Monday, March 6, 2017

How Positive Thinking Evokes More Happiness


"The energy of the mind is the
essence of life."

-Aristotle

“Why do these things always happen to me?” A potential client asked me. “Things never work out for me.” She continued.
“Stop and be mindful of your words.” I told her.

“My life changed when I started to be more conscious about my thoughts, words and actions. I am a believer that we are magnets of positive and negative energy. When we emit positive energy, we attract more positive energy. When we dwell on negative energy we attract more of it. Why don’t we focus on what is going right in your life to see if we can move into a more positive vibration? I promise you it feels better and you will be glad you did.” She agreed and the conversation ended in a very positive note.

Today I want to talk about how to attract positive energy in to your life. Here are some tips on how to stop circulating toxic negative thoughts and start circulating positive thoughts, that in return will reward you with a more positive life.

Self- love is key.
Some of the things you tell yourself you would not tell your worst enemy. Love and accept yourself as you are. When I coach clients about self- love I remind them of the many obstacles that they have overcome. What about you? What obstacles have you overcome? Be proud of all that you have done. Be proud of all your accomplishments.

Let love take lead.
There are two emotions that guide our lives love and fear. When love guides your life your energy flow is positive. When fear rules your life the energy flow is toxic. There are many doubts, many questions.  Let love be the antidote to fear.

Develop an attitude of gratitude.
To have positive energy flow let the universe know how much you appreciate what you already have. Be grateful for your breath, your health, home and loved ones. It’s these things that make you attract more blessings into your existence. What are your blessings? Make a list and be grateful for the health and well being that is coming your way.

Let go of past resentments.
It is time to let go of all past resentments. You don’t need to be a prisoner of the past or others.  It’s important that you learn the lesson so that you don’t repeat it, but you must move on.  When you release past disappointments, you will quickly move into a positive flow. It’s also important that you forgive yourself for mistakes you made in the past. Again, reflect and learn the lesson.

Choose your words wisely.
Your words set your reality in motion, therefore choose them wisely. Do not speak of words of lack only words of abundance. Do not speak of what could go wrong in your life, but what is right and what will go right. Your words and thoughts are powerful. Be mindful of what goes in your mind and out your mouth.

When we dwell on the negative we attract more of it. This will in return take away our positive energy and give us more negative energy. It starts in the mind, becomes words and take form in our actions. Be the creator of abundance by manifesting abundance, joy and love. See you next week where we delve deeper into how to develop an attitude of gratitude and why this is important to creating dreams. Until next time Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ

Monday, February 27, 2017

How Dreams Take Us Forward



"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!
Live the life you've imagined."
-Thoreau

I used to believe that dreams where accomplished by lucky people, and that I was not one of them. For many years, I put my dreams on hold, to fulfill the dreams of my parents. Where are you with your dreams and goals? When I reflect on what I want to accomplish for my life, I am reminded that first must believe that those dreams and life goals are possible and that they will be attainable. Do you believe your dreams will come true? It is said that when you believe is your dreams you are half way there. I would agree with this statement one hundred percent! Today I want to share with you why this is so and how we could be on our way to making sure those dreams become a reality!

Don’t doubt your dreams or life goals.
The first step in believing in your dreams is to not doubt them. The second step is to believe in them. When you believe that it is possible for you to get that dream job, to meet that perfect man, to buy your dream job, the universe, God can’t help but conspire with you to make sure that it becomes a reality. Your optimistic view that this is not only possible but necessary is the fuel that your dreams need to start to fruition. It sounds very simple but this is the first step to igniting your dreams. As, I work on my dreams I am reminded that I once doubted them. I doubted that I could be the creator of my life, and that is why it took me twenty years to be on my purpose. Now that I believe in my dreams, and understand my purpose a stand taller, there is much more meaning in my life.

Action, action, action!
The second step in making your life goals or dreams a reality is to act. When you are working toward your dreams, you inform the universe that you are serious and in return the universe gets serious too. It’s what you put out that will be reflected to you. As I reflect on my success, on my fulfilled dreams I can see that everything resulted out of me putting my part to making it sure it would happen. For example, one of my dreams was to be a published author. But it would have stayed a dream if I had not put action to it. The universe supported this desire by connecting me with my amazing editor Debbie. I had the dream, I put action to it. Then the universe, God sent this amazing woman to make my dream of becoming a published author a reality. Thanks to her and my dedication to this project, this book will be released in the next few months.

Be flexible and patient.
I used to believe in rigid time lines. I used to believe that things had to happen on my time. Not anymore! Today, I like to ride with the flow and I don’t feel guilty about it. I believe in the flow because I have no doubt that dreams come true. The only thing I don’t know for sure is that I could pin point the date and time. I now understand acquiring dreams and life goals is not about that peak of the mountain, it’s about the journey. You stay in the journey when you practice gratitude for what you have and continue to work for what you desire. Don’t ever surrender, don’t ever believe that you have failed if your dreams don’t show up tomorrow. Your dreams need time to fruition. Be patient and enjoy the climb, because that is where you will spend most of the time.

My dream for you is to believe in your dreams. Don’t despair when they don’t show up on your rigid time line. The most important thing is that you keep on moving forward. Yes, evaluate the progress you are making, adjust your sails if you need to but keep with the ocean current.

Join me next week where I will discuss a bit further why it’s important to work on our energy flow and how this makes your dreams find you much easier. Until next Monday, I want you to BELIEVE anything is possible, understand that you will CHANGE in the process, to BECOME who you were destined to be!

Nancy:)

Monday, February 20, 2017

Believe. Change. Become.



"Follow your bliss.
Choose to live your passion
Find your true north."

-Nancy Salmeron

My name is Nancy Salmeron, I am the founder of BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME. Two years ago, I started writing on blogger. I introduced myself then, but today I want to reintroduce myself again so that you can better understand my mission and so you can to be aware of some of the changes that are coming. In my past life, I was an educator, in my current life I continue to teach, but now I am teacher of life. Today, I am an inspirational speaker, writer and a personal development coach.  I help individuals come alive by helping them identify their passion and supporting them with their dreams. My purpose for these posts is to support and empower you with your dreams and life goals. I also want to awaken you to the possibility that there are no limits for what you desire. That the limits you see are only in your mind. It is my mission to help you remember what your dreams were and to remind you that they are meant to be accomplished. It’s imperative that you understand that you first must BELIEVE in yourself and your dreams. Then you must act and apply CHANGE to BECOME who you were destined to be.

Currently, I blog every Monday and this will stay the same. To guide and support you with your dreams and life goals, I have decided to focus on a monthly theme. For example, starting next month I will focus on BELIEFS. You will learn why believing in yourself and your dreams is essential to making them come true. You will also be able to understand why certain beliefs can stop you from reaching those goals. We will work on your mindset. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube because, I will provide Transformational Wednesday videos on YouTube, daily motivational quotes on Instagram and on Facebook I will go live monthly with Q and A’ Fridays to support you with your BECOMING. I am very excited for these changes that will only enhance the possibilities for me to be more successful in getting you on your way to the life of your dreams.

I want to close by reinforcing that your life has a purpose. There is a reason you are here and it’s not just to pay bills and die. There is more to your life, you have a special mission you must accomplish. There is a special gift or talent that only you have that is a gift to the world. What makes you come alive? What is your reason for being here? My reason is to empower you to fulfil your destiny. My reason is to remind you that you are no accident, you are no mistake. The world is waiting for that special gift that could change the world. Your journey to the peak of the mountain, will not always be sunshine and rainbows, but it’s in the rain and thunderstorms that you will learn to dance. I believe that everything is possible for you. I also believe that only those who BELIEVE in their dreams, act and apply CHANGE will get to BECOME to fulfil their destiny. Let this be you. Will you join me to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME? See you next Monday!

Monday, February 6, 2017

Six Tips to Living a Life Without Regrets


"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count.
 It's the life in your years."

-Abraham Lincoln

What does it mean to live life without regrets? It is my belief that we make life harder than it really is. The older I get the more I understand that love should always be my compass. That staying in the moment will guide my future. That staying close to the ones you love make you happier. That going with the flow does not mean you can’t express your mind. And that in the end you have not lived unless you have pursued your dreams. This is what I believe is essential for living a life of joy. The order does not matter for me. What matter is that at the end of my life when asked if I lived a happy life, I can say without a doubt that I choose my life and I never settled for it. To expand on what I view is essential for a happy life read further.

Pursue your dreams and not the dreams of others.
To live a life that truly matters you must pursue your dreams, and not what your parents, family or friends desire for you. Some dreams may involve the material world, others come from the heart from seeking purpose and significance in your life. I define this as unique as your thumb print. Your true calling or purpose was given to you to follow it. It’s that special thing that makes you come alive. What makes you come alive? For me it’s empowering individuals to believe in their dreams and following their purpose. When I think about life purpose I understand that we have different callings. For some it’s to be an educator, doctor, scientist or mother. Your purpose does not have to be grand as to what society defines to be successful. To be successful in life you just need to follow your heart, follow your bliss. It’s doing what you want to do because you love it. If you want to be a mother and love that roll, pursue it with passion, and be the best mother possible.  Your purpose should do with what brings you joy and what contributes positively to others lives. How many people you impact does not matter. What matters is that you are making someone else’s lives better because you were born.

Work less and stay close to the ones you love.
Work less and spend time with the ones you love. Life tends to move fast. You have a child and like a blink of the eye ten years go by. Be cautious of your time. Dedicate time to the ones you love. Make a conscious choice to quality time with them. Yes, we get busy, but let go of the things that take away from bonding and loving your special people in your life. It is said that in our death beds we will regret the time we spent working but never the time we spent with the ones we love.

Go with the flow.
To go with the flow is to understand that you are being guided into what is best for you. Work for what you desire, but be wise enough to know when to surrender and go with the flow. As you go with the flow you will discover that there is a better plan for your life that you ever imagined. When you trust in God in the Universe you discover that life should not be so complicated, and that when you let go and trust life becomes effortless and more rewarding.

Express your mind.
To express your mind is to not die with ideas or thoughts that could change our world. Be mindful of your thoughts and express only those thought that empower and uplift others. Also, express your thoughts that will support love, empathy and compassion. When you do, you give the opportunity for others to do the same. Even if you have negative or fearful feelings know that you have the right to express them, don’t hold anger or resentment express it. Be open with your thoughts and world views but never impose them.

Enjoy each moment.
Savor every moment. Good or bad moments should be cherished because they are fleeting. Stay present and focused. As you live consciously every moment you realize that life is a beautiful thing. That even when pain and suffering make a visit, it too will transcend into something better. Stay in the moment, by telling reminding yourself that this is all you have. The past is gone. The future is never guaranteed the present is the only thing that we can count on.

Let love not fear lead the way
When you decide to be led by love, you will bring prosperity and joy to your life. If you choose fear you will bring uncertainty and hardship into your life. Love is the emotion that we are born with, but fear is what society and the world teach us. Let go of fear and embrace love. It feels better and it’s better for your health.

In conclusion, there is a purpose to your life and that is to live in joy!  You will find joy when you choose love and enjoy each moment. Express your mind, but also learn to go with the flow of life. Last, but not least remember to live in purpose because that is why you are here. Until next week Believe. Change. Become.

NancyJ

Monday, January 23, 2017

To Let Go of Anxiety You Must Live Now!


"No amount of regret can change the past.
No amount of anxiety can change the future."

-notsalmon.com

I have been dealing with a great deal of anxiety lately. I attribute it to what is going on politically with our country but also this very extreme weather. As far as the weather, the rain and the strong winds have taken one of my favorite trees down. I am sad for the loss of my favorite tree, but grateful that it did not land on the house. We have lost many shingles on our roof that resulted in some water leaks in our home. With pots and pans holding the water, I am blessed to still have a home. Yet, I am fearful of the cost of these repairs. In regards to the political climate in our country it has felt a bit dark and gloomy.  I understand that my fears are legitimate, yet I also understand that if I continue to live with these stressors I am bound have a very sad existence. I understand that we must be realistic, but when is it OK to let hope take over? I don’t know about you. But, I have felt that when one talks about hope it means that you have given up on the battle at hand. I know understand, that hope makes the impossible become possible. If we give up on hope, we may end up in despair. Today let’s talk about the things you can do when anxiety, fear and despair want to take over your life.

Acknowledge your feelings.
Your feelings are legitimate. Identify what is causing your anxiety. My anxiety was based on the weather that did cause damage on my property. My advice for you is to be clear on your fears and let them go. I had no control over mother nature, therefore I had to surrender to what could be.

Don’t project to far into the future.
When we are projecting too far into the future we tend to bring fear, uncertainty and anxiety into our lives. Yes, it’s a good thing to plan accordingly for your future. But don’t go too far into the future. Know that you will deal with it accordingly when you get there. But if you must go far into the future make sure that you see your future very bright.

Distract yourself.
Once you have identified all the things that could go wrong. Distract yourself, by focusing on the solutions. When you have done everything possible to find a solution to a problem you need to move forward. Also, engage yourself on activities that you love. Don’t let the fears consume you. Remember that worrying rarely leads to solutions. Take it easy on yourself. Let go and love yourself.

It’s all in the breath.
Learn to relax by letting go of anxiety by overseeing your breathing.  It’s this simple technique that gives you a sense of calm. Practice it with devotion when these fearful thoughts come to you.


Don’t let your worries stop you from living your life. These thoughts that want to take over your life half of the time are fear based. Let go of fear and embrace hope. Never forget your power. Know that whatever hardships you do encounter you will overcome. Don’t project to far into the future live your life now! Until next Monday Believe. Change. Become.

Monday, January 9, 2017

The Art of Being Present


"Do not stay in the past, do not dream of the future,
concentrate on the present moment."
-Buddha

It seems to me that we have lost the art of being present. Look around you when you are out having dinner or at a social gathering. What do you see? Everybody and their mother with a phone on their hand. And even when you have put the phone down, where are you? Are you fully engaged in the moment or are you thinking about the argument you had with your spouse the night before? Or you are projecting yourself to the future by wondering what your encounter will be like with your significant other when you get home? Regardless, you are not fully present. You are either projecting yourself to the past, or future but you are not in the moment. It has been my experience that when we don’t learn to stay in the present we take potential beautiful moments from our lives. Here are three tips to being more present and living a full life.

Feel your breath.

I have discovered that when I meditate and focus on my breathing it brings me to the present moment. I believe that you should apply the same practice to your everyday. When I focus on my breathing, it brings me back to the present moment. Try it when you have projected yourself to the past or future. See the difference it makes in your present moment. I know that when I do this it centers me and brings me a sense of peace and calm. By feeling my breath, I can focus on the people and events that are happening now. So, pause periodically throughout the day and feel your own breath.

Nurture relationships by staying present.

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or family member and have been half way there? You hear what they are saying but you are thinking about the party you are planning for your child. You may also be contemplating what the response will be when they are done talking. Thus, you have missed half of what they have said. It is very common to do this, because we want to prove to the person speaking that we are listening. The fact is that we were hearing what they said, but we were never really listening. My suggestion is for you to stay focused, don’t worry about you listen to what they are saying. The truth is that for the most part we all seek to be heard more than to be talked too.

Be grateful.

Staying present and being grateful go hand in hand. I am amazed at what happens to me when I count my blessings. It brings me to the present moment. Look around you. What are you grateful for? I am grateful for my children, husband, home, trees and all the people that believe in me. When you see all the amazing things that are in your life, you can’t help but be in the present moment. They don’t always have to be big things, sometimes it’s the little things like a sip of coffee in a cold morning. Another suggestion is to write your blessings down. Start with five every morning and add to your list throughout the day. Be present to discover your blessings.

In conclusion, when we stay present and live in the moment you discover an abundant life. Being present is a magnet for happiness and joy, because it makes you aware of all your blessings. As you move into a more prosperous you, don’t forget to count your blessings and stay in the present moment. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
NancyJ


Monday, January 2, 2017

Be The Director of Your Life Movie


"Live your life like your are the hero in your movie."

-Unknown

Happy New Year! Many blessings to you and your loved ones. What lessons will you take with you from 2016? Who are you leaving behind? What brought you joy in 2016? What brought you pain or disappointment? I believe that it is essential to reflect on these questions, so we don’t repeat past mistakes. So, we can get the toxic people out of our lives. It’s OK to forgive others for past pain or disappointment, and it’s also OK to exclude them from your life. As far as happiness, keep doing those things that bring you love and joy. Why change what is working? But seek change in what does not bring you happiness.

What brings me joy are intimate moments of connection with my loved ones. Pursuing my passion of personal development and inspirational speaking. I find joy knowing that I am the creator of my life. That I am the director of my movie. I have the main role and even if I can’t always control how well others play their role, I can always eliminate them from my movie. You can do the same. Here are three tips for making the best movie of your life this far.

Identify what type of movie you want for your life.
As I realize the power we all have to create an Oscar winning movie. I am filled with gratitude and joy for all the blessings in my life. I see the wonderful people that have come into my life as well as ones that must exit my life. I also understand that before they exit, it’s OK to forgive them for any pain or disappointment they brought into your life. It’s never about you it’s about them. As, you let go a new sense of meaning and peace will emerge into your life. Let go of the people and things that don’t bring you calm and surround yourself with individuals that do. Remember it’s your movie and you pick your supporting actors.

What obstacle will you conquer?
What is the major obstacle or fear you want to overcome? Something that I constantly work for in my life or movie is to surrender. As a personal development coach, it’s not as easy to do because I teach perseverance, pushing forward, never giving up. The essentials for success. Yet, I have realized that too much effort can make things stale. I want to focus on a more relaxed positive energy that will attract wonderful thing into my life. Having goals, and meeting them is essential. But what is more essential is to stay present, enjoy each moment and continue to push forward.

It’s about optimism.
When things fall apart in your movie as they often do. Remember that you can change the plot by staying focused on the goal and staying positive. I know that with every thunderstorm that appears a rainbow will appear. Knowing that there is always a happy ending to your movie is a matter of optimism and positivity. Always reflect amidst the storm, and don’t forget that things will always get better. When you do, your life changes and your movie becomes a great one!

I am excited about this new year. I am ready for all the wonderful people and gifts it will bring. Remember you are the director, the creator of your life. You are powerful beyond measure. Love, peace and harmony are ready to for you. Seek them out! There will be many obstacles, plot changes, elimination of characters and this is ok. As a creator of your life this is the fun part. Understand what you want your legacy to be. Define what your purpose for this year is and go after it. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.


NancyJ