Monday, February 12, 2018

How to Listen to What the Universe Is Trying to Tell You

The way to become one with the universe is to trust it.
As an inspirational speaker, I never know who will be in the audience to listen to my message of living a life of passion and purpose. When thinking about who my audience will be prior to a presentation, I always remind myself that the universe has a special way of putting the people who need to hear my message in the room. It never fails. I always have people who thank me for my presentation afterward because they needed to hear something I said. Last week I presented at a Women’s Bridal Event. This was a beautiful event for soon-to-become brides. There were over one hundred vendors and six women speakers at this event, myself included. I was a bit concerned ahead of time about how many women would come to listen to the presenters, because there would be so many amazing activities going on, but I decided to attend because I believe that all of my presentations will attract the individuals that need to hear my message. So, if five women show up, these are the women that needed to be there.   But in this instance, I was afraid that no one would show up to hear me speak because this event had  vendors selling dream honeymoons, beautiful cakes, glamorous wedding gowns—anything a bride needed to have the wedding of her dreams. There was even a bridal fashion show. The ladies at this event were celebrating that they recently got engaged. They were in a state of bliss. How could I possibly compete with that? And while all those activities were on the main floor, the speakers were on the bottom floor. I told myself that I would be very lucky if one or two women showed up. But when the time for my presentation came, eight women showed up! “Yay!” I told myself, these are the eight women I prepared this presentation for.  These were the women that needed to hear my message of living a life of passion and purpose on that day. I felt my presentation was a success, regardless of the number of women in the room. “How do I measure success?” you ask. I measure success, in part, by the fact that I had eight ladies in the room. But also, I believe there is a reason why we encounter everyone in our lives. I was reminded of this because many of the women told me they were glad they came to see me present. They said that they needed to listen to my message.  I believe that everything has a purpose and that you should always find blessings in whatever happens. I was grateful for the experience and for the connections I made with these women. It reaffirmed for me that people come into our lives for a reason and that we should pay attention to why they show up. Here are three tips on how to listen to what the universe is trying to tell you.

Listen to your gut.
 When I asked some of the women in the audience why they decided to come downstairs to the speaker’s room when the party was going on strong upstairs, they told me they felt it in their gut. There was something inside of them telling them they should come to hear me speak. Listen to that feeling, and if it feels right, go for it. Believe it or not, those feelings know more that your critical mind.

Pay attention to your surroundings.
Pay attention to your surroundings. Everything in your external environment is a potential sign. I have experienced that when I am wondering about or questioning something, I will stumble upon answers. The trick to listening to your surroundings is to fine-tune your attention to detail. To do that, you must be present. Be present by reconnecting to the hear and now. Work on one task at a time and stay focused on that task.

Take note of recurring experiences.
Pay attention to experiences that keep on showing up. It could be people, places, or things. For example, when I was an educator, I would be asked to participate in committees, workshops, and projects that involved developing character in students. I did not know then that the universe was trying to direct me into a career of personal development. I can see it clearly now. The universe always has a plan. It’s up to you to take note and figure out that plan.

In conclusion, the universe is speaking to you right in this moment. If you have stumbled upon this blog, maybe there is something I am intended to share with you that could inspire you to change your life. Recognizing and receiving information through signs depends on your willingness to see and listen to the signs all around you. Trust your gut feelings, and be alert to what the universe is trying to show you. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!

P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!

Monday, February 5, 2018

Are You Ready to Give up on Your Dreams?

"Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps 
our ships from sailing."
“I don’t know if I can continue doing this,” my coaching client told me, as we drank coffee and talked about her past business failure. She had joined a health food network marketing business that she thought had lots of potential, but she had not succeeded yet.  “I didn’t know there would be so much disappointment in pursuing my dreams. I have lost confidence that I could possibly be successful,” she shared.
“Failures are not the end of a dream; they are lessons you have to learn,” I responded. “Failures are kinks that you need to work out before you can grow. Think about your business failure. What is something that you learned from it? What could you do differently next time?”
“Well, I guess I could invite extra people to my presentations, so that I have a better result.”
“Yes, and remember that you are just starting. It will take some time to get momentum, but you will get there. For now, a small group is a perfect opportunity to practice your presentation with the few people that do show up,” I told her.
“I had not thought about it that way,” she said. “You are right. A small group is a perfect opportunity for me to get better at my presentations. Thank you!”
We have all felt disappointed at times when pursuing a new career venture, a dream, or a life goal. I personally know what it is like to fail my way to the top. I have been disappointed many times, but I have learned to pick myself up quickly. Here are four tips that will help you manage self-doubt resulting from a failure.
“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
As entrepreneurs, we assume that success happens overnight. Why not? We are passionate about our service or product, so everybody else should be too, right? The reality is that success requires time. Give yourself time to grow. We make a mistake when we believe success happens overnight. Studies show that it could take three to five years, sometimes even longer, to achieve success in a new business. Although there is no exact timeline for success, I believe that you become successful when you make the choice to dedicate time to a life goal or dream.
Remember a time when you were successful.
I know it’s hard to stay positive when you have failed, but you must remember the times when you were successful. Know that you can win because you have won before. Write down your WINS. Ask family and friends to remind you of the times when you reached your goals. We are so critical of ourselves; we focus so much on our failures that we forget about our past triumphs.
Love yourself.
 “Love Yourself,” says the motivational speaker and author, Louise Hay. In the past, I did not understand that this phrase is the answer to many of our problems. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with dignity and respect. Think about someone that you love—perhaps your child, husband, or wife. Would you mentally abuse them? No. Then why would you abuse yourself? When you love yourself, you speak kind words to yourself. You believe in yourself and know that you are worthy and capable of acquiring your dreams. Be as kind to yourself as you are to others.
Fail, fail, and fail some more.
Remember that when you fail it’s a sign that you are trying. The detours that you encounter on the road to success will eventually put you on the right track. Failure is part of growth. Embrace it, learn from it, and move on. As I continue to fail, I am proud of my personal growth. Failure has taught me that there is no one way to get to my final destination. Dare to fail. Dare to learn. Dare to grow.
As I fail forward, I realize that in life we must experience disappointment so that we can not only learn from our failures, but also appreciate our successes more. It’s a win-win because it teaches us so much about ourselves and our strength. Expect disappointment on your journey to your becoming. Expect success as well. Love yourself and know that you are worthy of treating yourself with dignity and respect. As you do, you set the mood for others to do the same, and you also gain the stamina to continue to move forward even when all hope seems gone. Keep your chin up, beautiful, and persevere! A day will come when you will look back at your stumbles and failures and be glad you never gave up. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and love your way!

P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!

Monday, January 29, 2018

Your Life Mirrors the Choices You Make

“I choose to live by choice, not by chance.
To be motivated, not manipulated.
To be useful, not used.
To make changes, not excuses.
To excel, not to compete.
I choose self-esteem, not self-pity.
I choose to listen to my inner voice,
Not the opinions of others.”

I love inspirational quotes. I share quotes as an essential part of my work because they move me, and I believe they can move others. Last night I read the quote above, and I resonated with it one-hundred-percent! It made me realize that our power is found in the choices that we make. It is a tragedy that many people forget that we have a choice to live the life we want to live. Every morning you have a choice to live a life of abundance and gratitude. As I reflect on my life, I see all the choices I made that have brought me to where I am today. Do I regret my choices? No—because those choices molded me to become the person I am today. Yes—because some of those choices brought me great pain and sorrow, although they made me strong. The choices you make in your life will have consequences. Sometimes those consequences teach powerful lessons that are essential to our personal growth. The purpose of this post is to remind you of the enormous power you have and that this power is found in the decisions you make. You need to understand that our destiny is not dependent on the circumstances we live in, but on the choices that we make. If we want to change our lives, we have to work with our belief system and improve the choices that we make. The amazing thing about life is that we always have the power to change anything that is not working for us. That power is found in the power of choice. Here are some tips on how to create a life of your own choosing.

Choose to live a life of choice, not chance.
Are you loving your life? When I think about the life that I get to live, I am filled with joy. I get to create my life. The world sees me as I want to be seen. I choose to live a life that reflects my ideals. If you are waking up excited about your life, you have made the choice to be a creator of your life. Choose to do the things that make you feel bliss and joy.

Be motivated, not manipulated.
Be motivated everyday to live your best life. Don’t let others manipulate you into doing things that cut your wings. If you must, remove people from your life who want to clip your wings. Surround yourself with people who reflect what you desire for your life. Choose wisely who you let into your life.

Be useful, not used.
Be useful, and don’t let others use you. When you are feeling that you are being taken advantage of, make the choice to remove yourself from that situation. Be mindful of what you give and who you give it to.

Make changes, not excuses.
When some of the choices you make don’t result in what you’d thought they would, it’s okay to make changes. Let change fix the situation that is not letting you thrive. Drop the excuses, and embrace starting over one more time.

Choose to excel, not compete.
To excel in what you do is to focus on yourself and not others. Strive to become better than you were yesterday, but don’t strive to be better than anybody else. Focus on your personal growth and not what others are doing. When you choose to compete with others you loose sight of the goal, which is to get better at your craft.

Choose self-esteem over self-pity.
You will make mistakes—we all do—but don’t dwell in self-pity. Choose self-esteem. Trust that you know what to do next. Instead of blaming yourself, choose to forgive and love yourself.

Choose to listen to your inner voice.
There is a voice inside you that must be your guide. This voice is wise, so listen to it when in doubt. Cut down outside noise and the voices of others, so that your inner voice can become your guide.
Remember, our lives mirror the choices that we have made, yet every moment we have the power to make a different choice if we are not happy with what we see. Love your life by executing the choices that bring you closer to what you want your life to look like. When you are not happy with something in your life, make the choice to change it! Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!
P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!

Sunday, January 21, 2018

You Need Courage to Pursue Your Purpose

Your life matters. Your life has a purpose. May you have the courage to pursue it.
—Nancy Salmeron

A few weeks ago, I met with a charismatic, passionate, and determined young woman who wanted to inquire about my work as a writer, personal development coach, and inspirational speaker. I was humbled that she wanted to learn from me. This was not the first time I encountered a woman who wanted to get a cup of coffee together to learn about my work. Yet, I am always amazed by the fact that I inspire other women to pursue a path of personal development and inspirational speaking. This reaffirms for me that I am on the right track and that I should continue to empower individuals to live a life of bliss and passion by living their purpose. As we discussed what makes me come alive, I asked her to tell me about her passions and purpose. She mentioned that she has worked a great deal on herself and has become a woman whom she admires. She believes that self-love is the answer to being a successful human being. I agreed. I felt that she had the capacity to impact the world in a positive way, but I reminded her that self-belief or self-love is a long, torturous journey that we don’t only embark upon on the outside, but that we must also seek deep within to discover. I also shared that this journey takes time and that we must never promise a quick-fix to those we speak with. This conversation made me think about my message of living a life of bliss and passion and connecting it to our purpose. Being in purpose and being a creator of your life is a beautiful thing, but it takes time, dedication, and perseverance to live a life of bliss and joy. When you embark on this journey, you realize that the uphill climbs are tough, but they remind you of your strength. This serendipitous connection with this beautiful, young lady made me realize that I must be cautious about suggesting to you that being in purpose is something that happens overnight and that it’s easy. It’s not easy. It’s one of the hardest things you will ever do. Many have tried and failed. Only those individuals with the heart of a lion stick around to see who they become. Do you have what it takes to pursue your reason for being here? Are you strong enough to face disappointment and give it a wink and move on? Are you determined and patient about discovering who you can become? I believe you must be courageous when you seek to discover the purpose of your life. This journey of self-discovery brings you many trials and tribulations, but will reward you with your “why,” if you stick around and see your purpose manifest. Here are some tips for staying the course to living a life of passion and purpose.

Have the courage to pursue your purpose.
Let courage be your guide to purpose. Your purpose is your reason for being—your contribution to our world. Some are born knowing what their purpose is. For others, like myself, it may take forty years to discover what it is. Following your reason for being on earth may be easier said than done. You will discover many painful disappointments that will make you question your sanity and wonder about your purpose. There will be days filled with fear that will impede you from believing that your purpose is why you are here. You will have many reasons to give up on your purpose. But if you are patient you will discover, along with times of doubt and fear, moments of clarity and courage. Be brave, let courage be your guide, and embark on this amazing journey that will transport you to your destiny.

Be resilient and move forward.
Learn to bounce back when you feel defeated by looking at how far you have come. Develop perseverance by understanding that these difficult moments will pass. Remember that you are powerful beyond measure, and you have everything you need to live a life of passion and purpose. It is part of the journey to encounter failure and disappointment, but it is also part of the journey to bounce back! Understand that your awareness of your purpose comes with setbacks and tribulations that will eventually result in triumphs. Keep on pushing forward despite all the obstacles that you stumble upon. Your purpose is waiting for you, so be resilient and move forward.

Believe in your purpose.
The act of believing that you are worthy of pursuing your passion and living a life of purpose is a big commitment. When you have doubts that you can live a life of bliss and do what you love, more challenges, fears, and doubts are introduced into your heart. Believe without a doubt that your purpose is the gift that you must share with the world. As you believe in you, others and the world will do the same.

To live a life of passion and purpose is not for the weak of heart. Many try and fail because they lack sufficient courage. They listen to the voice of fear. They don’t believe that their purpose is the reason they are here. It is those brave souls who follow the voice of their soul, who are determined, and who have courage by their side who will eventually welcome purpose into their lives. Let go of fear, stay persistent, and let your purpose connect you to your destiny. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!

P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!

Monday, January 15, 2018

How to Get Your Soul’s Sparkle Back

Sometimes your soul will lose its sparkle 
to remind you that you have the power to get it back.
—Nancy Salmeron

As I contemplated starting this year supercharged and ready to conquer it all, the discovery that my soul lacked its sparkle shook me. My soul felt tired. I was in a restoration mode. I am a soul that is very empathetic to other people’s energy. The energy of others empties my battery and negative energy drains my heart. I feel too deeply. I had intended to get back on track with my goals on the second day of the new year. But, my soul’s spark was dormant. I felt the need to seek words of wisdom from a woman that not only guides my writing, but guides my soul to its most authentic transformation. Her words of wisdom let me soar, but also humble me to stay true to who my soul wants to become. She is a phenomenal, authentic, and loving human being whose true gift is to give of herself unconditionally. This woman has been my constant for the last few years. She is wise, and she fully understands my purpose in this world. I shared with her that I had expected to start off this year on fire, but I was struggling to do so. The holiday festivities had put me out of my zone, and I was having a tough time connecting with my soul. I felt stuck and did not know how to move forward. Her wise words assured me that I was moving forward and that I must simply continue to practice going with the flow of life and not against it. This conversation also made me realize that I must act as if what life gives me is something that I asked for, and I must be mindful of the energy that surrounds me. Today, let’s talk about how to listen to and nurture yourself and get your soul’s sparkle back.

Go deep.
When your soul is lacking its sparkle, it’s important to dig deep, even if it’s painful. Who or what is dimming the light of your soul? As I yearned to awaken my dormant soul, I realized that a great deal of fear had surfaced. I was having doubts about my abilities to fully thrive in my purpose. If you are feeling fear, step back and acknowledge the fear, and realize that with some time you will conquer this emotion. The trick is to embrace what you are feeling, rather than running away from it.

Love people who drain your energy from a distance.
I also realized that the energy of people around me lacked vibrancy, and therefore it was dimming my light. There are people who will drain your positive sparkle if you continue to surround yourself with them. I have some loved ones in my life who have depleted my soul’s sparkle. These individuals have toxic energy that they have not acknowledged. Their words don’t match their actions or soul energy.  I don’t know where I stand with them, or if they have the best intentions for me. They say they do, but my intuition tells me otherwise. If you have people like this in your life, I advise you to limit your interactions with them. Be mindful of your energy, because they are not aware of theirs. These individuals don’t realize that their energy speaks louder than words. Since they are not aware of their negative energy, they don’t take responsibility for dumping it into your space. I am sensitive to their pain, but I also understand that I can’t help them because they won’t recognize their pain or acknowledge that they need help. If you are dealing with a similar situation, be okay with stepping back, wishing them well, and sending them off on their life’s journey.

Nurture your soul before any other soul.
We are all here to love, help, and support others. But you must take care of your soul first so that you can help those who are seeking help. Don’t feel guilty about distancing yourself from those who are not willing to admit that they have toxic energy and are not willing to change. Nurture and love your soul by being selective about the people you surround yourself with. It’s okay to stay away from those whose true intentions you wonder about. Pay attention to your intuition. It’s not wrong. If someone does not seem genuine about their emotions it’s because they are not. Let your soul sparkle by nurturing it with love and protecting it from negative energy.

Pay attention to what is dimming your sparkle in this moment. Embrace the good, bad, and ugly of every life experience, but learn the lesson of each experience, or you are bound to repeat it. As I try to ignite my soul’s sparkle for 2018, I am reminded that the people who come into our lives with negative energy are our teachers. Have nothing but gratitude for them. These souls teach us something about our spirits. In my case, they reminded me to love myself a bit more—enough to be okay with letting them go because they took away my sparkle. You are responsible for your life. You can’t control the energy of others, but you can decide who you want in your space. It’s okay to love those with negative energy from a distance. Remember, your soul’s sparkle comes first. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!

P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!

Monday, January 8, 2018

Give Yourself the Gift of Self-Love in 2018

“What if you simply devoted 2018
 to loving yourself more?”
—Nancy Salmeron
As we close this year and look forward to 2018, I am reminded of the blessings, joys, love, and tribulations 2017 gave me. One blessing was my health. I value health because I saw my father going in and out of the hospital this year and understand that in health we truly live in joy. I discovered joy when I saw my father overcome some of his battles with illness. In this year, I was grateful for the power of love. I am honored by the love of my family and friends. These beautiful souls are part of my why—my reason for always pushing forward. They keep me grounded and humble; I love them dearly. Without the love and support of my best friend, my husband Carlos, I could not have kept on embracing and overcoming the difficult times that 2017 brought. He was my biggest champion. This man bet everything on me, and his only flaw was to love me even when I felt unlovable. I will forever be indebted to him. Another blessing this year was that I became a published author. Professionally, this year brought a sense of clarity to my journey. Writing the book, Believe. Change. Become. :Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, paved a clearer path for my future. I am proud of myself for understanding that there are no accidents and that where I am now is where I must be. What lessons did 2017 bring you? What life experiences are you looking forward to in 2018? I invite you to give yourself the gift of self-love in 2018 by embracing my three wishes for you—love, joy, and peace.

The gift of love.
I wish you love—love of self. The greatest gift you can give yourself is self-love. May you wake up every morning loving your eyes, nose, and the rest of your body! As I love myself more, my love for others grows. May you realize that you are a marvelous creation that needs no fixing because you are perfect! Be in love with your mind, body, and soul. Remind yourself how amazing you are. Stand tall, and know that as you see the beautiful being you are, others will see the same. Love yourself deeply and kindly.

The gift of joy.
I wish you joy. Joy is not something we just write in Christmas cards. Joy is something we can experience every day, because joy is found in the little things we do. I find joy in that morning cup of coffee and in kissing and hugging my daughter before she goes to school.  Where do you find joy? Joy will guide you to what is right or wrong for you. So, if something feels good and brings you joy, do some more of that!  May you discover joy through the selfless acts you do for others and for yourself. May joy transport you into passion, and may passion connect you to your purpose.

The gift of peace.
I wish you peace within. I hope you can quiet your mind of its’ constant chatter, so that you may listen to your soul. Put down your phone and engage with the ones you love. Find peace in your decisions, including in decisions to let people go who drag you down. I have found peace in acts of surrender and trust this year. Peace has been my inner guide to difficult decisions that I had to make. Let peace be the light that guides your most difficult decisions and your journey for the transformation of your most authentic self.

May 2018 bring you the biggest gift you can give yourself—the love of self, and may that love be felt by others. Let joy guide you to happiness, passion, and purpose. In the new year, find peace in silence and in letting go of what does not serve you. Trust the journey, listen to your soul, and let 2018 be filled with love, joy, and peace. Until next year, Believe. Change. Become!
Sending many blessings and love your way!

Friday, December 15, 2017

How to Readjust After a Disappointment

“Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself
 to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were.”
—Brad Warner

I have been thinking about how much I have learned and grown from disappointment this year. I have been blessed to have accomplished many of my goals this year, but have also experienced many setbacks. The disappointing events that transpired this year taught me so much about myself and others. About myself, I learned that I am determined, courageous, and an eternal optimist. About others, I learned that sometimes their best intentions are not enough if their heart is not aligned with their deeds. I have learned that the only person that I can truly count on to make all of my dreams come true is myself. Disappointment has been my greatest teacher because I have decided to apply and learn all the lessons it has brought me. Feeling disappointed in the short-term can be advantageous if you learn the lesson and move on. On the other hand, wallowing in disappointment can keep you feeling stuck and lead to self- doubt, despair, and even depression. The sense of despair is more prevalent when you can’t seem to get a break from disappointment, and you experience a series of devastating events in a short period of time. I have been there. I have felt that “I am just not good enough,” and that is why disappointing events are happening to me. It is very easy to get stuck in the cycle of self-doubt. Yet, this digs you even deeper into a hole. Today, I want to talk about how disappointment can be your greatest teacher and how to treat it like you would treat love and joy, welcoming it into your life with open arms. Here are three tips on how to deal with disappointment.

When disappointment appears, pay attention to why it’s there.
As I analyze my disappointments, I understand that I experienced disappointment to teach me something about myself or others. I have learned to be gentle with myself and forgiving of others. I forgive myself and trust that there will be something positive that will result from every disappointing situation. When you encounter disappointment, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this person or this experience?” Forgive others for bringing disappointments into your life, and then adjust your sails. It’s okay to forgive others, learn from them, and then send them into the sunset. Also ask, “How can I approach things differently in the future?” As you self-reflect, you can learn so much about yourself and others.

Do your expectations set you up for disappointment?
I have very high expectations for the people that want to be part of my personal life or business. I have a very small circle of friends that I trust and that rarely disappoint, but my major disappointments have come from relationships connected to my personal development business. I have learned to be more cognizant about the people that I bring to work with me, because if I bring everybody in I will forever be disappointed. Think about the expectations you have for the people in your business or life. Are they realistic expectations? The expectations you may have of others are reflection of who you are. But it may not be necessarily who they are. For example, if you are a person who honors what you say, you will have a tough time with people who don’t follow through. This expectation is something you have of yourself, but it does not mean others will have this expectation. Pay attention and believe them when they show you who they are. Don’t expect to change them. Change is only possible for those who seek it. Accept them or let them go; it’s your call.

Transform your perspective about disappointments.
Sometimes disappointment is not what you expect it to be. Sometimes disappointment brings better things to your life. Take time to feel the disappointment and surrender it. Believe me when I say that better things are coming for you. When I stumble into disappointments, I realize that another, greater opportunity is waiting around the corner. The disappointment I may be feeling becomes a blessing in my life. Embrace your disappointments and treat them like you would treat love or joy—with open arms. Remember, disappointment is bearing the gift of growth.

Disappointment sucks the joy out of life, in order for true joy can come into your life, treat disappointment as something that you called and can handle in your life. Stop desiring that your life be a certain way and accept everything that comes into our life as something you planned for. The best cure for disappointment is to learn from it, accept it, and embrace it the same way you embrace joy and love. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.

Sending many blessings and love your way!

P.S. My book, Believe. Change. Become.: Remembering Who You Were Destined to Be, has been published. Check it out!