Monday, August 21, 2017

Why Should You Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch?


"Believe you can and you're halfway there."

-T. Roosevelt

Recently I read a sign that made me smile. It said, "Don't count your chickens before they hatch." It made me smile because I think that this idiom can make us skeptical. I believe this expression takes us away from positive thinking.  Can you plan for a future without faith? Can you follow dreams without hope?  Some would argue that it is wiser to be realistic even if it requires a pessimistic view.  I would argue that being realistic is a dream killer. Would we have Disneyland if Walt Disney had been realistic and had a “real job” and never pursued his dream of animation? Would we have an Oprah Winfrey if she had not believed that there was something better for her than being a news anchor? I call people who count their chickens before they hatch optimists. They have only positive expectations and prevail most of the time.  When they don't prevail, they readjust their sails, and try again! Those who don’t count their chickens before they hatch are pessimists. They buy into such views because they don’t want to get excited over something that may not happen. In their viewpoint, it's better not to, as Wikipedia puts it, "expect all of your hopes to be fulfilled."  This view is based on fear.  When we think this way, we can talk ourselves out of wonderful things.  We know that Steve Jobs and Albert Einstein would not have accomplished what they did, if they had not believed in their dreams first. They stuck with working on their inventions because they were people who “counted their chickens before they hatched."  Look around you. Every invention or creation that was ever fulfilled started with the visualization that it was possible. It started with the belief that it could and would happen. Here are three tips about how to live in optimism and count your chickens before they hatch.

Be clear on your desires.
What do you desire? Do you really want those chickens to hatch? Be clear on your life goals and dreams. If your desire is to be a chef, what type of food do you want to cook? Do you want to own a restaurant or work in a top-rated restaurant? Don’t be afraid to dream big and to ask for big things. If you are desiring to be the CEO of your company, it’s because it’s possible for you. Don’t limit yourself by playing small. When you play small you are taking away from your God-given potential. As I got clear on my desires, amazing people showed up to help make my dreams a reality. I know that this will be true for you also.

Visualize and believe that it’s possible.
Why not try visualization? You have nothing to lose and many wonderful things to gain. Visualization is the first step to your dreams. To visualize is to use your imagination through pictures or mental imagery to create visions of what we want in our lives.  Next you must believe in your dreams. To believe is to know without a doubt that what you desire will become.  When you play it, safe and don’t count your chickens before they hatch, you bring doubt to your dreams. I believe that this idiom cuts your wings. If you want to pursue something that you have never done before, you must believe that it’s possible. When you truly believe, you are halfway there!

Let go of negativity.
Negativity, be gone! As someone who counts my chickens before they have hatched, I had to let go of worst-case scenarios. I needed to stay positive and only expect positive results. When problems appeared, I learned to see them only as detours to my destination. Don’t complain about your failures; learn from them.
I used to be scared to count my chickens before they hatched.  I guess I believed that if I thought positively, I would jinx or bring bad luck to my desires. In my humble mind, positive things could not happen to me. I also believed it was better not to have high expectations, so that I would not be disappointed.  You know the strangest thing?  I couldn’t believe that great things could happen to me, but I expected bad things to happen all the time!  In other words, I assumed that I was not going to get any chickens, and was not able to stay optimistic that my eggs would become chicks. It’s funny how our brain works, or should I say, it’s funny how the brain works us?

I hope that I have influenced you to “count your chickens before they hatch.” You are EXTRAORDINARY, and for this reason you should only see the possibilities, not the limits, of your dreams.  Remember, dream big. Only have positive expectations.  Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!


Nancy😊

Monday, August 14, 2017

How to Deal with Tough Times




"Be strong because things will get better.
It may be stormy now,
but it never rains forever."
-Unknown

I am amazed at the resilience of our human spirit. A few days ago, I walked into my favorite coffee shop, and I met a stranger who became a friend. I normally don’t stay to drink my coffee, but something compelled me to stay this time. A woman with a gentle smile was seated at the table next to mine. She said hello, I introduced myself, and it felt like we were long lost friends.
To keep her anonymity, I will call her Stacy. Her husband had just passed away due to cancer. Since she was a stay-at-home mom and had no formal income coming in, she was in the process of losing her home. She planned to move with her two children into her brother’s home and live with his family of five. I asked her how she was handling this very difficult situation, and she said, “I take it a day at a time and count my blessings every day.” This made me think about the topic for today’s blog, which is how to deal with hopeless times.
If you are going through difficult times, this post is especially for you. Here are three things that will help you to carry on when you are feeling hopeless and defeated.

Embrace, or at least accept, change.
Accepting change is crucial in dealing with difficult times. It is my belief that one reason that we struggle with tragedies in our lives such as death, losing a job, separation, or divorce is because we can’t accept that our life will never be the same. We are creatures of habit. We like to know what to expect. When our life changes, we fight it and dwell on the past.  In my case, the death of my beloved cousin, Sam, impacted and changed my existence. Losing her to cancer when she was only fourteen was hard to comprehend or accept. I could not believe that she would no longer be part of my life. But I finally embraced it when I realized that although she would not be part of my future, she would always be in my memories. I have great stories to tell about Sam, yet I understand now that my acceptance of losing her helped me move on to a better place. Let go of the past, and accept what is. Remember life is constant change. Things always get better if you give life a chance!

Change your lens or perspective.
Zoom into a better lens. Some of the problems or tragedies in your life are a subset of other things that may be going on in your life. I know it’s difficult to change your perspective when there is a death of a loved one, but as with other problems you need to focus on the grand scheme of things. Fear of the unknown may pop up because of a change, yet understand that unless you face your fear you will not be able to change your view of your life challenge. In my case, with the death of Sam, I finally understood that cancer had made her body weak, and we had to let her go. It was no longer about us and how much we would miss her. It was about her pain. By changing the lens on why she needed to give up the fight, my perspective shifted into surrender and acceptance. Sometimes it’s okay to surrender the fight to shift your perspective.

Remember to count your blessings.
To count your blessings may sound like a clichΓ©, yet it’s always a best practice when dealing with difficult times. What helps me count my blessings is the understanding that it could have been worse. If you look around, there are blessings to count. In the case of Stacy, it could have been worse if she did not have her brother. She could have been homeless with her two children. Stacy told me that she was also grateful for the support of her friends. In Sam’s case, it could have been worse if she had suffered with chemo longer than she did. I miss her, but I am happy she is no longer in pain. Count your blessings if you are going through tough times, and don’t forget that in due time, this too shall pass. Remember nothing is forever, and you have the spirit of a lion!

In conclusion, your problems or your life’s difficulties come to you to teach you something about your spirit. They remind you of your strength. Whatever you are going through, or will go through, is given to you because you can handle it. Nothing is forever, even our pain, and worries will transform into happiness and joy. Have faith in yourself and find strength by accepting change, changing your lens, and counting your blessings! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and much love your way!

Nancy😊

Monday, August 7, 2017

How to Stay Consistent with Consistency



“Your dreams depend on determination and consistency to come alive.”
                                                                                     -Nancy Salmeron

As I thought about today’s post I realized that I am a creature of habit. My morning routine starts with drinking a cold glass of water and taking my vitamins. I then make my bed and brush my teeth. Next, I drive to the gym where I do some cardio, go back home to meditate for twenty minutes, and then have my oatmeal and black coffee. This is all before 9:00 a.m. This is how I start my day, before I start my workday. I then attend to my scheduled appointments.  My routine changes if I must go out of town, but for the most part I am constant with my routine, and I like it this way. I am a person that strives to commit to consistency. I am also a person that holds her commitments to a high standard. If I say I am going to do something, I do it. If I say I am going to be somewhere, I’m there. I believe that this commitment to consistency is what has made me able to meet my goals and accomplish some of my dreams. What about you? How do you feel about consistency? If you are seeking to improve or change any aspect of your life, you need to implement consistency. But consistency can be difficult to start or keep up. Here are five tips to staying consistent so that you can accomplish your dreams and goals!

Think about your why.
Consistency is essential in reaching short and long-term goals. Think about that goal or dream you are seeking. For example, perhaps you have a goal to lose weight. Why is this important to you? Is it for health reasons? If your reasons will truly impact or change your life, then you will do it. If you don’t have a big enough why you will fail to stay consistent. My why for wanting to be healthier is so I can live longer for my family and have more time to live out my purpose, which is helping others find their passion. Your why should push you to be consistent with the small steps that you need to take to reach your goal. A powerful why will make a big difference in your ability to stay consistent with new behavior and reach your goals.

Focus on one goal at a time.
To be consistent and successful you must stay focused. When you have too many goals that you are working on, you will not get any done. Identify your most important or essential goal that you need to accomplish first, so you can finish it and move onto your next goal. I have experienced that when I try to focus on too many goals at once, I don’t know where to start. What I suggest is to focus on one thing at a time. Once that goal is accomplished, feel free to move onto your next goal.

Schedule a time to work on your goal.
When I started blogging, I decided that I would commit myself to my blog every Monday morning. This time is sacred for me. I don’t schedule appointments on Monday morning that would take away from my commitment to work on my blog. This is part of my weekly routine. I feel accomplished when I finish my post every Monday morning. I am committed to my blog 100 percent! Once you identify your priority goal, you need to put a regular time to work on it in your calendar and stick with it. If you do it long enough, it will become part of your routine, like sleeping or eating.

Watch out for negative feelings and inner critics.
I must ignore negative inner voices that tell me that I am wasting my time. These voices want to discourage me from doing something new, because they want me to stay in my comfort zone. I must silence the voice that tells me that going to the gym to work out is a waste of time and that I should go back to sleep. We all struggle with these negative inner voices that want to sabotage our dreams and goals. Ignore them!

Get back on the wagon.
Yes, I have fallen off the wagon a couple of times. I have gone back to sleep instead of going to the gym in the morning. However, then I will find a time to work out in the evening. Understand that falling off the wagon can happen, but know that you can get back on. The point is to be consistent with the tasks that will get you to your goal.  

To be consistent is to be on the path to your goals and dreams. It may not be easy, but once you make consistency part of your routine, it’s hard to be inconsistent. Remember, it’s the small steps and tasks that you do today that will make a great difference in your life tomorrow. Give your goals and dreams the time and dedication required, so they may come alive. Know that you may get off track because of distractions, but also know that you can always get back on track. As part of my commitment to being consistent with myself and my readers, I want to thank you for being a consistent reader of my blog. You push me to keep on blogging. See you next Monday! Don’t forget to BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME.
Sending many blessings and love your way!

Nancy😊

Monday, July 31, 2017

The Purpose of a Life Coach


"Coaching is the universal language of change and learning."
-CNN
Last week I was at a networking event and I was asked what a life coach did. I said that a life coach is a professional who helps you reach a goal or make a change in your life. They help you to figure out where you are stuck in your life and how to start taking action to change and move forward. Here is more information on how I can empower you live a purpose filled life!

Why use the services of a life coach?
Life coaching is a collaboration between the life coach and a client designed to tap into your full potential. Just as Olympic athletes wouldn’t think of training without the added insight, objective perspective, and enthusiastic support of an athletic coach, many of today’s most successful business leaders, professionals, executives, entrepreneurs, and CEOs use the services of a life coach to take their lives, careers, or businesses to the next level.

How I can help you.
My focus is to help you realize your potential by reminding you of your purpose. I do that by helping you to awaken to what makes you come alive. I help you to find your passion. Here are some signs that you are seeking a higher purpose for your life:

You are wondering if there is more to life.
Have you asked yourself if there is more to life than what you are currently experiencing? If so, you are seeking significance and purpose. You probably feel stuck and confused because the material things of the world no longer fulfill you.

You are wondering about “what ifs?”
If you are wondering if you can make a dream a reality, I am here to tell you it can be done. I will help you work on your mind so that your dreams don’t stay as “what ifs,” but become realities.

You’re feeling lost in life.
 Maybe you don’t know what your “thing” is. Maybe you don’t love your job, or you feel like you’re not living, but simply existing. I can help you with that.

How does life coaching work?
As a personal development coach, I will help you identify your personal values. We often inherit values from our families or from society, but without examination we may not know if these really are our truest values. Once you are clear on your values, you can get clear on what is important to you.If you are unhappy in your life and want to make changes, I can provide an objective viewpoint that will help you pinpoint why you’re unhappy. Then I can help you make changes. I can show you how to transform an attitude of doubting in yourself into an attitude of believing in yourself. Together we will name your fears, and you will learn tools to take action despite them. By doing this, you will exchange fear for courage. I will support you in realizing your full potential by encouraging you to dream a bigger life for yourself. Are you ready to live your purpose? If so, I am ready to help you.

If you have more questions on how I can help you take your life from good to great connect with me at www.believechangebecome.com or Nancy@believechangebecome.com. Until next time Believe. Change. Become!

Sending many blessings and love your way!

Monday, July 24, 2017

Happiness Is a Choice




“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
-Wayne Dyer

Lately, I am living in my head a lot. I am worrying about the future and forgetting that I can choose my reactions to change. My husband’s seventeen-year-old daughter, Andrea, will soon join our family.  I am excited to include her in our family, but I am also nervous. Our family is now four people— my daughter, Miranda, who is nine; my son, Julian, who is sixteen; my husband; and myself.  We will become a family of five. It’s a change in my life that I am adjusting to. I have some fears and doubts about this change.  I worry what will happen if Andrea does not click or connect with me or other family members. I know it’s normal to have fears and doubts about the unknown, but I also know about the power of choice. I can choose to have negative expectations or positive ones; to fight this change in my life or embrace it; to struggle against the current or let events flow; to let my fears consume me or to acknowledge my fears and confront them. We all have this immense power of choice, but few use it or understand how it works. Here are three tips on how you can choose your reactions to change.

I have the choice to stay positive.
                Let me be clear. You have the power to decide how change affects you. Right now, I have the power to decide that I am not going to get ahead of myself and let negative, fearful emotions take away my peace. I am going to stay focused on expecting a beautiful relationship with my new daughter. Positivity is where we discover true magic, and it’s my choice to embrace it. Stay positive about your life changes. Yes, change is hard, but it also teaches us something about ourselves.

I can choose to be unafraid.
                Acknowledging my fears reminds me that I am human. It’s okay to worry and wonder. I can be afraid, yet I can reduce my fear with thoughts of love. My worst-case scenario of Andrea not liking her new family disappears when I give my fear a name. In this case, my fear is that Andrea will not connect with me or someone else in her new family. Once I have identified the fear that is bothering me, I can shift it. I remind myself that we are a pretty amazing family, and that she will love us. Call your fears out. Name and understand them. Your fears are not intended to hold you back, but to be noticed and  conquered.

I can choose to be happy.
I also have the choice to be happy. I have the choice to focus on the present moment—the right now. But if I do feel the need to project myself into the future, then I will seek only happy thoughts. You also have the power to be happy. It is your right to find joy in your present moment. Let the future take care of itself. You do not need to postpone happiness until the future. The future is not guaranteed. Only this moment matters, so choose happy now!

                Many will go through life experiencing themselves as victims of every new circumstance that shows up. Let me remind you that you have a choice about how you react to everything that happens. You have a choice to let optimism lead you forward or to let pessimism hold you back. Embrace positivity in everything that comes your way. Choose to acknowledge fear, but don’t let fear hold you back. Invite happiness into your present moment. Choose to live in the now, and let joy be your companion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!                                  
Nancy😊


Monday, July 17, 2017

It Takes Courage to Surrender


"Sometimes surrendering means giving up trying to
understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."
-Unknown

Have you ever tossed and turned all nightlong wondering if you would get a job that you applied for, or if a business deal would come through? This used to happen to me in the past. I would wake up tired, because I had been tossing and turning, wondering if a speaking or coaching contract would or would not happen. I would often feel anxious, scared, and tired, until I finally concluded that I had to surrender to not knowing. I have had a tough time with surrendering, because I learned that I must never give up and that I must fight till the end. I teach this to my clients all of the time. Yet, there is so much power in letting go and trusting the universe that no matter what happens we will be okay. We live under this illusion that we can control everything that happens in our lives, but I have news for you. We can’t. When you try to control things outside of your control, you are exhibiting a fear-based mentality. It’s natural to have some doubts and worries about your world, but they don’t make things any better. In my case, worrying about whether I would get speaking and coaching contracts used to take away my peace of mind. Now, I don’t worry about rejections, or “no’s.” I see them as detours to the possibility of something better. I have learned to surrender and trust that everything is working in my favor. I believe that only the right doors will open, and that I must trust and be patient. Today, let’s talk about letting go and surrendering your desires to the universe, so that you may find more joy and peace in your journey to success.

To surrender does not mean to give up.
To surrender is to have faith in something greater than yourself. Surrendering is telling your source to take the wheel because you have done everything in your power to accomplish your goal or dream. When you surrender, you are giving up fear. Many of us have believed that when you let go, you are giving up. The truth is that you are giving the universe an opportunity to have your back. You are trusting that whatever happens is part of a better plan for your life. Something awaits you that is more amazing than what you originally dreamt of. Do everything that you can to acquire your dreams and goals. Then understand that there is power in letting your source, the universe, take over.

Let go of expectations.
In accordance with the law of attraction, we are energy, and the energy you send out will be reflected back onto you. When you have no attachment to a specific result or outcome, you open yourself up to all sorts of wonderful possibilities. Letting go of expectations and the struggle to control outcomes will bring you peace and calm. And you will be amazed at what the universe has in store for you!

Conquer your fears.
It takes courage to surrender. What do you fear will happen if you let go? In my case, I felt that if I did not worry about a business deal, I would lose it. The truth is that I was letting fear control me. I still don’t know what will happen with any of my business ventures, but I know that I will be fine no matter what happens. Conquer your fears by surrendering any doubts that everything will work out for the best. In the end, everything works out for the best, or it’s not the end.

To let go is to set yourself free.
I feel so relieved and free. I am no longer the prisoner of “what ifs.” I am content and excited about what will be. You need to set yourself free by surrendering any doubt. Let it go. Go with the current and not against it. Life is not that hard; we  make it hard by trying to control everything in it. Trust in the universe—in your source. Know that life wants only the best for you!
I am a work in progress. I had been taught to fight to the end, and this brought a great deal of resistance into my life. As I learn to trust that the universe is my friend and that it has my back, I discover more joy and peace. Letting go has not been easy, yet it has made me wiser. Let go of the fears that hold you back, and have faith that the universe has your best interests in mind. Foster the positive energy of surrender, and let go of the toxic energy of controlling to live a peaceful, joyous life. Until next Monday, BELIEVE. CHANGE. BECOME!

Sending many blessings your way!

Nancy😊


 [DM1]Boy, is this true!

Monday, July 10, 2017

How to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck



“I would rather die of passion than of boredom.”
-Vincent Van Gogh

Last week, at a networking event, someone asked me what I did for a living. I responded, “I help people come alive.” “How do you do that?” they then asked. “I help individuals identify their passion, so that they can pursue their life’s purpose,” I said. “Don’t you think passion is overrated?” they asked next. “No, I don’t think so,” I answered. “I believe that if people pursue their passion and live in purpose, they will find more meaning in their lives and be happier. According to a Gallup poll, seventy percent of people hate their jobs or are disengaged at work. I believe that when people do what they love, they give their best work and will never feel disengaged. These people understand that they are the creators of their lives. They have discovered the connection that their passion has with their life’s purpose, and they are always ready to give their gift to the world. I am passionate about empowering individuals, women specifically to believe that they can pursue their passion. Therefore, I don’t think living passionately is overrated.” The person asked me no more questions after that. Today, I want to talk about passion and how it is the gateway to a life of joy. Here are three tips for letting passion take the lead in your life.

Identify what brings you joy.
What brings me joy is empowering the human potential. I love seeing people pursuing what makes them come alive. I get chills when I see someone doing what they love for a living. I see the creativity in individuals when they are using their unique talents to help others. One person’s talent might be making jewelry. In making jewelry, they bring beauty and joy to others.  Another person’s talent might be nursing and assisting in saving people’s lives. Again, using their gifts, they make this world a better place. What are your gifts? What brings you joy?

Put fear aside and pursue your passion.
I was afraid when I began pursuing my passion of personal development. I found it hard to leave a wonderful career as an educator to follow my purpose of personal development. My fearful ego voice tried to convince me many times that I should continue on my well-known path of teaching. It told me that there was nothing wrong with my life and that I was stupid for giving up a modest, but secure, income for something that had no real guarantees. Yes, I experienced sleepless nights when fear of the “what ifs” conquered me. I had no idea what it took to run a coaching business or how much work it required. However, if I was going to advise others to live their passion and I was not doing that myself, then I was being a hypocrite. So, I decided to take the plunge, leave my teaching position, and sink or swim! Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that you do what I did. I am suggesting that you take whatever step fits for you in pursing your passion.

Ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?”
Anything that is worthwhile requires some risk. In my mind, the worst that could happen when I decided to pursue my passion was that I would fail. That was scary! I continued to feel scared until I heard “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. If you have not heard this recording, I recommend that you look it up. Earl Nightingale reminded me that I was failing if I was not doing what I was passionate about. He also says that one fails if we stop pursuing our dreams. It’s important to understand that you will stumble and fall, but you will succeed if you fall forward and keep on moving. Also, you must remember that sometimes your worst failure only happens in your mind.

To conclude, I want to remind you that you are amazing, and you should never settle for a dull life. Seek passion, not only in your romantic relationships, but in every aspect of your life. Look at your life. How have you handled setbacks? If you are reading this, you have survived many trials and tribulations, and here you stand. Don’t doubt the power of your soul. When you go after your passion, you will develop courage and strength. Fight to believe in your life’s purpose! Never doubt that you have what it takes to go after your dreams, because if you didn’t you wouldn’t have these desires to begin with. It will not be easy. Failure and pursuing your passion go hand in hand. However, you fail everyday if you are not doing what you love. So, keep your head up, Buttercup, and follow your passion. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!
Nancy😊