Monday, July 27, 2015

Worry Less So You Can Live More

Is Worrying Helpful?
 
What is the silliest thing you have ever worried about? Are you a, "worry wall?" Do you constantly worry about your health, loved ones, your job or your finances? If so, this post is for you!
 

"Worry is like a rocking chair,
it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere." 
-Van Wilder
 
 
 Today I will answer these three questions. 
         1.       Why do we worry?
         2.       Is worry beneficial to our lives?
         3.       How do we stop worrying?
 
Worry is the opposite of hope it steals our peace and physically and mentally can drain us. It can drain to the point of making us sick.

 

 
So, who worries? According to WebMD people who are, “worry warts.” tend to be prone to the, “what if disease,” while the lucky few merely worry about something when it happens. Robert L. Leahy, PhD, the author of," The Worry Cure," suggests, “There may be a genetic component.” “There are also nurture or non-nurture factors.” But for many of us this may be habitual.
 

Why do we worry? I believe we worry as a form of control. WebMD also suggest that the worrier’s credo is that if you can simply imagine something bad happening, it’s your responsibility to worry about it. I used to suffer from the, “what if disease,” as a young adult, and did I pay a high price for it. I remember thinking that if I did not focus on worst case scenarios, I was not preparing myself or I had no real control of the future. In my very depressed mind this was healthy, because I was putting on armor for all the bad things that would happen. The saddest thing about it, was that my worst case scenarios never happened. So basically I tortured myself for nothing!
 

 
Whatever may be your situation, I want to assure you that you can conquer this. Worrying is not beneficial! Dr. Leahy suggests that worriers are more likely to have irritable vowel syndrome, nausea, fatigue, and aches and pains. I support this view, because when I let worry take over me I end up with aches and pains in my back. I have also observed friends and family becoming fatigue and depressed.
Is it possible to stop worrying? The answer is YES! I could give you some simple steps but I am going to put it plain and simple. First identify your worries. Look at the worst case scenarios. Now switch it. Focus on best outcome. What feeling do you like best? The positive or negative result? Go with what feels better. Move to that positive energy. It’s ok to embrace the unknown in a positive way. Be patient, don’t jump to conclusions about results. But if you must, focus on those results that have only beneficial outcomes. Remember that the results will never be as bad as you think it will be but if it is, take it as an opportunity to grow! Tell yourself that, "this too shall pass," and know that you can and will overcome anything.
 

 
In conclusion, it is human nature to worry about the unknown. But it's also ok to let things go and not to worry about things that have not happened. If you can change it to get a better outcome do it! Otherwise, take a deep breath and stop worrying! Another suggestion is to practice patience and understand that you have no control over what happens to you, only to your reaction to it. As the exceptional human being that you are, you are capable of dealing with any difficulty in a proactive way. Don’t jump to conclusions so quickly about worst case scenarios. Believe that whatever may come your way you will deal with it as it comes.
 
Yet, If you still have to worry because of past practice I suggest you get a Worry Doll from Guatemala. You simply tell your worries to the doll before you go to bed and job is done!


 
Until next Monday BELIEVE you can stop worrying about situations that have not happened, CHANGE those negative brain patterns to BECOME the awesome you!
 


 
 
 
 

 

 

 
 

 
 

 
 

 
 

 
 

 
 

 

 

Monday, July 20, 2015

I Want Patience NOW!

With Patience Anything is Possible
 
Patience is one of the hardest virtues to develop. It has never been easy to be patient, and it’s even harder in this high technology world. We are in a world where messages and information can be sent across the world instantly. We don’t write letters or talk on the phone because it’s not fast enough.  We want everything to be just a click away.
 
 
Yet, patience is a virtue that can and should be nurtured over time, so that you may stick around for your goals and dreams. As Wiktionary very appropriately puts it, " A patient seeker will be satisfied in due time; patience is a virtue. The more common form of this proverb today being, "good things come to those who wait."
 
In today’s post, I would like to be very candid about my struggle with patience. I want patience and I want it now! As, I mentioned last week, my home life is very chaotic right now. My new home is under construction, so I am very demanding of my husband to make sure he is pushing our construction crew to finish NOW! He was born with this virtue, he is cool and collected. I, on the other hand have always felt that if I develop this virtue to perfection, I would find more peace in my life.
 
 
In this post I would like to share how I am approaching patience in a proactive not reactive approach with these three simple steps.
1.      Breath and Smile
2.      Enjoy  the Journey
3.     “Let it Go,” like Elsa, from the Frozen Disney Movie
 
Breath and Smile
As I am facing unexpected financial situations that arise from the deconstruction of my new home, I have to remind you and myself to breath. I would suggest that you take three to five deep breaths, when you are in a stressful situation that requires patience. Imagine your stress leaving your body with every exhale. Picture a happy ending to whatever is causing you stress and don't forget to smile.
 
 
 
Enjoy The Journey
In any project or situation that requires your patience it’s important to focus on those minor baby steps. Make your goals small and simple. Take it a day at a time. In my big reconstruction project I have decided to approach it a room at a time. This helps me stay positive with minor successes not the whole home. I celebrate when I see paint on the walls of each individual room and try not to overwhelm myself with the many other things that are still undone.
 
Sometimes You Just Have To Sing, “Let It Go.”
Things that may seem like the end of the world right now or in any moment will also pass (I promise). Nothing is forever! Stressing about a situation that you have no control over does not make it better.  Ask yourself these questions will this matter to me, a year from now? In my death bed? I have also learned to stop being a perfectionist and a control freak.  Do the best you can with what you have, and “Let it go!”
 
Patience is one of the most important virtues that you may acquire. Don’t forget to always practice your breathing and to smile to get you to focus on positive thoughts. You must also enjoy the journey more than the destination and when all fails you must learn to,"Let it go,"like Elsa! Also you must never forget that, "good things come to those who wait." So, be patient.
Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME.
 

Monday, July 13, 2015

BECOMING to Fulfill Your Mission

Who Are You Becoming?


 

The quote above is a perfect start for this blog, because we all have a purpose or mission. It's up to us to decide if we accept it.

Who is influencing you? Are you planning who you want to be or are you ready for an unwelcome surprise at the end of the road?
 
 
In today’s blog I will address these questions and will guide you into becoming or what I like to call,“remembering,” why you are here!
 
 
Scientists estimate that probability of being born is one in 400 million.  Can you see you that you are a walking miracle? There is more than we will ever understand, but one thing I know for sure, we all have a mission. Many of us have discovered our mission or purpose and have applied changes to our lives so we may become who we are destined to be. While others, may be wondering about life’s purpose. My goal today is to focus your direction into a path of becoming the best you, and for you to go forward so you can act like the miracle that you are!
This morning I will apply my BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME, program to get you to fully understand what it means to become.

 
 
We have all been there. Young and reckless, when we said we were going to change the world! Then life happened. We got married, had children and acquired a monthly mortgage. We stopped believing in the power of our dreams and became more practical. We had to do it because it’s really not bad, it's actually wonderful. I know I love my children and husband, they are blessings in my life. I was overall, “happy.” Yet, I could not help but recall the promise I had made to myself many years ago.
The promise was not only to provide love and happiness to my family and friends, but there was much more. I believed in the power of my dreams, which is empowering individuals to fulfill their mission. The problem with life happening is that you get caught up in the norms of our society. So you forget about those dreams. Then ten years later you realize you are out of alignment with your true self. You wonder if you are in the right path. You question your existence.
 
So, ask yourself these two questions:

·         What do you believe would bring joy to your life?

·         Who do you believe you can be?

In addressing these two questions, you are able to get a glimpse at the different possibilities of why you are here.

The power of believing is crucial in becoming and don’t you ever doubt that! We become what or who we believe. When you believe you bring the better future into the present and it propels anything you will ever want, oh yeah and it brings joy and happiness! If you believe you will change the world you may start with minor changes at home and you will! Without believing there is no becoming. There is no becoming  because there was no believing.

 

Why should you change when you seek becoming? You should seek change because you won't become who you are destined to be if you stay the same. You won't fulfill your destiny!
 


Change is necessary because without it you can’t grow. I know it may be painful sometimes, but it is necessary for you to become. It’s those little habit forming changes that will make the difference. If you are not willing to go full throttle to change your life, take small incremental steps in pursuing your purpose or mission. It is not necessary to take dramatic steps it's in the single step, but remember you must make the choice to make a small or drastic change in order to become.




What is becoming?  Albert Einstein, could have not said it better. It is more than the material things, the power, or the wealth it is what or how you are contributing to others. How is your existence making a difference in the life of others. Albert Einstein, talked about giving value to your life. In becoming you chose value over success. Success is the cherry on top, but not the full dessert.
 
 

I agree with Albert Einstein, it's not about the material things, power or fame, it's about your life's purpose.
 


 

Paulo Coelho, reminds us that to identify our gifts should be our only obligation. I call your," your gifts," your passion. 


Remember, “We are all born with a mission, to be happy and bring love and joy to others. It our life’s goal to search for our life’s mission by finding our passion. When we do this we will find true happiness because you are living your soul’s purpose.” That is a quote from me! That is what I believe your becoming is all about. It’s about finding what makes you happy, what brings joy to others and what you can apply passion to. Once you do this, you will see that your life has purpose and meaning.
 
So, do you have an idea if you are becoming or how to become? I hope so. If not don't you worry don't you fear, we will revisit this topic in future blogs.
Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!


Monday, July 6, 2015

How to Embrace Change and Not Fear it!

 
 

“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.”


I am a creature of habit, I enjoy structure and routine. It makes me feel safe. Yet, most recently my life has been filled with uncertainty and chaos. I am currently moving to my dream home at a very big cost. I am losing comfort and security for the discomfort of an older home that requires a lot of work. It is demolition time at the Salmeron's household! These past couple of months have pushed my boundaries and patience. But in reflecting in the destruction and chaos that I have endured, I have also learned just how adaptable we can be if we choose to embrace change.
 
 
"Chaos," that's where I have been for a couple of months now, but I know that at the end it will be well worth it!
 
Many of us resist change unfortunately we don’t realize that change is constant. Resist all you want, but with or without your permission change is coming.
Today I am going to answer these questions about change.

·        When should you seek change?

·        Why should we embrace change?

·        How do we embrace change?
 
When should you seek change?
You should voluntary seek change when you feel stuck. When you are asking yourself the eternal, “there’s got to be more than this?" When you are seeking personal growth. We all have things in our lives we would like to improve such as, a better job, house, partner, or a healthier life style. The reason you may have conformed to what you have is because you may not believe that change is possible. I am here to tell you not only that is possible but it is necessary! It is essential for your personal development that you go after change.
Fight change? Think of the consequences.
 
Why should we embrace change?
 
You should embrace change because it may lead to a new improved you! Like I said  I appreciate routine and structure, but I also like to," stir it up" to become better. These changes I seek may scare me, but I know these changes will make me stronger and wiser. I am willing to get out of my comfort zone to take the first step for change. I believe that change is always followed by progress. Yet, it is only those that are seeking progress that will see it this way. Change is simply opening a new chapter in your life. This is the next chapter where you will apply what you already know to make it better. So make the next chapter more exciting!
 
 

How do you embrace change?
You must first truly believe that change is possible and NECESSARY for the better you! Sometimes you may seek change other times it may seek you. In both situations change is visiting you for your personal development. Understand that change is growth, therefore give yourself permission to grow. Understand that change will bring new excitement to your life. Without change there is no progress. When you embrace change you learn to accept that it is part of life. Like I said before, "you may resist change, yet it is coming with or without your permission." So make the best of it and welcome it with open arms! Remember change is here to improve you, but  to perfect yourself you must always seek it.
 
 
 
Yes, I agree change can be scary, but you know what is more scary? Letting fear stop you from be growing and evolving to becoming your best self!
 

Charles Darwin said, "It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change."
 
Be responsive, take charge of your life and get out there and seek change. It may get you out of your comfort zone, but it will also make you experience other wonderful things. So, if it's you seeking or change seeking you, take a deep breath, take a step back and welcome the opportunity for growth! Until next Monday, BELIEVE, embrace CHANGE to BECOME!