Monday, October 26, 2015

Let It Shine, Let It Shine, Let It Shine!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, or fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

I am not a football fan, but a few days ago I saw this YouTube video that totally moved me. It inspired my post this morning take a moment to check this You Tube video before I continue.

Were you moved like I was? This video, “When Kids Meet Their Football Idols,” made me think about the effects idols have on others.  I realized that when we shine with our passion and our life purpose, we give permission for others to do the same. Don’t misunderstand me, there is a difference in being an obsessed fan seeking fame and fortune, and having admiration for someone's true life's purpose. The difference is that by others shining bright, it will give you permission to also seek greatness within yourself. They are a reminder that you have what it takes to be phenomenal, that you too can be exceptional, and shine as bright as lighthouse! It is through their light that they light up the path for others. I don't aspire to be a football player, but I am always inspired to continue to be on my life purpose when I see other on theirs! They remind me that I can also be great!

I was so moved by the video that I showed you, it led me to think about of Marianne Williamson’s fine words. Today, I want you to truly believe that you are powerful beyond measures. That your passion is an indicator of what your purpose is. Once you are on your purpose and shine,  you will light others true potential. In the video you see the admiration of the children to their idols. This gave me chills because I was able to see that these children saw themselves in their idols. The love and admiration for their idols can give the children permission to dream big and believe that they could be become them. We are all connected, we all should help each other shine and fulfill our lives purpose.

What makes you, YOU?
How do you shine? What is something that you are amazing at? Do you poses talents in the arts, cooking, or singing? By answering these questions you can discover what makes you special and how you can inspire others. It is by doing what you were born to do and you absolutely love that you will be happy and bring shine to others. What makes you shine, is the message to others that they too have something special.

Why we play it small?
I believe we play it small because we want to be liked. Have you ever been given a complement and you down played it? I used to have a difficult time if someone gave me a complement. If someone said did something well, I would doubt them. I believed that if I played small, I would be better accepted. Finally, I had a friend tell me that I should just take the complement, say thank you and believe it! It’s because we don’t want to seem vain or overly confident that we do this. I want to urge you to stop this! It is ok to be wonderful, amazing or incredible. It is this that makes others want to also be the same. Yes, you may have the haters, but it is ok, because believe it or not they too, want some of your greatness. You are the main actor in your movie play your part BIG!

Don’t keep the music inside you!
Your passion will guide you to your life’s purpose. Please don’t let the music die inside of you. You were given something special. You should seek it! If you have idols that inspire you like in the video don't forget, they are shining their light so that you may shine yours. It is the people that inspire us that are whispering," You too can do this!" It is possible for you to be or do anything if you dream big and believe bigger! That music that you have to share with the world needs to be shared. Today is a good day to start shining it's not just for you but also to light the path to others.

I hope my light has shined through your darkness today. I also hope for you to be the light to others. Please don’t ever forget, you are something special because you were born, don’t play it small! Seek to be inspired by those who you aspire to be like and seek to inspire those who are seeking  inspiration with your essence of greatness.  It is our moral responsibility to help and inspire greatness in others, by first being great ourselves! Also, remember that we are interconnected  when you shine my light gets brighter. So let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!
Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.



Monday, October 19, 2015

Happiness or Joy the Choice is Yours!


“Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit on your shoulder.”

A couple of days ago, I was meeting a future client. We were discussing what our focus would be in her becoming. She brought up that she was seeking happiness. This made me think about the true meaning of happiness, and the pursuit of it. Today we will discuss happiness and joy, and what your ultimate goal should be.
According to Psychology Today, happiness is external. It’s based on situations, events, people, places, things, and thoughts. Happiness is connected to your hope for a relationship, or your hope for a future someone. Happiness is linked to that, “someday.”
On the other hand joy comes deep within. Joy comes when you are at peace with who you are, where you are, whom you are with. Joy focuses on the, “present,” not on, “someday.” Joy, is a spiritual experience it is not based on ego, but the soul.
Happiness is subjective, it comes from the outside, and it’s about the material world. The material things that may bring happiness in an instant to my life, may not bring you happiness. It means different things to different people. There is research out there that education, money, or a big house does not affect our happiness levels as much as we may think.  I personally know of people that have doubled their yearly income who are not happier. I have personally discovered that a bigger house or a nicer car leads to a temporary feeling of happiness. This feeling is ego driven. Yes, it’s nice to have these things, but they quickly lose their value. Happiness brings simple pleasure it may please your heart briefly, but then it’s gone!

Lasting joy is my wish for you! Joy warms your heart it is part of your spirit. Joy is based on who you really are, your true essence. It is that connection you have to others. Joy accepts life as it is and lives in the present. It does not seek the material things to feel fulfilled. Joy is that real effort you must make to be happy. It’s looking at the world with optimism and faith. It’s knowing that through pain and sorrow we get to fulfill our destiny. A joyful life it’s a ripple effect of bringing love and joy to others. Joy is the ability to give of yourself and to receive from others.

Three things to consider when seeking joy.
Stay present.
There are things you may regret from your past. Things you wish you could change. I am asking you to reconsider this view. It’s those things from the past that have brought you here. Those were lessons that you had to learn. So learn the lesson and don’t look back. Enjoy the present, count your blessings and find the joy!
Count your blessings or gratitude.
You have heard me talk about gratitude on various occasions. I will say it again! Gratitude is the essence of discovering joy and staying in joy. It’s those small things we take for granted to we must always be grateful for. When I am lacking joy it’s because I am not counting my blessings. There is always something you can be grateful for find it!

Seek Optimism!
If you want lasting joy it’s your optimism that will make you have it. Optimism goes hand in hand with gratitude. If you decide to focus on what is working rather than what is not you are halfway there. Optimism, not only makes you feel better about the struggles of life, but it pushes you forward. It gives you faith that the end result will be a positive one!
Have I convinced you that joy is the way to go? I hope so! Remember joy may be related to happiness, but it is a soul searching experience. It goes deep into our spirit, it seeks to remind us of who we are. I believe that the ultimate goal of our human existence is to be in joy because it is longer lived and it is not based on the material world.
My wish for you is to seek joy and to be joy to others! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Is Your Leap of Faith or Fear?

"What if I fail?" "Oh, but my darling, what if you FLY?"
- Author Unknown
I want to send a, “shout out,” to those brave souls who have taken a, “leap of faith,” and not a, “leap of fear!” It takes courage, clarity and faith to make this bold move. For those of you who are ready to take a leap of faith but have been stopped by fear, there is hope.  In today’s blog I will encourage and give you some suggestions that will support with this life changing journey.
I know firsthand what it is like to take a leap of faith. It’s not easy to go into the unknown. The unconventional leap of faith I decided to take made me change my classroom. It made me shift my abilities to teach academic lessons to life lessons. I know how fear can control your mind. I know how fear can stop you from your purpose. Today, I want to assure you that you have what it takes to take a leap of faith if you follow these four simple steps.
Silence yourself to listen to your true self.
It is human nature to seek advice from family and friends about changes you are seeking for your life. But when you are feeling the urge to make a life change seek that inner voice. The one that truly knows. In my case it was that voice that guided me to my true life's purpose. It’s this voice that continues to guide me. You also have this inner voice follow it!
Replace the fear of the unknown with excitement.
We are creatures of habit. We want to know what will happen every moment of our lives. Taking a leap of faith requires you to be ok with not knowing. To anticipate only positive things to come. Take five minutes a day to visualize positive things you expect to happen. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Who is celebrating your success with you? When you call this positive energy to your life, I assure you, you will cultivate it!

Let your support system reflect who you want to be.
Look around you. Who is your support system? You are only as good as the people you surround yourself with. Seek for mentors that are where you want to be. Are you hanging around with positive people that encourage and wish only the best for you? It’s important that your social circle not only cheers you up, but helps you up when you are down.

Life is too short to play it safe.
Remember you were born to have an exceptional life.  You don’t get an exceptional life by playing it safe. You have to get out of your comfort zone to get there. It requires you to believe that it’s necessary for you to conquer your fears so you may do so. Take a leap of faith in yourself, by going back to school, changing your job, or ending a relationship that is harming your spirit. Trust me when I tell you that even if there are bumps with a leap of faith, you are capable of handling any growth experience that may come your way. At the end of our lives we never regret the things we did, we only regret what we did not do.
Remember, believe that by willing to change the old for something new, and taking a leap of faith into the unknown you can find out what you are capable of becoming.
 Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


Monday, October 5, 2015

What Is Your Fearful Nagging Voice Telling You?

"To feel confident you need to kill the devil in your head.
Think about this negative self talk;
 the volume, the voice tone and whose voice it is."
Christopher Delaney
A few days ago, I was taking my fifteen year old son and seven year old daughter to dinner. On our drive there my daughter said that she wished she was a good artist like her friend. She mentioned that she was never going to be that good and started a pity party on herself. I mentioned to her that there was a “stupid voice in everyone’s head that we should never listen to it!”  My daughter is a very sweet gentle soul who thinks the word, “hate,” is a, “bad word!”  Which her brother has teased her about many times before. Her eyes widen with shock because I used the word, “stupid.” My son, saw this and realized that this was an opportunity of a lifetime for him (remember he is fifteen!). He then proceeded to whisper in my ear that we needed to use a stronger word to describe, “the stupid voice.” I started to laugh and asked, “What word?” “The F word he said.” Let’s make her say, “f*** the stupid voice in my head!”  I could not stop laughing at how quickly he wanted to help his sister with this. I told my daughter that it was ok for her to say, “stupid,” only this time and reminded my son to watch his words! She could not believe it. She started to yell, “I will not pay attention to the stupid voice in my head!” “I will not pay attention to the stupid voice in my head.” “I will not pay attention to the stupid voice in my head.” We laughed all the way to the restaurant, and continued to talk about how those negative thoughts are lies based on fear that we must never listen to. We concluded that it was ok, to label that negative voice, “stupid,” because it really does not tell the truth of who you are or what you are capable of doing.
What about your, “stupid voice?” What lies is it telling you? Where will you be one year from now? Five years from now? How you answer these questions is dependent on what voice is taking lead in your mind. Will it be the “fearful, nagging voice,” or the, “positive, optimistic voice.” Which one is occupying your head these days? Look around you, which one has occupied your head this decade? Today we will examine this negative voice and its use or lack off use, I should say! We will also look at ways to take its power away so that you may have a promising future!

Why we have negative thoughts?
According to wikiHow, we are all programmed to scan our environment, searching for problems to fix, and that requires spending a significant amount of mental energy considering what-if or worst case scenarios. So, there is a reason for “stupid voice.” Yet, I believe these thoughts are fear based and they become a problem when we believe they are true.  Calm Clinic Anxiety, informs us that the negative thoughts may be a result of anxiety, but that it is also very normal to have negative thoughts and not suffer from an anxiety disorder. We have all heard the voice in our head that says, “You are not, smart enough to do that!” “You will never amount to much!” or my personal favorite, “Who do you think you are?” I believe that, negative thoughts are part of the human experience.  I believe that we all experience with these negative thoughts because it challenges our true voice to come out. The one you should be listening to. Last Monday’s blog I told you that there is an inner voice that you must listen to, that is the voice that is being challenged to come out every time you have a negative thought. This, “positive, optimistic voice,” is the voice you should be paying attention to. It knows more than your, “fearful, nagging voice.”

 How do I get rid of these negative thoughts?
When you find yourself hearing negative thoughts, be ready to call your, “positive, optimistic voice,” to the rescue! How do you do that you ask? Well let me tell you!  Start by asking yourself, “Is this thought true.” For example if you want to move up in your profession, and you hear, “You are not smart enough to do that job!” You know who is talking right? Acknowledge, and thank your, “nagging fearful thought,” for being concern. Assure it that you understand it’s coming out of fear and remind it that you have all that it takes to do this job! If these suggestions don’t work and you still have those, “nagging, fearful thoughts,” next thing to do is to challenge them. If this voice is telling you, “You are not smart enough for that job!” respond by saying, “Watch me!” and be on your way! Other tips for getting rid of those negative thoughts include to write them down and burn them. Also, when these thoughts come up, quickly focus on the positive outcomes, and don’t get consumed with, “what if’s.” Know that you are resilient enough to deal with any negative outcome when they happen and not before!

In conclusion, it is imperative that you understand that the, “nagging, fearful voice,” is fear based and that you don’t have to believe it. It’s ok to notice that voice and say, “Hey what’s up?” and send it on its way. Then turn to the, “positive, optimistic voice,” and say, “What were you saying?” I bet you this voice makes you feel more like home.  Think about it for a second, doesn’t that voice make you feel better? That voice is not fear based but love based, listen to it and follow it. I hope today you were able to identify your true voice. The one that is going to make five years from now more exceptional! It all starts with those voices inside your head and it’s up to you to choose the right one!

Until next Monday, Believe.Change.Become!