't forget you are worthy of everything you desire! Until next Monday watch your thoughts and don’t forget to Believe. Change. Become!
NancyJ


PS. I will be offering a webinar on how to Make Your Mindset a Believe Mindset. Email me at Nancy@believechangebecome.net if you would like for information about this course.